Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 22:10     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.


Was your DH still in bed at 7:30?



Yes. Which isn't unusual. I just thought today he would get up for DS.
I realize there are some pregnant hormones at work. I realize I sound like a crazy person to some of you. (But big thanks to those who understand where I am coming from. Made me feel better)
I just wish I married the dad who coaches the baseball team. Or the dad who is excited to show his son how to tie a tie. Or the dad who wants to be the den leader. Or the dad who wants to throw a ball in the yard.
But I didn't. And there is nothing I can do about it. Believe me, I have tried to encourage these kinds of things. I hadn't worked, and has just created resentment.
I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that.


You still sound like much more of a loser than your husband.


+1
OP seems like a nagger that cant let go of her highly choreographed vision of family life
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 21:52     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:Well OP sounds like a drama queen and her husband sounds like he's not an early morning person. Or OP is just an idiot because her husband really is a jerk and she decided to get pregnant again. I have zero sympathy for women like that.



Jesus. This is a god awful statement. Just a really horrible thing to say to anybody.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 21:41     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Wow.. Lots of assholes and heartless souls on this board. OP I agree he could have sacrificed his sleep for his son's excitement and wanting to share it with him.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 21:28     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.


Was your DH still in bed at 7:30?



Yes. Which isn't unusual. I just thought today he would get up for DS.
I realize there are some pregnant hormones at work. I realize I sound like a crazy person to some of you. (But big thanks to those who understand where I am coming from. Made me feel better)
I just wish I married the dad who coaches the baseball team. Or the dad who is excited to show his son how to tie a tie. Or the dad who wants to be the den leader. Or the dad who wants to throw a ball in the yard.
But I didn't. And there is nothing I can do about it. Believe me, I have tried to encourage these kinds of things. I hadn't worked, and has just created resentment.
I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that.


That's right. Just keep on producing babies for this loser and eventually everything will be ok.

Guess what? Two loser parents are not going to produce great kids. Just stop, nnow.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 21:07     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:OP, is this a joke post? To highlight the fact that you have so little problems in your life compared to so many people with abusive parents, no food in the house or desperately looking for work?

Please congratulate your son on his independence, accept that some people are not at their best in the morning, and don't procreate any more with this husband of yours.

Sheesh. Massive eye-roll.


You and your ilk have such low expectations for the men in your children's lives.

Excuse me while I go fuck the brians out of my boys father. So gratefeul that I have high expectations and married a man who loves hos boys enough to do the small things to make a young child feel loved. Its quite an attractive feature.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 20:53     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Warning to anyone considering marriage now- he will not change. If he's a selfish mean person now he will be a selfish mean person to his children.
DON"T procreate with this person.
signed-
woman who married a nice man who is a nice father
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 20:26     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:"I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that."

Nitwit.


Yup. Give it another couple of years and OP will be posting about how she has 4 kids and a husband who never helps and she's miserable, etc etc. I'm in a great marriage, but I don't have much sympathy/respect for anyone who stays in a relationship with someone who "breaks their heart" with their behavior and chooses to continue to have kids with them. It is made even worse when the complain about them even though they know full well what their partner is like. That said, I do have sympathy for those who stay in an actual abusive relationship because of fear and the emotional struggle that goes along with leaving that type of relationship.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 20:22     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
"I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that."

Nitwit.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 20:21     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.


Was your DH still in bed at 7:30?



Yes. Which isn't unusual. I just thought today he would get up for DS.
I realize there are some pregnant hormones at work. I realize I sound like a crazy person to some of you. (But big thanks to those who understand where I am coming from. Made me feel better)
I just wish I married the dad who coaches the baseball team. Or the dad who is excited to show his son how to tie a tie. Or the dad who wants to be the den leader. Or the dad who wants to throw a ball in the yard.
But I didn't. And there is nothing I can do about it. Believe me, I have tried to encourage these kinds of things. I hadn't worked, and has just created resentment.
I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that.


You still sound like much more of a loser than your husband.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 20:20     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:Are a lot of women on this board married to assholes? The lack of empathy is amazing here.


You go looking for empathy on the Internet? On a MOMMY WARS site?

Really?
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 19:39     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Are a lot of women on this board married to assholes? The lack of empathy is amazing here.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 19:33     Subject: Re:My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Can't believe you let your kids watch you tube unsupervised. What kind of mom are you?

See how easy it is to lay blame where it's not really warranted? Then you step up when needed. The dad doesn't have to coach the team, you do it. Your DH and kids will carve out heir own connection, on their terms, not your 'fantasy' of it. It might be over watching movies or cooking, etc. You never know, and you shouldn't control/judge it.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 15:28     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Today is my kids Christmas show at school. They are 5 and 7. They woke up at 6, so excited. The 7 year old has a special part, that he earned for improving his sometimes troubled behavior. He is very proud. My 7 year old son couldn't wait to put on his jacket and first big kid real tie. They got all dressed, and then at 6:30 he nudged dad in bed to help him tie it. Dad yelled and said it was too early to get up. Son was so sad. I reassured him daddy would help him as soon as he got up. Around 7:30 I found DS in the office. He had googled how to tie a tie and was watching a you tube video, trying so hard to get it tied. I think my heart broke in a million pieces seeing him. I helped him and we got it done.
Obviously, this is just one example in my life of a husband who can't be bothered. And I am 8 months pregnant. I just feel so sad for them.


Was your DH still in bed at 7:30?



Yes. Which isn't unusual. I just thought today he would get up for DS.
I realize there are some pregnant hormones at work. I realize I sound like a crazy person to some of you. (But big thanks to those who understand where I am coming from. Made me feel better)
I just wish I married the dad who coaches the baseball team. Or the dad who is excited to show his son how to tie a tie. Or the dad who wants to be the den leader. Or the dad who wants to throw a ball in the yard.
But I didn't. And there is nothing I can do about it. Believe me, I have tried to encourage these kinds of things. I hadn't worked, and has just created resentment.
I disagree, though, that it was a mistake to have another. My kids will always have each other. And I think that they are lucky for that.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 14:54     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Obviously in the grand scheme of things, this isn't a big deal but maybe he has a history of being inconsiderate. I do not think you're a drama queen, not to be sterilized, etc like the idiots are posting.
Anonymous
Post 12/19/2013 14:45     Subject: My heart breaks for my kids because I didn't give them a great dad
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I bet it's not his first time to act like a jerk towards the kids.
I think he is blind as a bat, and an insensitive jerk.Did he not notice that he hurt his son's feeling?!
Has to google how to tie a tie? Was it a bow tie?
I'd tell him that he was a jerk to his son.
I'm with you on this one and not because I'm 8 months pregnant.More because he didn't seem to notice how his behavior affected his son.


+1

There seem to be a lot of people on this board who would tell a 7 year old to get out of their face and let them get some sleep but would probably need xanax if their cat died.


Because that's an equal comparison...


Don't kid yourself, for many out there it is.