Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 22:01     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:So two years later, you've forgiven the man who broke his vow to you while you were pregnant with his child. And now you're enraged at some woman you just found out is pregnant. You have enough forgiveness for your cheating husband, but two years later you want to make this woman miserable.

OP, you need some therapy.


OP has forgiven her cheating husband because they have both done enormously painful work to save their marriage. Leaving a marriage after infidelity is much easier than staying, so those who advocate divorce can only speak for themselves. OP has never had a chance to process her anger or confront her friend. This was not an anonymous stranger, but her best friend. There's no slut shaming about holding someone responsible for her actions. OP's husband has taken responsibility for his part or they wouldn't still be together (I hope). OP, do what you can to find closure. You deserve it. But I agree that your ex-friend is unwell and will not behave in a way that satisfies you or brings you peace. My DH also had an affair while I was pregnant. I still can't look at pictures of my pregnancy or my child's early years (yes, it went on for years). Sometimes I fantasize about confronting the OW, but I know in my heart that it will make no difference. She will never be truly happy. And believe it or not, I am. Most of the time anyway. Besides, my husband and I have enough work to do without adding to the pain.


You worked through the emotional toll of an affair that went on for years, while you were pregnant and had a young child???? What ended it -- she dumped him? How could you possibly stand a person who would do a thing like that to you, or believe it possible for the kind of change it would take on his part to be worth that? I'm sorry for what you went through but I'm not buying that your husband has "worked through" what made him do that to you, for years on end.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 21:57     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:So two years later, you've forgiven the man who broke his vow to you while you were pregnant with his child. And now you're enraged at some woman you just found out is pregnant. You have enough forgiveness for your cheating husband, but two years later you want to make this woman miserable.

OP, you need some therapy.


OP has forgiven her cheating husband because they have both done enormously painful work to save their marriage. Leaving a marriage after infidelity is much easier than staying, so those who advocate divorce can only speak for themselves. OP has never had a chance to process her anger or confront her friend. This was not an anonymous stranger, but her best friend. There's no slut shaming about holding someone responsible for her actions. OP's husband has taken responsibility for his part or they wouldn't still be together (I hope). OP, do what you can to find closure. You deserve it. But I agree that your ex-friend is unwell and will not behave in a way that satisfies you or brings you peace. My DH also had an affair while I was pregnant. I still can't look at pictures of my pregnancy or my child's early years (yes, it went on for years). Sometimes I fantasize about confronting the OW, but I know in my heart that it will make no difference. She will never be truly happy. And believe it or not, I am. Most of the time anyway. Besides, my husband and I have enough work to do without adding to the pain.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 21:42     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Because it won't help.

Hand write her a letter. Tell her EVERYTHING. Then either burn it, shred it, or rip it up into tiny pieces.


+1

Do not actually give her a moment of your time. I can't believe you forgave your Dh for that. I would have divorced him Or maybe gone ballistic on his butt and ended up in prison, but I sure as HECK wouldn't still be in the same room with him.


This
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 21:41     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.





Say it again.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 21:39     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.


I don't get it. Is this missing a word?


Me neither.


Horrible attempt, but I think PP is saying people stay the same even when environments change.

Better put: You can take a fool out the ghetto but you can't take the ghetto out of a fool.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 21:34     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:What would Jesus do?


White Jesus or Brown Jesus?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 20:53     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant

I don't understand, OP.
At first I thought her baby's father was your husband.

Why so much anger against the other woman, when the real criminal is your husband? Don't even think about the other woman. She is pregnant, great. Hope that she has a wonderful life.

And work on communication with your husband.
It took YEARS for my husband and I to work things through. My oldest has special needs. My life at times has been hell. Am I going to blame someone else? No. I try living through one day at a time.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 20:46     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.


I don't get it. Is this missing a word?


Me neither.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 20:40     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:Anyone who uses "shit" and "skank" in the same post is a hood rat or white trash.


I think the more likely answer is a troll.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 20:32     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anyone who uses "shit" and "skank" in the same post is a hood rat or white trash.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 14:01     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Nobody cares.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 13:47     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:You can take the hood rat out of the hood but you can't take the hood rat out of the hood.


I don't get it. Is this missing a word?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 13:14     Subject: Re:I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:The skank is your husband, and the moron is the woman didn't divorce him.

Hang on, because you have quite a wild ride in front of you. He will do it again.


Oh for the love of the lord, ignore these DIVORCE posters. Good for you for making efforts to reconcile your marriage. Your husband is human, he made a mistake and you deserve credit for keeping your family intact.



I'm sorry, cheating on your pregnant wife is not a "mistake" it's a deliberate betrayal.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 11:46     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Assuming she is not keeping in contact with your husband, she is probably not thinking about you at all. It seems like she has moved on with her life. It has been two years and she is most likely overjoyed with her first pregnancy. She will probably be a good mother too. If you were to go by your reasoning then your husband would be a terrible father too. Is he?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2014 11:25     Subject: I want to talk shit to the pregnant skank (her boyfriend) my DH had sex with when I was pregnant
Anonymous wrote:I completely understand your residual anger OP. If I were in your shoes, I would feel exactly the same way toward her.

What she did to you during what should have been one of the happiest times of your life is truly despicable AND unforgivable.

But if it make you feel any better, trust that in this life, what goes around ALWAYS DOES COME AROUND. ALWAYS. Karma is truly a beautiful thing and it does not discriminate nor does it ever forget.

Let it take care of her and do its job.


Karma is not "cosmic revenge," or a system of rewards and punishments assigned by a supernatural, omniscient ruling power to a soul that has done good or evil. Karma is a universal law that dictates that everything we do and say will have a cause and effect - EVERYTHING. So the lascivious actions of the infamous "pregnant skank" may very well have consequences, or bad karma, but that is not the totality of her life. Two days ago she could have given a homeless man a twenty dollar bill and subsequently created good karma for herself. EVERYTHING is involved when it comes to karma. It is a system of check and balances and the belief that rewards and punishments are doled out based on our past behaviors - ALL our past behaviors, not just the ones that the OP cannot seem to forgive or forget.