Anonymous wrote:They should cash out. Hide the cash or buy physical gold. Pretend like they spent it , lost it or gambled it away.
Spend or give you the gold as an inheritance . Get with the freebee program?

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in a nice assisted living facility in Illinois that is funded by Medicaid and SS. She has the early stages of dementia and we were told she cannot live alone (she was calling the cops constantly, thinking she was being followed). She lived with my sister's family for awhile and was miserable because she didn't like being around little kids. After moving her the assisted living facility, her mental faculties improved greatly. I think living alone made her more confused. I don't know how things will shake out once her disease progresses, but for now it's working out well.

My mom always had problems with paranoia and was terrible with money, both of which contributed to my parents' divorce. It's really tough on everyone when you have a family member like this, who just cannot or will not take care of themselves. I agree it isn't fair that she has a warm bed while others may not, but I am so grateful this service exists. It sounds terrible, but she's been a financial drain on everyone her whole life--at least now I can save for retirement so I won't be a financial drain on my own children.

And while I know not everyone feels this way, I wouldn't want to live in a place that didn't have some level of protection like this, and I would gladly pay higher taxes to have more services for those in need.

I think you mean she is in a nursing home, as Medicaid does not cover assisted living - only skilled nursing.

It may be different in Illinois than it is in our area. We were told it doesn't pay for assisted living but we are trying to get into an income based one. There are options but it is very very hard.

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Anonymous wrote:My mom is in a nice assisted living facility in Illinois that is funded by Medicaid and SS. She has the early stages of dementia and we were told she cannot live alone (she was calling the cops constantly, thinking she was being followed). She lived with my sister's family for awhile and was miserable because she didn't like being around little kids. After moving her the assisted living facility, her mental faculties improved greatly. I think living alone made her more confused. I don't know how things will shake out once her disease progresses, but for now it's working out well.

My mom always had problems with paranoia and was terrible with money, both of which contributed to my parents' divorce. It's really tough on everyone when you have a family member like this, who just cannot or will not take care of themselves. I agree it isn't fair that she has a warm bed while others may not, but I am so grateful this service exists. It sounds terrible, but she's been a financial drain on everyone her whole life--at least now I can save for retirement so I won't be a financial drain on my own children.

And while I know not everyone feels this way, I wouldn't want to live in a place that didn't have some level of protection like this, and I would gladly pay higher taxes to have more services for those in need.

I think you mean she is in a nursing home, as Medicaid does not cover assisted living - only skilled nursing.

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a greedy witch, I see right through your post. You're worried about your inheritance - why should your parents use their savings on their retirement when it's supposed to go to you? Why can't they live for free in a shitty medicaid approved facility like others? You talk about your culture taking care of the elderly, yet make excuses as to why your parents can't live with you. You're selfish and gross. Good thing your parents have that nest egg, they're going to need it.

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Anonymous wrote:As PPs noted, life on Medicaid is anything but sweet.

Curious, OP, if your cultural tradition includes caring for aging parents in exchange for inheritance, why is Medicaid an issue at all?

The above scenario works in the homeland, where typically the daughter or daughter in-law does not work outside of the home. It won't work for us here becauseboth my brother and I work and therefore can't provide the care. My parents never thought, does anyone?, that they would end up in a position to worry about this. So as they built up an inheritance for us, due to misinformation, they missed or misunderstood how medicaid works. They have a decent savings - a fully paid house, car and about 100-150K savings. I just wished they enjoyed life more and didn't feel the need to save this money for me and my brother - esp since we are both working and contributing to our own retirement plans.

I didn't realize that the care a medicaid recipient receives is different. My husbands undle was in a nursing home for rehab, ended up dying there, and he was self pay. I thought it was a horrible place, as a PP described, sad, old people left in wheelchairs in hallways, dilapidated rec area with various games that didn't work. His estate went to his care and ti was awful.

Anonymous wrote:OP you are a greedy witch, I see right through your post. You're worried about your inheritance - why should your parents use their savings on their retirement when it's supposed to go to you? Why can't they live for free in a shitty medicaid approved facility like others? You talk about your culture taking care of the elderly, yet make excuses as to why your parents can't live with you. You're selfish and gross. Good thing your parents have that nest egg, they're going to need it.

Anonymous wrote:My mom is in a nice assisted living facility in Illinois that is funded by Medicaid and SS. She has the early stages of dementia and we were told she cannot live alone (she was calling the cops constantly, thinking she was being followed). She lived with my sister's family for awhile and was miserable because she didn't like being around little kids. After moving her the assisted living facility, her mental faculties improved greatly. I think living alone made her more confused. I don't know how things will shake out once her disease progresses, but for now it's working out well.

My mom always had problems with paranoia and was terrible with money, both of which contributed to my parents' divorce. It's really tough on everyone when you have a family member like this, who just cannot or will not take care of themselves. I agree it isn't fair that she has a warm bed while others may not, but I am so grateful this service exists. It sounds terrible, but she's been a financial drain on everyone her whole life--at least now I can save for retirement so I won't be a financial drain on my own children.

And while I know not everyone feels this way, I wouldn't want to live in a place that didn't have some level of protection like this, and I would gladly pay higher taxes to have more services for those in need.

Anonymous wrote:DDT (dichlorodiphenyltrichloroethane)
Scientists have already found a strong potential link between pesticides and Parkinson’s disease. Now, a preliminary study released in January suggests that the pesticide DDT, which degrades so slowly that it continues to linger in the environment more than 40 years after the U.S. Environmental Protection Agency banned its use in the U.S., may also contribute to Alzheimer’s.

Anonymous wrote:I can't even give my relative who is in assisted living a present, because whatever I give her will be stolen from her almost immediately. By the staff, by fellow residents - who knows. She knows, but she isn't willing to try to be moved and says it would be the same anywhere.

I switched to flowers but she asked me not to bring those either because it causes too much envy.