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Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.

Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.

That's his decision to make, not yours. Let him navigate the relationship with them - stay out of it.

PS. that was pretty cheap of the two of you. Though very rude of her as well.

+1. I'm guessing you were in charge of that particular purchase, OP, and your stepdaughter knew it. And probably wanted to bring it to her dad's attention, to show him what kind of person you are. He'll learn soon enough. Also, you're kidding yourself if you think you come before his children.

Anonymous wrote:You are all adults. I have no responsibility to you. I resent having to spend time with you. When your father married me, I became first in his life. Your father's assets and mine are now ours. You won't ever get a dime. Rant Off.

Dear husband of OP:

Divorce her

Anonymous wrote:You are all adults. I have no responsibility to you. I resent having to spend time with you. When your father married me, I became first in his life. Your father's assets and mine are now ours. You won't ever get a dime. Rant Off.

I would have a problem with a man who did not put his kids first.

JMO, of course.

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Anonymous wrote:You are all adults. I have no responsibility to you. I resent having to spend time with you. When your father married me, I became first in his life. Your father's assets and mine are now ours. You won't ever get a dime. Rant Off.

OP- take this advice because you're acting like a petulant, spoiled bitch. Hopefully they will get to choose your nursing home in a few years and pay you back in spades.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:You are all adults. I have no responsibility to you. I resent having to spend time with you. When your father married me, I became first in his life. Your father's assets and mine are now ours. You won't ever get a dime. Rant Off.

You're a horrible person. I'm so glad I have a kind, amazing stepmom that loves me like her own.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:What I mean about being emotionally independent is they should not expect anything from us/ particularly me.

Uh, no. That's not how parenthood works. And most parents wouldn't marry someone who felt that way either. You don't have a very good relationship with your parents or extended family, do you?

"And most parents wouldn't marry someone who felt that way either."

How do you know?

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Anonymous wrote:What I mean about being emotionally independent is they should not expect anything from us/ particularly me.

Uh, no. That's not how parenthood works. And most parents wouldn't marry someone who felt that way either. You don't have a very good relationship with your parents or extended family, do you?

People like OP think it is okay to have emotional connection to their family because it is a blood relationship. However since OP is not blood related to stepdaughters, she has no use for them. It doesn't matter that stepdaughters have a blood relationship with her husband. She doesn't have the blood relationship and she only cares about how things impact HER.

Anonymous wrote:What I mean about being emotionally independent is they should not expect anything from us/ particularly me.

Uh, no. That's not how parenthood works. And most parents wouldn't marry someone who felt that way either. You don't have a very good relationship with your parents or extended family, do you?

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Anonymous wrote:One gave me a major attitude because we "ONLY" gave a bib set as a baby shower gift. I don't want to spend time with people who are going to be giving me attitudes.

Yes- DH and I are well off but we enjoy spending time and our resources with each other. DH worked hard and so have I. They are in their mid-20's. It's time for them to be completely independent financially and emotionally.

Why would you NOT want to give more to your grandchild if you 1) have it and 2) they need it? Of course they resent you. I hope they cut you out of their life completely.

I doubt she sees the baby as her grandchild. She probably calls it a parasite and is looking to cut it off too.

OP, truly sad for you. Can never understand why folks deny themselves the awe of love in order to stoke the insatiability of hatred. You can't sate hatred, OP, that's why you have to keep on going back to the well with your petty acts of revenge.

Anonymous wrote:You are all adults. I have no responsibility to you. I resent having to spend time with you. When your father married me, I became first in his life. Your father's assets and mine are now ours. You won't ever get a dime. Rant Off.

Well, until he divorces you. At which time they'll become the third wife's. But if he's smart, he probably has a will that you haven't seen leaving his assets to his children, not the undetermined "spouse" who survives him at the time of his death.

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Anonymous wrote:OP is my first stepmother. So glad my dad insisted on a prenup and divorced her ass less than two years after marrying. Sorry to see her here and married to some other man with kids and grandkids. She will never get it.

Did your father ever apologize?

To me and my sisters? No. We didn't need an apology because we saw she put him through hell. He's remarried again to a woman who has adult kids the same age as we are and they are very happy.

That's great. I have a stepmom like OP but they've been together for a long time so I don't think there is much hope.

In my case they are two peas in a pod.

I'd say you could be my stepmom except my dad gave several thoughtful gifts at my baby shower not that my stepmom enjoyed that fact! I don't know why he married a woman like you, but my dad is in the process of securing his money to make it as unappealing as possible for my stepmom to fight us for it in the event he dies first. She is insanely jealous of me and now my daughter which is so disgusting to me. He started just visiting alone because she makes everyone so miserable for days on end. I'm sure she never envisioned spending a large part of her retirement at home by herself, but that's what happens when you try to drive a wedge between family!

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Anonymous wrote:OP is my first stepmother. So glad my dad insisted on a prenup and divorced her ass less than two years after marrying. Sorry to see her here and married to some other man with kids and grandkids. She will never get it.

Did your father ever apologize?

To me and my sisters? No. We didn't need an apology because we saw she put him through hell. He's remarried again to a woman who has adult kids the same age as we are and they are very happy.

If you hadn't have said "sisters" (plural) I would think you were my sister! Same exact situation- I didn't need any apology, but I was glad when she was gone.

Anonymous wrote:OP is my first stepmother. So glad my dad insisted on a prenup and divorced her ass less than two years after marrying. Sorry to see her here and married to some other man with kids and grandkids. She will never get it.

Check the stats on divorce for second, third marriages.