When they start feeling uncomfortable. For one child, this was 5th grade. For the other, it was 6th.

Mine started wearing them in 6th to change for PE in a locker room despite being completely flat chested. Didn’t actually “need” it until end of 7th.

My daughter reluctantly started wearing one in the middle of 6th grade.

My dd started in third grade with these:

https://www.nordstrom.com/s/kids-seamless-bralette-big-kid/3297346?origin=keywordsearch-personalizedsort&breadcrumb=Home%2FAll%20Results&color=681

Anonymous wrote:This is not something you should crowd source online. Use your eyeballs to see what's going on and listen to your child. It will very much depend on school culture, which you should pay attention to because kids want to fit in, whatever the local trend is.

I sometimes wonder if threads like these are started by perverts who get off on anecdotes

I wonder about that too. But at the same time, there are always PPs who have trouble with the idea that girls younger than 13 might need "grown up" stuff like bras, deodorant, period products, sex ed, acne wash, etc. (And a lot of us grew up in households that just flat didn't talk about this stuff.) So I can see the utility of using a forum to gut-check your sensible reaction to what's happening at home.

we have made bralettes and camis available - tried some and i think from an earlier post on this website the rec for the hanna andersson bralettes was spot on. DD10 doesn't wear them daily but tries them on sometimes and knows they are there.

We feel she will "need" them when she "wants" them as others have said.

Anonymous wrote:DD started wearing the Maidenform girls bra at 10 / 5th grade, for modesty coverage. Some of her friends have been wearing sports bras for a year or so, but she didn't like the compression feel.

I agree about not liking that compression tight feeling. I hate bras and socks and didn’t wear them in college. I was only a 32a bra size which is about what my 12 year old is now or maybe double A. There’s no support needed at this size so it’s more about coverage under clothing that needs it.

This is not something you should crowd source online. Use your eyeballs to see what's going on and listen to your child. It will very much depend on school culture, which you should pay attention to because kids want to fit in, whatever the local trend is.

I sometimes wonder if threads like these are started by perverts who get off on anecdotes

My daughter wanted one when her nipples started protruding. She felt self-conscious. This was around age 10.

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Anonymous wrote:As soon as you notice a difference when they are wearing a shirt. When I see girls that need them but are not wearing them I think what are the parents waiting for. Help your daughters.

That is sad. No young girl needs to wear a bra, until they want one. I’m sorry breast buds offend you

The 4th graders at my daughter’s school wear them.

Anonymous wrote:My DD chose to start wearing one in 5th (despite not needing one yet). I left it up to her.

+1 in the fall she wasn’t interested so I just washed the bras I bought and put them in her drawer near her shirt. One day in the spring she just started wearing them on her own. I immediately could tell bc it looked better and smoother.

My DD chose to start wearing one in 5th (despite not needing one yet). I left it up to her.

My 12 yo has a lot of sensory stuff and I am encouraging her to try on different bras, but it will be a process to get her receptive to the idea. She is a toothpick but just started getting breast buds this spring. My 10 yo doesn’t wear one yet either (also a toothpick) but I’m guessing she will want to start wearing them next summer after she notices enough of her friends wearing them and to wear at sleepaway camp. We have never lived some place where the kids change for Pe and we have been in private and public schools in different states. I also started wearing a bra in middle school. I don’t think I hit 34A till senior year, so they are like me.