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Anonymous wrote:23.8 is a healthy BMI.

You'll have the last "laugh" when other people around you get diabetes, arthritis, heart disease.

Yes. The opportunity to laugh at sick people is what should really keep you going.

Anonymous wrote:As the title says, I am 49 and I just lost 50 pounds. My BMI is 23.8, so not skinny by any means but my 3 colleagues who are also very good friends had a serious chat with me to tell me that I had lost my looks, that I look like an ethiopian refugee/nazi war cprisoner. I know they care about me and are telling me what most wouldn't. I had initially shared my plan to lose a further 10 pounds just to be in the comfortable BMI zone and they strongly advised against it because my face is looking terrible. Before losing the weright they'd tell me how young I looked and how beautiful my skin was with no wrinkles or lines. Now, while they say I still don't have lines or wrinkles my face looks really unhealthy - like I need to eat .
I really want to maintain my healthy weight but I also worry about the points they raise. My husband has not said anything but he prefers slim so I guess he's happy/hasn;t noticed my face.

Has anyone else encountered this problem? Did you just accept that as older women we sacrifice eitither our faces or our butts? I feel quite bad about these comments.

Anonymous wrote:Op, would you mind sharing your before and after weight?

I am turning 50 this year. I am 170 lbs but have a young looking face. People think I am 40 at best. I laugh it off and say that it is the extra fat filler in my face. There is truth to this.

So I appreciate what you are going through. I really want to lose 40 lbs in the next 2 years. I think (know) I can do it, but worry about just what you are talking about. But as some have said though, I need to get healthy and my looks will be what they will be. I have 3 small children.

Anonymous wrote:Op, would you mind sharing your before and after weight?

I am turning 50 this year. I am 170 lbs but have a young looking face. People think I am 40 at best. I laugh it off and say that it is the extra fat filler in my face. There is truth to this.

So I appreciate what you are going through. I really want to lose 40 lbs in the next 2 years. I think (know) I can do it, but worry about just what you are talking about. But as some have said though, I need to get healthy and my looks will be what they will be. I have 3 small children.

Anonymous wrote:Chunky middle aged women look matronly to me.

A fit, in-shape body no matter the mug looks more youthful to me---with the exception of starvation/ haggard skinny. I am taking heathly, athletic thin.

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Anonymous wrote:it's all about how you feel. maybe a new haircut or wardrobe will help match you to your new body. everyone's face has wrinkles at your age so don't worry about it!

That's not true. I'm 48, 30 pounds overweight and only very light wrinkles.

You're chunky. I'm talking about all normal sized people. Wrinkles are natural.

Holy crap, could you be more condescending? I suspect PP that is 30 pounds overweight is more "normal" or "average" compared to the rest of the country than you are.

Thirty pounds overweight is disgusting.