My ex-wife had that fantasy. She let it bud and grow and then expressed it to the guy. He returned the sentiment. They had sex, he went back to his wife, and I divorced her. Everything seems right until your life aligns with that person. That's when you find out that "everything being right and natural" is just a fantasy. Friction is a part of relationships. No doubt your kids are probably the most important and cherished things in the world to you. Yet, you experience moments when things don't feel right with them: frustration, anger, sadness, unappreciated, etc. You babysit someone's angelic child and all is right with the world. But, you know that if it was really your kid then there would be days when you'd feel that friction I mentioned. What makes you think a relationship with an adult would be any different?

I would personally not be at all attracted to a man who had so much time to hang out with his daughter and her friends all day, don't you work at all? I prefer powerful men with busy lives and successful careers, which it sounds - from all the time you have to be hanging around with this woman and her daughter - like you do not have. Are you a stay-at-home dad attracted to a similarly-situated stay-at-home mom? If so, you might be feeling this attraction because you are emasculated by a successful, working spouse who goes out and supports the family while you play with your crush. Appreciate that you have a good and understanding wife to support you and your daughter!

Keep this fantasy in your head an don't let it creep in to real life. If it goes for real, the consequences could be ugly for everyone involved.

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you a man or a woman?

OP is a Dad as he stated earlier in this thread. Are you a woman with too much time on your hands?

Does it matter?

OP, are you a man or a woman?

I know how a few of you feel. My dd's friends mother has become my closest friend. I often think we would be a great couple. She's just the best but we also don't have any of the day to day stresses of marriage. I think about her often, though

OP here. Will let the fantasy be just that. Pretty sure the reality would not be as hoped. Like above I kind of enjoy the crush.

No advice but I can relate. I have feelings for one of the Dads my daughter is friends with. I just love hanging out with him. My marriage is pretty ho hum so I can't say I haven't thought about acting on it.

OP, enjoy the fantasy. It makes you feel good and its fun to think about. But don't act on it - that way lies ruin.

Anonymous wrote:This is funny, I have the same feelings for a dad of my daughter's friend. I never intend to act on it, but it's kind of fun to have a little crush on someone and to suspect that they feel the same way. I am friends with his wife and I have no desire to cheat on my husband, it's just a nice little mental diversion sometimes.

Ha! We might know each other.

This is funny, I have the same feelings for a dad of my daughter's friend. I never intend to act on it, but it's kind of fun to have a little crush on someone and to suspect that they feel the same way. I am friends with his wife and I have no desire to cheat on my husband, it's just a nice little mental diversion sometimes.

Anonymous wrote:How are you spending so much time with the girl's mom? Cut it back. Restructure things do you're not alone with this woman.

Some people are naturally easy to get along with. Don't misconstrue that for something that could ruin so many lives.

My husband seems super easy to get along with, and when he got depressed, he was a monster to me. Meanwhile to the casual observer, he seemed "so nice".

All you got going here, OP, if you are real, and somehow I doubt it, is lack of actual information.

How are you spending so much time with the girl's mom? Cut it back. Restructure things do you're not alone with this woman.

Some people are naturally easy to get along with. Don't misconstrue that for something that could ruin so many lives.

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best way to resist temptation is to take yourself away from it (and I strongly suggest it - think of all the practical realities of a divorce - kids, money, stress, your wife etc.). Stop hanging out, as much as that will suck for your daughter.

And while you're doing that, ask yourself if you can focus any of that energy back on your wife. Only will this make it just a crush/infatuation. Otherwise, it's a life-ruiner. We all fantasize about others upon occasion. Normal.

Excellent advice.