Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 19:53     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:Oh, please. Getting drunk once in a while is not a big deal. OP, just let it go. Don't make it worse by acknowledging it again.


+ 1

I'm 47 and my friends and I get rip-roaring drunk every now& then and we're far from being alcoholics.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 19:34     Subject: Would you apologize?
Enjoy! A soundtrack for this thread.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dg3uIF2c-_o

Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 19:00     Subject: Would you apologize?
OP

You might really want to consider that your crush has no interest in you and that he is probably now telling all of his friends about the "chick who tried to ball him on New Years Eve." Not a good title to have.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 18:14     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well if you swing then that's a different matter entirely.
Just send a quick note thanking him for his restraint.


There's no need to thank the guy if OP and her husband swing. Thanking him for what? She wanted to fuck the guy and got turned down.


For being gracious about it.
He is a good friend, and she put him know an uncomfortable position while she was drunk.
It can be brief and too the point, no big deal.


Seriously? Thanking someone for being gracious when they turned you down? Continuing to discuss this with the guy is just prolonging the event. Why would anyone think this guy wants to continue to be reminded of this?
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 16:29     Subject: Would you apologize?
16:25 again. Didn't see that you swing. So what's the problem? Apologize to the other guy if you like and be willing to consider that drinking to the point of passing out is not altogether usual in a married man nearing 40.
Anonymous
Post 01/04/2014 16:25     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:Your primary concern is apologizing to your friend again and not your DH? Bizarre.

Do not apologize to your friend. If anything, you should thank him. Just drop it.


This. And you think it's normal that your (presumably) 37 year old husband drank so much he passed out, and that you drank so much you tried to get intimate with another man, and that neither of these behaviors suggests an alcohol problem. O-kay!
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 17:34     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.


+1 For a husband to brush that off like that, I would think he is checked out emotionally, or already cheating himself.


OP back to ridiculously stir the pot.
Yes he laughed because we do swing from time to time and he would like my permission for a FWB. Our marriage is not perfect but we are working on it and in this area we have given each other a little freedom. He was teasing me for multiple days prior to this party about hitting on our friend and when we discussed it afterwards said " well i did pretty much dare you to do something, I can't really be mad"

so that is why I am not worried about DH'S feelings or focusing on my marriage (any more than I already am). Trying to give my friend a kiss while he is already giving me a hug is not what puts a bullet in my marriage.


Gotcha. I think most posters assumed you and your husband were monogamous. This certainly changes things. But still, it sounded like the other guy was married and monogamous, so you might want to rethink your approach still.


i should have been clear in my initial post about DH and I's relationship. My friend is not married and has no SO currently.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 17:24     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Well if you swing then that's a different matter entirely.
Just send a quick note thanking him for his restraint.


There's no need to thank the guy if OP and her husband swing. Thanking him for what? She wanted to fuck the guy and got turned down.


For being gracious about it.
He is a good friend, and she put him know an uncomfortable position while she was drunk.
It can be brief and too the point, no big deal.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 16:52     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.


+1 For a husband to brush that off like that, I would think he is checked out emotionally, or already cheating himself.


OP back to ridiculously stir the pot.
Yes he laughed because we do swing from time to time and he would like my permission for a FWB. Our marriage is not perfect but we are working on it and in this area we have given each other a little freedom. He was teasing me for multiple days prior to this party about hitting on our friend and when we discussed it afterwards said " well i did pretty much dare you to do something, I can't really be mad"

so that is why I am not worried about DH'S feelings or focusing on my marriage (any more than I already am). Trying to give my friend a kiss while he is already giving me a hug is not what puts a bullet in my marriage.


Gotcha. I think most posters assumed you and your husband were monogamous. This certainly changes things. But still, it sounded like the other guy was married and monogamous, so you might want to rethink your approach still.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 16:51     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:Well if you swing then that's a different matter entirely.
Just send a quick note thanking him for his restraint.


There's no need to thank the guy if OP and her husband swing. Thanking him for what? She wanted to fuck the guy and got turned down.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 16:48     Subject: Would you apologize?
Well if you swing then that's a different matter entirely.
Just send a quick note thanking him for his restraint.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 16:47     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.


+1 For a husband to brush that off like that, I would think he is checked out emotionally, or already cheating himself.


OP back to ridiculously stir the pot.
Yes he laughed because we do swing from time to time and he would like my permission for a FWB. Our marriage is not perfect but we are working on it and in this area we have given each other a little freedom. He was teasing me for multiple days prior to this party about hitting on our friend and when we discussed it afterwards said " well i did pretty much dare you to do something, I can't really be mad"

so that is why I am not worried about DH'S feelings or focusing on my marriage (any more than I already am). Trying to give my friend a kiss while he is already giving me a hug is not what puts a bullet in my marriage.


Instead of leaning in for a kiss, you should have grabbed his unit first, then he probably couldn't resist the harmless kiss
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 16:44     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.


+1 For a husband to brush that off like that, I would think he is checked out emotionally, or already cheating himself.


OP back to ridiculously stir the pot.
Yes he laughed because we do swing from time to time and he would like my permission for a FWB. Our marriage is not perfect but we are working on it and in this area we have given each other a little freedom. He was teasing me for multiple days prior to this party about hitting on our friend and when we discussed it afterwards said " well i did pretty much dare you to do something, I can't really be mad"

so that is why I am not worried about DH'S feelings or focusing on my marriage (any more than I already am). Trying to give my friend a kiss while he is already giving me a hug is not what puts a bullet in my marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 15:28     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


The same poster again who gives this stupid advice trying to be sarcastic and funny. So annoying.


I posted that in this thread but have only done so before a couple of times. If you're noticing it so much maybe you need a different hobby.

I sense we could not be soulmates.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 15:24     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.


+1 For a husband to brush that off like that, I would think he is checked out emotionally, or already cheating himself.