As the mom of a child with ADHD that has at times been difficult to control, I can understand how that child's presence affects the time you spend with your children. It is hard, if not impossible, to make time with your kids special for the non-SN kids because the focus is always on the needs of your SN child. Your activities are dictated by what your SN child can handle. The time you spend doing things is dictated by your SN child. Whether you can finish the activities you start is dictated by the needs of your SN child. To have time that revolves around your other kids, you may not have an option other than "exclude" your SN child. I think this is perfectly acceptable and I also think it's particularly wonderful that this father recognizes that he needs time alone with his older girls in order to make their time together about them. I hope he takes this opportunity.

Anonymous wrote:The problem is not parents going on a vacation without the kids, the problem is the entire family except one child going to arguably the number one desired destination of kids.