Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 20:04     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:Studies have shown that women are just as likely as men to be the initial aggressors in domestic violence. Further, incidences of FOM violence are under-reported, and it is still acceptable to use FOM violence as standard humorous trope in entertainment, i.e. "Boys are stupid, let's throw rocks at them!"


Depends on your definition of domestic violence. And yes, that matters.

But more to the point, why are people/perhaps just one jerk assuming that the women who reported that they called the police or got restraining orders were lying? There was nothing in their posts to suggests it was a game to them, and one PP in particular clarified that it was the result of violence. What's up with the derailment about people/perhaps just one jerk making these stupid assumptions?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 17:34     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Truth be told, I wash my wife would ask me to leave because I don't have the balls to do it on my own.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 17:23     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I'd also like DH to leave the house, which we own jointly, to give DD continuity, assuming I'd eventually have custody more than 50%. Realistically, it's unlikely he will.


Why do you assume you'll have more than 50%?


I'm not the PP, but if she's been doing more than 50% of the child rearing, a judge is likely to continue that in a custody decision.

Keep a calendar, PP. Write down all of the occasions that you attended school events/sports/piano recitals and DH was too busy/unmotivated to come. Take pictures if you can to show he wasn't there. Document who goes to pediatrician visits and who helps with HW.



Of all the dumb pieces of advice, this one really takes the cake.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 17:06     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Don't tell him he's moving out. Just move out yourself and let him know where he and the kids can come visit.


I just told DH I wanted a divorce and that I wanted him to move out, unless he wanted custody of the kids. If he wanted custody of the kids, I would move out.

He refused to move and refused to take custody.

Dick.

So... I'm biding my time until my kids are bigger and can fend for themselves more. When they get to that point, I'm moving out. Kids can come with me or stay with their dad.

In the meantime, I'm going to college for a second degree on my husband's dime. He thinks he won, and that I'm staying.


I nominate you "Mother of the Year."


I'm puzzled by your sarcastic response, as well as by the sarcastic response of 16:00.

What about the PP's post indicates that she is immature or a bad mother?


You really don't think she sounds immature? Custody doesn't work like this.


PP.

It does if you 1) want the kids to stay in the house that they're in because you want to stay in the school district. (I couldn't afford an apartment here.) and 2) you want an agreement rather than a long drawn out fight.

I could file for divorce with him living in the house and get a court order requiring him to leave, but he is going to fight me on every single thing.

Not sure how that gets me to "Mother of the Year," though.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 17:00     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Studies have shown that women are just as likely as men to be the initial aggressors in domestic violence. Further, incidences of FOM violence are under-reported, and it is still acceptable to use FOM violence as standard humorous trope in entertainment, i.e. "Boys are stupid, let's throw rocks at them!"
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 14:59     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread has totally derailed.


Bound to happen once the women-haters show up.


No, just that the womyn on this forum have a hard time believing and accepting that women can and are often just a vicious when it comes to emotional and physical abuse as any man. Yet, the resources that are out there for dealing with domestic violence are all aimed at helping women and small or female children. Any man looking for help or woman with a male child over a certain age is on his/her own.


They can, but aren't often, just as vicious. Who's drinking the kool-aid here? (That would be you, in case you don't comprehend.)
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 14:53     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:Jesus, this kind of thing makes me sick. My exDW alienated me from my DD, tried to keep her out of my life just to be a vengeful bitch! Fortunately, DD has seen through this. Your kids will too. Be careful, OP!


This is parental alienation and only a sick parent does this to another parent. Your exDW didn't get the message that you have just as many rights as a parent as she did. Why do people take out their marriage woes on the kids?
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 14:51     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Ideology makes you stupid and blind.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 14:51     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread has totally derailed.


Bound to happen once the women-haters show up.


No, just that the womyn on this forum have a hard time believing and accepting that women can and are often just a vicious when it comes to emotional and physical abuse as any man. Yet, the resources that are out there for dealing with domestic violence are all aimed at helping women and small or female children. Any man looking for help or woman with a male child over a certain age is on his/her own.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:48     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:Wow, this thread has totally derailed.


Bound to happen once the women-haters show up.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:46     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Wow, this thread has totally derailed.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:32     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Restraining Order did the trick.


Wow, so many reasons in this thread to never get married, boys. Lying to a judge or magistrate to get a restraining order on false pretenses? Why the fuck not?

Fuck you.


Yes, this would constitute abuse and any woman (or man) or would use this tactic to falsely accuse a spouse should burn in hell. If you are married, boys, document, document document. That is the only way to protect yourself from evil bitches who would do something like this.


How often did you beat your evil bitch before she called the police?


I called the police on her. One more than one occasion.


Of course you did. Then they told you that chattel slavery is illegal in the United States and not to make any more nuisance calls.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:31     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Restraining Order did the trick.


Wow, so many reasons in this thread to never get married, boys. Lying to a judge or magistrate to get a restraining order on false pretenses? Why the fuck not?

Fuck you.


Yes, this would constitute abuse and any woman (or man) or would use this tactic to falsely accuse a spouse should burn in hell. If you are married, boys, document, document document. That is the only way to protect yourself from evil bitches who would do something like this.


How often did you beat your evil bitch before she called the police?


I called the police on her. One more than one occasion.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:30     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Restraining Order did the trick.


Wow, so many reasons in this thread to never get married, boys. Lying to a judge or magistrate to get a restraining order on false pretenses? Why the fuck not?

Fuck you.


Yes, this would constitute abuse and any woman (or man) or would use this tactic to falsely accuse a spouse should burn in hell. If you are married, boys, document, document document. That is the only way to protect yourself from evil bitches who would do something like this.


How often did you beat your evil bitch before she called the police?


I called the police on her.
Anonymous
Post 05/22/2014 13:30     Subject: How did you tell your dh you wanted him to move out?
Jesus, this kind of thing makes me sick. My exDW alienated me from my DD, tried to keep her out of my life just to be a vengeful bitch! Fortunately, DD has seen through this. Your kids will too. Be careful, OP!