Anonymous wrote:OP here: ok, interesting replies. Seems like most people are in favor of me continuing along with this woman. I wonder if it would be different if I was a woman who was posting about a man?

Is the standard of security lower for men? I really am pretty turned off...

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Anonymous wrote:I would taste the pie first before deciding

The complaint is about STALKING. Why get even more involved with SEX if stalking is the accusation. Seriously?!

Plus 1. Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:I would taste the pie first before deciding

The complaint is about STALKING. Why get even more involved with SEX if stalking is the accusation. Seriously?!

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it unreasonable for women to be more cautious when dating? Women are generally less strong physically, and therefore more vulnerable.

The overwhelming majority of rapists, murderers, and child molesters are men.

I'd still say OP shouldn't go out with the woman again, but I don't think there's anything with being even MORE cautious if he were a woman and the date was a man.

Of course, this is all true. It's just hypocritical how more of the posts are saying to go for it, ignore the posts, etc. and they probably wouldn't be so generous if it were a single mom posting.

It's not "hypocritical," it's paying attention the numbers. If someone has flu-like symptoms in West Africa, the chance of Ebola would be non-negligible and caution woudl be advised. If someone has flu-like sypmptoms in the US, they probably have the flu.

I just went back and skimmed the thread... I found 1 person who was telling him to go out with her again... and I think that person was joking: "

She could be a soulmate. You don't know unless you give it time. "

This whole line of discussion is completely irrelevant. He doesn't have to justify his decision with the statistical likelihood that she is, in fact, a stalker. He's not comfortable, so he gets to end it, just as a woman would. He doesn't *owe* her anything, any more than a woman *owes* it to a "nice guy" to "give him a chance."

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the victim in the hypothetical here? No. You read something on the interwebs and want to break it off. So, break it off. Why act like a victim here? Do you have nothing better to do?

The isawyournanny site is bullshit too.

OP hasn't called himself a victim or portrayed himself a victim in any way. You on the other hand have obviously been victimized. Who posted about YOU online?

Not all of the internet is bullshit and whether you like it or not, people do make decisions based on what they read online. Why else do so many websites like this exist. Is Yelp and the BBB bullshit too? It's just a bunch of angry, cheap customers.... OKOK, rationalize all you want.

Yelp is bullshit. People can pay to have things removed.

Did you miss this post by OP?

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ok, interesting replies. Seems like most people are in favor of me continuing along with this woman. I wonder if it would be different if I was a woman who was posting about a man?

Is the standard of security lower for men? I really am pretty turned off...

He's a victim of sexism.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you the victim in the hypothetical here? No. You read something on the interwebs and want to break it off. So, break it off. Why act like a victim here? Do you have nothing better to do?

The isawyournanny site is bullshit too.

OP hasn't called himself a victim or portrayed himself a victim in any way. You on the other hand have obviously been victimized. Who posted about YOU online?

Not all of the internet is bullshit and whether you like it or not, people do make decisions based on what they read online. Why else do so many websites like this exist. Is Yelp and the BBB bullshit too? It's just a bunch of angry, cheap customers.... OKOK, rationalize all you want.

Anonymous wrote:OP here: ok, interesting replies. Seems like most people are in favor of me continuing along with this woman. I wonder if it would be different if I was a woman who was posting about a man?

Is the standard of security lower for men? I really am pretty turned off...

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it unreasonable for women to be more cautious when dating? Women are generally less strong physically, and therefore more vulnerable.

The overwhelming majority of rapists, murderers, and child molesters are men.

I'd still say OP shouldn't go out with the woman again, but I don't think there's anything with being even MORE cautious if he were a woman and the date was a man.

Of course, this is all true. It's just hypocritical how more of the posts are saying to go for it, ignore the posts, etc. and they probably wouldn't be so generous if it were a single mom posting.

It's not "hypocritical," it's paying attention the numbers. If someone has flu-like symptoms in West Africa, the chance of Ebola would be non-negligible and caution woudl be advised. If someone has flu-like sypmptoms in the US, they probably have the flu.

I just went back and skimmed the thread... I found 1 person who was telling him to go out with her again... and I think that person was joking: "

She could be a soulmate. You don't know unless you give it time. "

This whole line of discussion is completely irrelevant. He doesn't have to justify his decision with the statistical likelihood that she is, in fact, a stalker. He's not comfortable, so he gets to end it, just as a woman would. He doesn't *owe* her anything, any more than a woman *owes* it to a "nice guy" to "give him a chance."

Anonymous wrote:Are you the victim in the hypothetical here? No. You read something on the interwebs and want to break it off. So, break it off. Why act like a victim here? Do you have nothing better to do?

The isawyournanny site is bullshit too.

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Anonymous wrote:Why is it unreasonable for women to be more cautious when dating? Women are generally less strong physically, and therefore more vulnerable.

The overwhelming majority of rapists, murderers, and child molesters are men.

I'd still say OP shouldn't go out with the woman again, but I don't think there's anything with being even MORE cautious if he were a woman and the date was a man.

Of course, this is all true. It's just hypocritical how more of the posts are saying to go for it, ignore the posts, etc. and they probably wouldn't be so generous if it were a single mom posting.

It's not "hypocritical," it's paying attention the numbers. If someone has flu-like symptoms in West Africa, the chance of Ebola would be non-negligible and caution woudl be advised. If someone has flu-like sypmptoms in the US, they probably have the flu.

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All these people saying that you should give her a chance would NEVER give a man a chance if the reverse were the situation.

+1000

And to say give him a chance to a SINGLE mom, yeah right. Bitches be dreamin!

There was a thread on here awhile back. A woman said a man she was dating turned up on one of these sites. I posted the exact same thing then as I did today -- it could be some jerk lying because he or she has an axe to grind. I wouldn't put a lot of stock into these sites.

Link to that thread? It'd be interesting to compare the advice to a woman as opposed to a man.

I'm trying to find it but can't. I tried Googling DC Urban Mom dontdatehimgirl.com (I'm pretty sure that was the site) but it's not coming up.

Were commenters saying she should give him a chance too? Did she post what she decided she would do?