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Anonymous wrote:I don't live in VA, and I'm Asian. But I wouldn't want my kids to go to a school that was 50% Asian for various reasons.

Can you explain?

They're not very good at playing stringed instruments?

Their parents are bad drivers and will hit your kid in the parking lot?

Come on PP, share your "various reasons" aka stereotypes.

I'm the PP you are asking to share my reasons, which I did in the post above. Stereotypes do apply to a segment of a population, whether that stereotype is a negative or a positive opinion, but not necessarily to an individual. For example, we have stereotypes of the Asian tourists or American tourists..because a large portion of the group fit the stereotypes. We have preconceived notions of people by the way they dress, the way they talk and where they shop. Don't be so naive.

As an individual, I try not to judge what you are like by your race as I am more than aware that an individual does not necessarily fit a certain racial stereotype because I certainly don't as an Asian person. But a large group of people with certain commonalities will likely fit into some kind of stereotype.

Asians are already subject to various stereotypes without you basically saying it's ok to have those stereotypes. We should try to minimize racial stereotyping as much as possible. You say you don't want your kid in an excessively competitive academic environment? Guess what? Your kid will have to deal with the real world eventually and deal with all different types of people and environments. There is no magic mixture of X% of this race and Y% of that race. If your kid has to be temporarily assigned to work in China, Korea or Japan for 2 years for example, would you say I do not want my kid working in 99% Asian place because they are too competitive etc.?

You don't generally hear whites say I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% white or blacks saying I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% blacks or Hispanic saying I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% Hispanics etc.

You say you try "not to judge what you are like by your race" but that is exactly what you are doing by saying I do not want my Asian kid to attend a school that is 50% Asian. As you might be aware, Asian can be Pakistani, Indian, Korean, Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese, Pacific islander, Bengali, Thai, Vietnamese etc. They all have different languages, customs and cultures. As an Asian, you should know not to lump all of them as "Asian" you do not want your kid to attend school with. You are ignorant and an Asian Racist against Asians and not a good role model for your kids. It doesn't matter whether the school is 50% Asian, 50% white, 50% Black or whatever. You are a disgrace.

If you want to minimize Asian stereotyping, then you should try not to fit into one. That's what I see a lot of Asian parents do. There are some that do not, but around here, most of them do.

It's better to be exposed to different cultures, races at an early age. That way, when you are older, if you do get assigned to some place in Asia, you're not culture shocked. As an adult, I hope my kids get a chance to go to a foreign country to work. It would be a great opportunity, be it Asia or anywhere else. BTW - Pac Islanders are not considered Asians. When a person in the NoVa area says "Asian", they mean predominately Indian/Chinese/Koreans. There isn't a large number of Thais living in that area.

Actually, my kids are biracial, and I make them my ethnic food, teach them my ethnic language and about my culture, as my DH does for his culture. I also tell them that no one race is better than another... that we are all same and different at the same time. So, I think I'm a great role model for them as a human being. I don't play into my race in any way shape or form.

I'm gonna bet that you wouldn't want your kids to be in a school that was 50% black in real life, especially if you are Asian. Let's be honest. A lot of Asians, especially the recent immigrants, tend to be racist, in all directions.

You are one of those persons who is delusional in thinking you are white because you married a white person and now wants to look down on "Asians" and don't want your kids around too many Asians. Pathetic.

Could have married a black or Hispanic person... Now who is stereotyping and jumping to conclusions?

But you didn't because you would have jumped at the chance to say so but you did not. You wouldn't be saying the stuff you had said if you were married to a black or Hispanic person. You would be sympathetic and empathetic to the plight of minorities. You are even more pathetic trying to come up with a lame excuse 'could have married a black or Hispanic person". You are spitting on your own face and you don't even know it. Just look in the mirror and see if you see a white face.

LOL, bitter much?

Anonymous wrote:OP. Avoid Colin Powell or Greenbriar West and you'll be fine.

Some of the same people who jump on posters like you spend half their time on the AAP forum asking how to get their kids into AAP and TJ. If that's not your scene, you probably wouldn't be happy at Powell or GBW.

My child goes to Colin Powell, it is a great school. Yes, the Korean parents and kid's can be a pain, but there are plenty of wonderful children and families also. My daughter is very happy and has a lot of friends.

