Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 12:13     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
I've actually been known to use the word trashy, on DCUM and otherwise, but don't really get its use here.

Impractical? yes.
Trashy? no.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 12:12     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
I don't know if it's trashy but I just didn't see the point. I did to grow up with this (child of immigrants) so maybe I just didn't get it, but I didn't see the point in introducing sugar just because she was one and making a colossal mess I had to clean up. We had a family party, adults had cake, baby had applesauce cake (which she hated), and we all enjoyed.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 11:32     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Anonymous wrote:no trashy is parents who dress their little girls in ridiculous outfits and an oversized toto on their first birthday. When did this get to be the norm and considered "cute"


should have been tutu
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 11:32     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
no trashy is parents who dress their little girls in ridiculous outfits and an oversized toto on their first birthday. When did this get to be the norm and considered "cute"
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 11:32     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Anonymous wrote:I am not fond of this practice and didn't do it for DD's first birthday. We helped her blow out her candles and she got the first piece of her birthday cake - just like every subsequent year - and shared her cake with her guests (which is the point of birthday cake in the first place). I don't like seeing a blatant and planned waste of food and I like the original concept of a shared birthday wish so much more than a separate "stunt cake" for the baby. DD ate her first piece of birthday cake and we have cute photographs to remember the messy moment.

I loathe seeing a bride and groom smash wedding cake into each other's faces, too.

I don't think the practice of giving a one-year-old a cake to smash up is "trashy" - just so common and unnecessary.



I do love the original idea that a birthday cake or wedding cake is the shared sweetness and shared wishes of all the assembled guests. Which is one of the two reasons I never turn down birthday or wedding cake (the other being that I love cake!) I want to share their happiness. You're right - a "stunt cake" defeats the purpose.

Thanks - DS is only 9 months old but in three months I will make sure to give him the first piece of his birthday cake and share the rest with his friends and family.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 11:26     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Anonymous wrote:
DC1 didn't enjoy his cupcake, DC2 did.



same here. My second kid, who is a peanut, devoured almost the entire cupcake.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 11:15     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
I am not fond of this practice and didn't do it for DD's first birthday. We helped her blow out her candles and she got the first piece of her birthday cake - just like every subsequent year - and shared her cake with her guests (which is the point of birthday cake in the first place). I don't like seeing a blatant and planned waste of food and I like the original concept of a shared birthday wish so much more than a separate "stunt cake" for the baby. DD ate her first piece of birthday cake and we have cute photographs to remember the messy moment.

I loathe seeing a bride and groom smash wedding cake into each other's faces, too.

I don't think the practice of giving a one-year-old a cake to smash up is "trashy" - just so common and unnecessary.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:49     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
thanks for the laughs this morning, all these years I had no idea cake was sooo trashy. hahaha!
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:33     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
I got a cake that was from our favorite bakery growing up so it was kind of sentimental for the whole family to enjoy. I just cut a tiny slice for my one year old and let her feed herself. She was messy but not smearing it everywhere or ruining the whole cake for everyone. She loved it and we all got to enjoy the cake as well. Win-win!
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:30     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
This is the pp. I was kidding, of course. Just realized that someone might take me seriously on DCUM.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:27     Subject: Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Trashy? TRASHY??? A baby getting messy with a cake is TRASHY???


Everything is trashy, on DCUM. E.v.e.r.y.t.h.i.n.g. (including using periods for emphasis).


I find your excessive use of punctuation trashy.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:20     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
I'd like to add that while I think the "selfie culture" is out there and annoying, I think most people give their kids some form of cake on their birthday, most people aren't doing these things solely for social media. My group of friends are the antithesis of crafty- we ALL suck at it and lament that our poor kids are screwed because of it- I haven't even bothered to go on pinterest, yet I've seen plenty of 1 year olds mangle a cupcake or cake or cookie or whatever on their birthdays.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:16     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Anonymous wrote:I feel kind of sad for you OP. I imagine you find ways to suck the joy out of most things.


+1
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:16     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
Oh dear lord. This is not new. I have seen a photo of my own mother- so nearly 60 years ago, feeding herself her 1st birthday cake. I think it was probably just a piece of the bigger cake (hard to tell in old photo) that the family was eating, but yes it was all smooshed around her face and hands. I doubt my grandmother made a separate cake for this, but that's probably because with a huge extended family, she had to make more than one cake already!

I don't get why this gets people so riled up. Its food, kids are messy eaters, and like most foods, they get "over it" pretty quickly after having their fill.
Anonymous
Post 07/15/2014 09:14     Subject: Re:Cake for 1 year old... Trashy?
How stupid to call it trashy....I had a small "baby-sized" cake for my 1 yr old's birthday party for him to dig into, and then a separate larger cake for the guests. There was nothing trashy about it.