Anonymous wrote:I don't know about OP, but we leave our doors unlocked pretty much all the time during daylight hours, as do our neighbors. We feel safe in our neighborhood. I don't think the world around me is a terrifying place and that I have to erect barriers against. Locking the door behind me implies that I assume someone will follow me in.

(I used to live in a big city and locked my doors all the time because there actually was a good chance that someone might follow me in - we had homeless people who would sleep on our fire escapes and sleep in the hallways whenever a drunk person wouldn't notice them coming in.)

I usually will think to lock the doors if I am going to be asleep or will be taking a shower, but I don't always. It's not a big deal. The miniscule risk that there would be a daytime home invasion is one I am happy to accept if it means not living in a constant state of mental siege and fear.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be surprised if family just came barging in but I'd never ask them to leave - especially parents or in-laws.

You will learn the hard way that everyone needs help at certain times and undermining relationships by thoughtless and rude actions will result in a price to be paid in the future. For most people, the only sure support that one can count on when the chips are down is one's family.

As others said, there were a dozen ways to handle a situation like this without being as offensive as you were. I don't know how close your husband is to his parents but if he is close, this may come to haunt you down the line.

It is neither thoughtless nor rude to tell people who have not only ARRIVED UNINVITED but LET THEMSELVES INTO THE HOUSE that now is not a good time and that they need to come back another time. What planet are you from?!?!? She woke up from a nap to find people in her home! The thoughtless, rude people are her in-laws. They should be mortified by their behavior.

You should be mortified by your stupidity.

There is not a single person who is arguing that people have the right to arrive uninvited or to let themselves into the house. What some people are saying is that there are different ways to deal with these things. You don't make a confrontation about everything and you don't burn bridges especially with your husband's parents and in the process risk alienating your husband.

You inability to comprehend simple English is quite stunning but your willingness to polarize a situation that can be handled differently is not in doubt.

If you are married, with your attitude I feel sorry for your husband ....... if you are divorced, it is obvious why that would have happened and if you are single, you would save a lot of people grief by not getting married.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'd be surprised if family just came barging in but I'd never ask them to leave - especially parents or in-laws.
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You should be mortified by your stupidity.

There is not a single person who is arguing that people have the right to arrive uninvited or to let themselves into the house. What some people are saying is that there are different ways to deal with these things. You don't make a confrontation about everything and you don't burn bridges especially with your husband's parents and in the process risk alienating your husband.

You inability to comprehend simple English is quite stunning but your willingness to polarize a situation that can be handled differently is not in doubt.

If you are married, with your attitude I feel sorry for your husband ....... if you are divorced, it is obvious why that would have happened and if you are single, you would save a lot of people grief by not getting married.

Anonymous wrote:Keep the door locked. They were wrong, but this is the easiest solution to the problem. Even if I had a key, I would never barge into someone's home. People get killed that way.

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NOVATransplant wrote:Sounds like they wanted to see their new grandbaby and you couldn't be bothered to check your phone. Sorry, you sound kind of bitchy

I tend to agree with this statement only because I come from a very open family and we are accustomed to being in everyone's business. I also very much appreciate how excited they are to be grandparents and they can't get enough of their new grandchild. It wouldn't have bothered me and not only would I be thankful for an impromptu sitter, I am not so entitled that I wouldn't want to grant them every opportunity to enjoy their grandkid. My advice - try and see if from their point of view.

I suggest you try and see it from the point of view of people who do not have nor do they want to have a family "being in everyone's business." You really can't understand that some people would be unhappy about ILs showing up in their house unannounced?

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NOVATransplant wrote:Sounds like they wanted to see their new grandbaby and you couldn't be bothered to check your phone. Sorry, you sound kind of bitchy

I tend to agree with this statement only because I come from a very open family and we are accustomed to being in everyone's business. I also very much appreciate how excited they are to be grandparents and they can't get enough of their new grandchild. It wouldn't have bothered me and not only would I be thankful for an impromptu sitter, I am not so entitled that I wouldn't want to grant them every opportunity to enjoy their grandkid. My advice - try and see if from their point of view.