Anonymous
12/23/2013 01:36
Subject: DW's Affair
This is what you should do:
1) document whatever evidence you can
2) contact a lawyer
3) if youre still attracted to her, fuck her harder than you ever have before next time you can. I loved that scene in rescue me.
1) document whatever evidence you can
2) contact a lawyer
3) if youre still attracted to her, fuck her harder than you ever have before next time you can. I loved that scene in rescue me.
Anonymous
12/21/2013 19:51
Subject: DW's Affair
Where is the OP? Update.
Anonymous
12/19/2013 19:26
Subject: DW's Affair
Like I said before and have read on this forum too many times to count- relationship issues are shared but affairs are all on the cheater, you make a choice to do the wrong thing whether it is out of weakness or fear it is still cowardly and in no way honorable or excusable.
Says who?
Last I checked this was a heliocentric solar system and the sun, not your personal opinion, is at the center so I'm sure you'll understand if others don't share your sentiments.
Anonymous
12/19/2013 17:30
Subject: DW's Affair
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:They are both equally responsible for the state of their relationship- only weak willed cowards cheat to solve their problems. You must be a cheater to try and rationalize why lying and risking your spouses health is EVER okay, if you want out GTFO or deal with your problems, hell even establish an open relationship if you feel the need- but cheaters are the only one's at fault for cheating. Period.Anonymous wrote:
Ahhh...the solace of subjective perception.
Makes it so easy to call others cowards doesn't it?
so sneaking around, and lying to meet you own needs instead of being honest about them or having them met in an honest way is not being cowardly?
I don't think it's cowardly at all.
I think it's selfish without question - but I doubt there is anyone on this planet who isn't susceptible to the snares of selfish behavior.
The fact that you are so insistent in your sweeping indictment of others actions with no consideration for individual circumstance suggests that you, yourself, are selfish about your convictions.
People have their weak moments and make mistakes, I leave room for people to be human. But you are actually defending selfish and cowardly behavior and calling me selfish for my beliefs? How the F did you get there? Under some misguided excuse making for awful, selfish, cruel, cowardly decisions in your life?
If someone slips and is remorseful that is one thing, if someone lies continually and gaslights their significant other to meet their selfish needs and when confronted lies some more...how is that not cowardly? How is risking your SO sexual health behind their back not cowardly?
Like I said before and have read on this forum too many times to count- relationship issues are shared but affairs are all on the cheater, you make a choice to do the wrong thing whether it is out of weakness or fear it is still cowardly and in no way honorable or excusable.
Anonymous
12/19/2013 13:52
Subject: DW's Affair
Man Here.
First, I'm a regular at SurvivingInfidelity.com, so I too have "BTDT" (I know what you meant).
Don't tip your hand. You're probably emotional and it's taking the form of anger or extreme hurt (or both). Right now, however you need to think clearly about the endgame. Confronting her will do very little in court. The best thing you can do is to build a case and collect evidence. Talk to a lawyer and make sure she doesn't know you're on to her.
When you have enough of a case, then you can follow your attorney's advice on how to proceed. In my case, I left the minute I read her emails about their weekend together and saw the explicit photos that they were sending back and forth. My leaving was considered abandoning the family, and apparently oral sex isn't considered adultery in some places. Go figure.
Get your facts and case together else you can end up paying alimony for something you didn't do.
First, I'm a regular at SurvivingInfidelity.com, so I too have "BTDT" (I know what you meant).
Don't tip your hand. You're probably emotional and it's taking the form of anger or extreme hurt (or both). Right now, however you need to think clearly about the endgame. Confronting her will do very little in court. The best thing you can do is to build a case and collect evidence. Talk to a lawyer and make sure she doesn't know you're on to her.
When you have enough of a case, then you can follow your attorney's advice on how to proceed. In my case, I left the minute I read her emails about their weekend together and saw the explicit photos that they were sending back and forth. My leaving was considered abandoning the family, and apparently oral sex isn't considered adultery in some places. Go figure.
Get your facts and case together else you can end up paying alimony for something you didn't do.