If your married and his name is on the title or lease you can't kick him out. It's his house too. I think you would have to file for divorce, get divorced and have a judge kick him out.

Anonymous wrote:Excuse me? What do you mean, kick him out? If you're done with the marriage, YOU leave.

^^Well if I'm paying the rent and I'm the main caretaker for our children, it doesn't work that way.

If that's the case then you move out and stop paying rent. It's his responsibility to pay for it if he refuses to leave. Just be careful because before a legal separation and divorce his debts become your debts too.

If your wish is to stay married, tell him that if he doesn't have a job by x date, he must start providing childcare.

If you think you will be divorced, you don't want him to be financially dependent on you and the primary childcare giver. You are setting yourself up for a non-custodial situation where you will pay alimony and child support.

I think PP poster's suggestion of asking his parents to make monetary gifts contingent on him doing specific things. Why can't he get a part-time job of some type (i.e. minimum wage job)? I would have him do this immediately.

OP,

Do you still love him?
Is he getting interviews?
Can he do consulting while he's trying to find a job?
Was he fired from his last job, or did he quit? If he quit, that's very different from if he had no control over the situation.

Hang in there.