I think the anti-daycare lady is being pretty active on this post and perhaps a few nanny-only posters as well.

Not all daycares are the same. The fact that this lady couldn't figure out how to get your kid down for a nap and is throwing in the towel after 5 days doesn't mean your kid is fundamentally incompatible with daycare. Try another place. Perhaps a smaller in-home provider with more kids your baby's age. If that doesn't work, try a center - there's one in my neighborhood with a fantastic mini-gym for crawlers in the back of the room. I bet your 8 month old would love something like that and probably tire herself out for nap time no problem. Good luck OP!

Where are you OP? I know a fabulous, loving in-home provider in Silver Spring who has an opening. My DC went there.

OP: Reading your follow-up, I second my earlier post that you should be glad to be out of there. Good luck finding a better situation. There's pretty wide variation in home daycares, and you might be able to find another one. Or, nanny for awhile until your baby is more of a toddler, and then there will likely be more spots.

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine putting my baby through that. This is why DH and I made sure one of us was going to be staying home with our kids as babies and toddlers.

You can't get this time back and you're likely the best person/people for them at that age. No salary can compare to that time.

Oh shut up!

Anonymous wrote:OP, ignore the haters.

Find another daycare-I would go with a bigger daycare center where they see lots of different temperaments of babies. All daycares do not work for all babies.
Be glad this lady told you it wasn't working out-way better for everyone in the long run. You don't want to be leaving your baby with someone who is angry and resentful that your child is "too much work".

The "haters" are just being honest.

OP, ignore the haters.

Find another daycare-I would go with a bigger daycare center where they see lots of different temperaments of babies. All daycares do not work for all babies.
Be glad this lady told you it wasn't working out-way better for everyone in the long run. You don't want to be leaving your baby with someone who is angry and resentful that your child is "too much work".

I think the provider realized she couldn't meet those needs so she let her go? What else should she do? Forcing her wouldn't result in anything good, and mom would be offended to find out the daycare lady left her kid wailing. I really don't know what this provider could have done differently beyond like, being a different person.

Exactly. Would it have been better to just let the baby cry?

OP, your daycare provider realized early on this wasn't going to work. Good for her. Too many don't, or won't admit it. Now you move on. Now you know to ask how long they usually allow for transitioning, and what steps they will take to help it along.

Also, unless you are going to have a nanny, your baby needs to learn to settle herself to sleep. Things will go much easier for her at daycare. Not many providers will be able to devote that time just to her.

This one wasn't a good match. Keep looking.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid isn't the only kid in her care. You are self centered, and you've led your child to believe the world revolves around her. Until you and she realize that, any kind of care that isn't devoted completely to her needs and whims is going to be difficult. This provider decided it was too much for her, and I really can't fault her.

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Wow, you guys are unstable. The baby is 9 months old, so, yes, the world does revolve around baby. As it should.

Lordy.

Not at daycare with other kids. If mom feels that her child should be the center of attention then she should hire a nanny or stay home.

This is so screwed up and sad.

How is this sad? How is one baby supposed to be the center of attention when the daycare lady has other children to care for?

It's sad that the baby's needs won't be met. There shouldn't be child care options that don't meet the needs of the babies they care for. Very sad.

I think the provider realized she couldn't meet those needs so she let her go? What else should she do? Forcing her wouldn't result in anything good, and mom would be offended to find out the daycare lady left her kid wailing. I really don't know what this provider could have done differently beyond like, being a different person.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid isn't the only kid in her care. You are self centered, and you've led your child to believe the world revolves around her. Until you and she realize that, any kind of care that isn't devoted completely to her needs and whims is going to be difficult. This provider decided it was too much for her, and I really can't fault her.

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Wow, you guys are unstable. The baby is 9 months old, so, yes, the world does revolve around baby. As it should.

Lordy.

Not at daycare with other kids. If mom feels that her child should be the center of attention then she should hire a nanny or stay home.

This is so screwed up and sad.

How is this sad? How is one baby supposed to be the center of attention when the daycare lady has other children to care for?

It's sad that the baby's needs won't be met. There shouldn't be child care options that don't meet the needs of the babies they care for. Very sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid isn't the only kid in her care. You are self centered, and you've led your child to believe the world revolves around her. Until you and she realize that, any kind of care that isn't devoted completely to her needs and whims is going to be difficult. This provider decided it was too much for her, and I really can't fault her.

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Wow, you guys are unstable. The baby is 9 months old, so, yes, the world does revolve around baby. As it should.

Lordy.

Not at daycare with other kids. If mom feels that her child should be the center of attention then she should hire a nanny or stay home.

This is so screwed up and sad.

How is this sad? How is one baby supposed to be the center of attention when the daycare lady has other children to care for?

OP, are they new to daycare? A lot of people think starting an in-home day care is a great idea and don't realize that it's a job. It's hard work, and takes all of your time and attention, especially in the beginning. I can't imagine anyone experienced in child care giving up on the situation after only 5 days. I also don't think it's too much to ask that your baby be rocked to sleep for ten minutes, at least until she is used to the new situation.

Good riddance to the retired vegetarian nurse!

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Anonymous wrote:Your kid isn't the only kid in her care. You are self centered, and you've led your child to believe the world revolves around her. Until you and she realize that, any kind of care that isn't devoted completely to her needs and whims is going to be difficult. This provider decided it was too much for her, and I really can't fault her.

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Wow, you guys are unstable. The baby is 9 months old, so, yes, the world does revolve around baby. As it should.

Lordy.

Not at daycare with other kids. If mom feels that her child should be the center of attention then she should hire a nanny or stay home.

This is so screwed up and sad.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine putting my baby through that. This is why DH and I made sure one of us was going to be staying home with our kids as babies and toddlers.

You can't get this time back and you're likely the best person/people for them at that age. No salary can compare to that time.

Yet other people feel it is far, far more critical for a parent to be present during the tumultuous pre-teen and teen years as a sounding board, to offer sage advice, and so on. Also, just to point it out, your kids will remember that attention but will remember nothing of what you did for them as babies.

Of course quality childcare is important, you want a caregiver who loves your child, but please don't derail this into some absurd guilt trip. Kids are always growing and always changing and you simply cannot be present for all of it. Period. That's okay! Your kids will still love you!

Of course they won't remember it. But that doesn't mean that everything that comes after isn't built on it. Baby years are the foundation for the childhood years, which are the foundation for the teen years, etc.

Good luck staying home for your teens and trying to bond and get to know them at that late stage of the game.

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Wow, you guys are unstable. The baby is 9 months old, so, yes, the world does revolve around baby. As it should.

Lordy.

Not at daycare with other kids. If mom feels that her child should be the center of attention then she should hire a nanny or stay home.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be rocking the kid. Why did you let that habit develop?

That's right, you need to only interact with the kid every 3 hours.

What are you talking about?
I was a sahm but never rocked my kids.