Anonymous wrote:We are thinking of moving to Centerville for a better house and looked ES around there. Some schools are good but have 40-50% Asian. Is it a good thing or bad thing? Would my DC have pressure to study hard to not be left behind? Sorry if my question is silly. This is my first child who has not attend school yet. So I really know little about schools and how to analyze schools.

Thanks in advance for any honest answers!

I live in Centreville, and the my children's school has a large Asian population. The Korean kids and their parents are particularly antisocial, they like to stick together. The rest of the Asian kids and families (Indian, Chinese, Filipino) are great! That is the only downside I've found in the school. But hey, my children have made plenty of wonderful friends and so have I with their parents. Don't sweat it, it will be fine.

Asian-American here. I would not want my kids to attend a school that was 50%+ Asian.

When I was growing up, I was one of five Asians in my graduating class. I did graduate at the top of my class and went to Harvard. We lived in a tiny home in a top school district. My parents had a dry cleaners and they drove me to school in an old beat up Hyundai. No one seemed to mind when I was the one of a handful of model minorities who did well. There were plenty of non-Asians also attending top colleges along with the Asians who went on to Harvard, Yale, UPenn, MIT and Columbia. I think it bothers people when there are too many Asians doing well and they may be taking the place of their non-Asian child at acceptance into AAP/TJ or a good college.

I was recently at a play date for my 5yo with a few Asian boys. I walked away from that play date feeling bad that my son was not advanced enough. I never feel that way when we hang out with our white friends. The Asians have a different competitive feel that I personally do not like.

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Its difficult for example, to find a school in this area with even 10% of Jewish Americans that is majority non-white. Except TJ I suppose

Are you suggesting that Jews should not be considered white? Or that they should be considered a white subset, like "Hispanic White"? I do not think most Jews--at least not the ones I know--would want this at all.

I meant that they are a distinct cultural group among whites, such as say Koreans are among asians.

I would suggest that when you consider the the diversity WITHIN the census defined racial groupings, a place that is 50% racial group X is actually more diverse than you give it credit for.

Its difficult for example, to find a school in this area with even 10% of Jewish Americans that is majority non-white. Except TJ I suppose

Are you suggesting that Jews should not be considered white? Or that they should be considered a white subset, like "Hispanic White"? I do not think most Jews--at least not the ones I know--would want this at all.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't live in VA, and I'm Asian. But I wouldn't want my kids to go to a school that was 50% Asian for various reasons.

Can you explain?

They're not very good at playing stringed instruments?

Their parents are bad drivers and will hit your kid in the parking lot?

Come on PP, share your "various reasons" aka stereotypes.

I'm the PP you are asking to share my reasons, which I did in the post above. Stereotypes do apply to a segment of a population, whether that stereotype is a negative or a positive opinion, but not necessarily to an individual. For example, we have stereotypes of the Asian tourists or American tourists..because a large portion of the group fit the stereotypes. We have preconceived notions of people by the way they dress, the way they talk and where they shop. Don't be so naive.

As an individual, I try not to judge what you are like by your race as I am more than aware that an individual does not necessarily fit a certain racial stereotype because I certainly don't as an Asian person. But a large group of people with certain commonalities will likely fit into some kind of stereotype.

Asians are already subject to various stereotypes without you basically saying it's ok to have those stereotypes. We should try to minimize racial stereotyping as much as possible. You say you don't want your kid in an excessively competitive academic environment? Guess what? Your kid will have to deal with the real world eventually and deal with all different types of people and environments. There is no magic mixture of X% of this race and Y% of that race. If your kid has to be temporarily assigned to work in China, Korea or Japan for 2 years for example, would you say I do not want my kid working in 99% Asian place because they are too competitive etc.?

You don't generally hear whites say I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% white or blacks saying I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% blacks or Hispanic saying I don't want my kid attending a school that is 50% Hispanics etc.

