All I'm saying is what women do and what they say are not generally in sync.

For instance, what's the "next level" with guy 1? Physical intimacy? Because if that's a yes, then guy 2 and guy 3 already had a taste of "next level" before the guy you supposedly like.

Now, you can deny till the end of time to guy 1 any of this stuff, should you two become exclusive, but you will know (and we will know, arbitrarily and anecdotally) that you are not truthful with him. Any time he brings up a story to another male, friend or boy growing up, that women fuck guys arbitrarily but hold out for the ones they like, you best stay quiet and not argue that as a lie.

Anonymous wrote:If Guy 1 was so great, why didn't OP reduce the potential drama and ditch Guys 2 and 3 to focus on Guy 1?

OP, you're ready for the appearance of settling down, not the reality.

OMG seriously? Because they're JUST DATING. In the age of internet dating, it is NORMAL for people to be corresponding/meeting/dating multiple people, and to become exclusive only when both parties are on board. As someone mentioned, it is feast or famine when you're dating, and OP said she'd been in a long dry spell. It's foolish to shut down all your options prematurely. More power to anyone who's having fun while they're dating; so many of us find dating to be painful and frustrating.

I agree that now it sounds like she's realized that she prefers Guy 1, so hopefully he's on board with taking their relationship to the next level.

GL, OP.

If Guy 1 was so great, why didn't OP reduce the potential drama and ditch Guys 2 and 3 to focus on Guy 1?

OP, you're ready for the appearance of settling down, not the reality.

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Anonymous wrote:This post is a great example of double standards.

If a guy posted and said the same as Op about a few girls, he would be stoned and called all kinds of names.

Are you kidding me? It's the opposite. The attitude toward OP is that she is getting what she deserves, is behaving like a slut, etc...a man might be considered a horndog and not LTR material but thee probably wouldn't be as much disdain directed toward him.

No, it *is* a double standard. If the gender roles were reversed for the OP and 3 potentials, HE would be taking a ton of shit for sleeping with 2 and 3, but just taking number 1 out.

"Yeah. I fucked her. That's right. I *fucked* her. I make love to you." – (paraphrased) Eddie Murphy

Anonymous wrote:I am a very classy, innocent lady in public and you would never guess how much of a slut I am behind closed doors. I think both my husband and I lucked out. He is charming and a " regular" guy in public but can be such a Dom in the bedroom. I give all my unmarried friends the advice of either being or marrying someone who isn't afraid to shed ther public image and can be as open and dirty with you in the bedroom. That's my take on it.

http://youtu.be/8oVaUn5tfhw

I am a very classy, innocent lady in public and you would never guess how much of a slut I am behind closed doors. I think both my husband and I lucked out. He is charming and a " regular" guy in public but can be such a Dom in the bedroom. I give all my unmarried friends the advice of either being or marrying someone who isn't afraid to shed ther public image and can be as open and dirty with you in the bedroom. That's my take on it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am male and think that guys who believe "there's the woman you have sex with and the woman you marry" are idiots. Those "two women" should actually be one person, but many dummies don't know that.

Sorry, but if you honestly believe those two SHOULD be one in the same, 1) you're missing out 2) you're gonna get burned and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

So... I shouldn't want ONE woman to be both "a classy lady" and the right time and "a dirty whore" at the other right times?
Because if your answer is no, you suggest I need to marry a classy lady and bang a dirty whore on the side.

You are the epitome of this very stupidity.

My wife is both and I am perfectly happy with that. And I would like to think that she feels I am the regular professional guy on one hand, but can be a total caveman in the bedroom when need be.

Exactly. Being both is the perfect marrying choice.

Did I miss something? OP is single and not in an exclusive relationship. Guy 1 saw OP out on a date with Guy 2. Was there more? Guy 1 doesn't need to know anything about her history with Guy 2. He now knows she is dating other people in addition to him, which he may also be doing. His options are to stop dating her or continue dating her.

Anyone who thinks there is high drama or horrible behavior in this situation obviously hasn't been dating recently. This is a perfectly ordinary, if slightly awkward, situation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am male and think that guys who believe "there's the woman you have sex with and the woman you marry" are idiots. Those "two women" should actually be one person, but many dummies don't know that.

Sorry, but if you honestly believe those two SHOULD be one in the same, 1) you're missing out 2) you're gonna get burned and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

So... I shouldn't want ONE woman to be both "a classy lady" and the right time and "a dirty whore" at the other right times?
Because if your answer is no, you suggest I need to marry a classy lady and bang a dirty whore on the side.

You are the epitome of this very stupidity.

My wife is both and I am perfectly happy with that. And I would like to think that she feels I am the regular professional guy on one hand, but can be a total caveman in the bedroom when need be.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am male and think that guys who believe "there's the woman you have sex with and the woman you marry" are idiots. Those "two women" should actually be one person, but many dummies don't know that.

Sorry, but if you honestly believe those two SHOULD be one in the same, 1) you're missing out 2) you're gonna get burned and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

So... I shouldn't want ONE woman to be both "a classy lady" and the right time and "a dirty whore" at the other right times?
Because if your answer is no, you suggest I need to marry a classy lady and bang a dirty whore on the side.

You are the epitome of this very stupidity.

Anonymous wrote:I am male and think that guys who believe "there's the woman you have sex with and the woman you marry" are idiots. Those "two women" should actually be one person, but many dummies don't know that.

Sorry, but if you honestly believe those two SHOULD be one in the same, 1) you're missing out 2) you're gonna get burned and you'll have no one to blame but yourself.

Anonymous wrote:This post is a great example of double standards.

If a guy posted and said the same as Op about a few girls, he would be stoned and called all kinds of names.

Are you kidding me? It's the opposite. The attitude toward OP is that she is getting what she deserves, is behaving like a slut, etc...a man might be considered a horndog and not LTR material but thee probably wouldn't be as much disdain directed toward him.

Anonymous wrote:Was this whole thread orchestrated so our misogynist poster could ramble on and on..and on about alphas and betas?

Get some new material, bro.

I think the OP is a troll who wanted to push buttons. On another note, there is some truth to people waiting if they find someone with LT potential. This happened with my SO. Was concerned that if I moved too fast, things would mess up and I didn't want to take the risk.

Was this whole thread orchestrated so our misogynist poster could ramble on and on..and on about alphas and betas?

Get some new material, bro.

So what happened, OP???!