Anonymous wrote:Church?

I have a few single guy friends in their mid-30s and sadly, it's pretty apparent why they're single.

+1000

Anonymous wrote:Maybe if you focused more on what men want instead of what you want from them, it would work out better for you.

I for one know that in order to be in high demand I have to be tall (check), fit (check), make six figures+ (check) and be packing more than 6" (check).

the rest is just shit people tolerate.

What men want is simple:

Nice, easy going, sweet, warm, sexually available, attractive, feminine, some semblance of an ability to create a homey environment.

Notice there is no mention of sarcastic, professional, career oriented, blunt, snarky, overly educated (bachelors is just fine) or most importantly - 'strong independent woman'

This is hilarious bc it's true (female here btw)

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok ill admit smart is on my list but as I get older I realize in general that just being easy to be around is much more rewarding on a daily basis.

My current GF went to a top tier school and has a great professional gig.

But would I be less attracted to her if she went to a mid range school and had ten less IQ points? I don't think so

That's be awfully shallow of me!

When you make lists the longer they get the more useless they are. Being nice warm and wanting to make a home seem to be at the top of mine.

Kill me for wanting a nice girl!

I quoted the oft repeated list of the four sixes here as a way to mock them actually.

Yes, we know all about your GF. Going to top school (in the USA) and having a good professional gig hardly suggests anything than average intelligence. Which is fine, just stop trying to prove she "has it all" where she clearly doesn't.

Also, your nice girlfriend accepts that you sleep with other women while she sits at home hoping you will give her more children. That arrangeent is going well beyond being nice and sweet into a sick, submissive attitude that very few men want. You are simply in no position to pronounce on dating universals here because what you have is totally creepy and of no interest to anyone.

What is your age and marital status by the way? Lets gets some perspective on your perspective.

Who defines what having it all is?

What I am driving at is that women think a certain set of characteristics are what _should_ be attractive to men, while men have another set of ideas of what actually attracts them.

And its common for women to resort to shaming and name calling, like you do, when a man's list doesn't line up with the woman's perspective.

Men don't care about a woman being at the top of her game professionally, or being a "gunner." Sure, men want a smart woman who can hold her own in a conversation, and help support the family, but they don't care that a woman was valedictorian at an Ivy or is the youngest partner in her office.

I am a woman BTW.

Anonymous wrote:Ok ill admit smart is on my list but as I get older I realize in general that just being easy to be around is much more rewarding on a daily basis.

My current GF went to a top tier school and has a great professional gig.

But would I be less attracted to her if she went to a mid range school and had ten less IQ points? I don't think so

That's be awfully shallow of me!

When you make lists the longer they get the more useless they are. Being nice warm and wanting to make a home seem to be at the top of mine.

Kill me for wanting a nice girl!

I quoted the oft repeated list of the four sixes here as a way to mock them actually.

Yes, we know all about your GF. Going to top school (in the USA) and having a good professional gig hardly suggests anything than average intelligence. Which is fine, just stop trying to prove she "has it all" where she clearly doesn't.

Also, your nice girlfriend accepts that you sleep with other women while she sits at home hoping you will give her more children. That arrangeent is going well beyond being nice and sweet into a sick, submissive attitude that very few men want. You are simply in no position to pronounce on dating universals here because what you have is totally creepy and of no interest to anyone.

Anonymous wrote:1. If you want a partner and think bars aren't a good way to meet a partner, then stop spending so much time in bars.

2. Your "stable" and "upper-middle class background" filters will filter out many men. Why should it be immediately disqualifying if you meet a senior associate/junior partner type whose dad was a laborer?

3. I'm also wondering if you're pretty much looking for a "four sixes" sort of guys: double six figure salary, 6' tall, 6-pack abs, and 6" down there. If so, you're entitled to your preferences, BUT get in line and you'd better bring your A-Game looks and personality wise.

Sounds like "Brandon" from "Shame." Scary.

Anonymous wrote:At work.

No Way! That's a good way to lose your job, ruin your references and get your heart broken. Also, offices are filled with immature men trying to climb the corporate ladder.

Try Friends:
Here's how I met my DH: he was talking to a friend I was meeting for lunch. The three of us continued the conversation and he turned out to be a great guy. Of course, that was in 1989, but we've been together ever since.
I have a friend who was introduced to her husband by two friends at a Christmas party 15 years ago. They've been married 12 years now.
Try the Internet -- very, very selectively:
I know three couples who met on the internet, not by dating sites but through listservs (guess how old they are: early 40s) based on their careers and after discussing things for weeks carefully met IRL (how 90s can I sound?) then eventually got married.

Try professional school: Several of my kids' classmates' parents got together in grad school.

These three ways have things in common: common interests, venues or friends that open the door to meeting men with common interests, education and hobbies. In other words, a good start.
Good luck! There's somebody out there for you!

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Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

So which of those characteristics do you think are sick?

And where did you get the idea I want to boss anyone around? It's impossible to be sweet and easy going without being a sycophant?

So if you take my list and use opposite words that's what you would prefer?

Bitchy, prude, hard to deal with, cold, ugly and masculine?

That sounds like a great list!

The first problem is that you actually have the list. the other is priorities in your list. women who want 6 packs as one of their top priorities are just as dumb as women you are looking for (which is why it appears to work for you). The characteristics you listed are not necessary bad but speak to certain priorities. For example, intelligence is not your list. IQ has nothing to do with being a bitch or having more than a BS, but it is clearly something you don't care much about. So yes, your girlfriends are dumb, and so are you (but then we know this already).

Why must you resort to ad hominem attacks?

Ok ill admit smart is on my list but as I get older I realize in general that just being easy to be around is much more rewarding on a daily basis.

My current GF went to a top tier school and has a great professional gig.

But would I be less attracted to her if she went to a mid range school and had ten less IQ points? I don't think so

That's be awfully shallow of me!

When you make lists the longer they get the more useless they are. Being nice warm and wanting to make a home seem to be at the top of mine.

Kill me for wanting a nice girl!

I quoted the oft repeated list of the four sixes here as a way to mock them actually.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

So which of those characteristics do you think are sick?

And where did you get the idea I want to boss anyone around? It's impossible to be sweet and easy going without being a sycophant?

So if you take my list and use opposite words that's what you would prefer?

Bitchy, prude, hard to deal with, cold, ugly and masculine?

That sounds like a great list!

The first problem is that you actually have the list. the other is priorities in your list. women who want 6 packs as one of their top priorities are just as dumb as women you are looking for (which is why it appears to work for you). The characteristics you listed are not necessary bad but speak to certain priorities. For example, intelligence is not your list. IQ has nothing to do with being a bitch or having more than a BS, but it is clearly something you don't care much about. So yes, your girlfriends are dumb, and so are you (but then we know this already).

Just go on facebook and find the guys in college that you put in the friendzone for being too boring. They'll probably fulfill your criterion now.

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

So which of those characteristics do you think are sick?

And where did you get the idea I want to boss anyone around? It's impossible to be sweet and easy going without being a sycophant?

So if you take my list and use opposite words that's what you would prefer?

Bitchy, prude, hard to deal with, cold, ugly and masculine?

That sounds like a great list!

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

12:08 is clearly the pervert from the 'no dating 40yo' thread. read it, if you haven't, and things will be clear to you.

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. 12:08, thanks for checking off your sick qualifications for us. So sure that's accurate and you're swimming in bitches. BTW: Not every guy wants a submissive, dumb female he can boss around, so don't claim to speak for all men.

?? Sick? Dumb??