You say you try "not to judge what you are like by your race" but that is exactly what you are doing by saying I do not want my Asian kid to attend a school that is 50% Asian. As you might be aware, Asian can be Pakistani, Indian, Korean, Chinese, Taiwanese, Japanese, Pacific islander, Bengali, Thai, Vietnamese etc. They all have different languages, customs and cultures. As an Asian, you should know not to lump all of them as "Asian" you do not want your kid to attend school with. You are ignorant and an Asian Racist against Asians and not a good role model for your kids. It doesn't matter whether the school is 50% Asian, 50% white, 50% Black or whatever. You are a disgrace.

If you want to minimize Asian stereotyping, then you should try not to fit into one. That's what I see a lot of Asian parents do. There are some that do not, but around here, most of them do.

It's better to be exposed to different cultures, races at an early age. That way, when you are older, if you do get assigned to some place in Asia, you're not culture shocked. As an adult, I hope my kids get a chance to go to a foreign country to work. It would be a great opportunity, be it Asia or anywhere else. BTW - Pac Islanders are not considered Asians. When a person in the NoVa area says "Asian", they mean predominately Indian/Chinese/Koreans. There isn't a large number of Thais living in that area.

Actually, my kids are biracial, and I make them my ethnic food, teach them my ethnic language and about my culture, as my DH does for his culture. I also tell them that no one race is better than another... that we are all same and different at the same time. So, I think I'm a great role model for them as a human being. I don't play into my race in any way shape or form.

I'm gonna bet that you wouldn't want your kids to be in a school that was 50% black in real life, especially if you are Asian. Let's be honest. A lot of Asians, especially the recent immigrants, tend to be racist, in all directions.

You are one of those persons who is delusional in thinking you are white because you married a white person and now wants to look down on "Asians" and don't want your kids around too many Asians. Pathetic.

Could have married a black or Hispanic person... Now who is stereotyping and jumping to conclusions?

But you didn't because you would have jumped at the chance to say so but you did not. You wouldn't be saying the stuff you had said if you were married to a black or Hispanic person. You would be sympathetic and empathetic to the plight of minorities. You are even more pathetic trying to come up with a lame excuse 'could have married a black or Hispanic person". You are spitting on your own face and you don't even know it. Just look in the mirror and see if you see a white face.

Why would I mention my DH's ethnicity. It's not germane to the point.

"American" is not defined by race. I'm "one of those Asians" that is an American by nationality. Yep.. I identify myself as an American. Does that offend you? I've had some Asian people tell me I'm a disgrace to my heritage because I identify myself as an American, and I don't speak the language 100% to my other Asian friends or family. Does that make a wanna-be white person? Does it make a Hispanic a wanna-be white person if they don't speak Spanish and want their kids to have a mix of friends rather than just Hispanic? You can embrace diversity and honor your heritage at the same time. If you don't know how to do this, then I feel sorry for you.

I don't care what race of kids my kids hang out with as long as they are good people. But I would prefer they have a mix of friends, sure. If we live around where there was only one race, it would make sense they would have friends of only that persuasion. I lived in a neighborhood like that and moved to the area we live in now because both DH and I preferred our kids be exposed to different races. And you are a fool to assume anything about my life or my friends. My closest, oldest friends are Asian. And they are like me... they have friends of all persuasion. If that's not important to you, then fine. I wasn't directing my opinions to you. They were directed to OP.

I look at my face everyday and see where I came from, thanks. I see the Asian features in my children, along with my DH's features, and they are beautiful and proud of who they are.

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I would prefer a good mix of ethnicities. That's my ideal. They have this now in a school in MoCo. About 50% white, 25% Asian, approx 10% black and 10% Hispanic, and some FARMS kids. To me, this is a good mix. I want my kids to be exposed to human differences from an early age.

Oh my...you do realize that this 'diverse' breakdown of yours conveniently leaves 50% of the pop white which is 100% larger than the next sized group. Too many people who congratulate themselves for seeking diversity really want to comfortably stay in the majority and just have a few friends from other races.

OTOH to a white person the differences among say, appalachian origin anglo-saxons, Irish Americans, and Jews may be significant enough that 50% white doesn't quite feel like being a majority. OTOH to an Asian American the differences among Korean Americans, Chinese Americans, and Viet Nameses Americans may matter more.

Its difficult for example, to find a school in this area with even 10% of Jewish Americans that is majority non-white. Except TJ I suppose.