Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell them that it upsets you and see what they say. Try not to be petulant about it, but genuinely disapppointed.

I'm pretty sure of I went to my dad saying I'm worried the stone might leave the family if there's no prenup and that I'm hurt I wasn't given a ring too - my parents would be disgusted with by my jealousy and probably walk on eggshells around me in the future. My dad might even yell "mind your own Goddamn business!"

OP, I wouldn't share these thoughts with anyone. You'll only embarass yourself and cause unnecessary stress for your family.

I'm sure this isn't funny to you PP but it made me laugh. I know exactly what you are talking about. My parents would do the exact same thing!

Well, actually since I have seen my dad yell this at other people trying to bully his children, I do think it's hilarious and I love him for it. Thankfully he hasn't had reason to yell that at me thus far in life, but I'm sure he would if I seriously overstepped and tried to tell my siblings how to run their lives.

I hear you, OP. It's hard. My parents paid for med school for my sister (which she insists was paid for by appreciation of the condo they bought for her) and law school for my brother. I was not offered money for my MSW.

I think I can beat this

I have a younger sister. I got married first, but we didn't have a wedding. Our families live in different parts of the world, and my parents were not happy I was marrying him. We barely got any congratulations, not to mention any gifts.

My sister had a lavish wedding a few years later in our home country which my parents organized and paid for.

This was years ago, and the dynamics are much different now. My parents wanted to fix this - after my sister's wedding and realizing how unequal this must all seem to me, my dad said he was planning to give me a large amount of cash as a belated wedding gift, but then they got into a lot of financial difficulties and my sister and I support them now. Actually my sister just paid off their mortgage for them. My parents also adore DH now.

My point is, you never know the thought behind something like this, and you shouldn't assume it came from a place where they intended to give you less. I would let it go.

Anonymous wrote:OP, try to pinpoint the source of your feelings. Is it that the jewelry is symbolic of something deeper, i.e. you feel like your parents love your brother more than you, are you deep-down jealous of him, are you really sentimental and now feel that you have lost this piece of your family? The third is the easiest fix, IMO. Speak up and ask for something meaningful that you will want one day and realize that the diamond is still in your family just not with you. The other two will take more work to "fix" but you may get better advice if you can speak to why you are upset. FWIW, I would be upset too but more so for the first reason and b/c I don't think my brother is a good son to my parents.

the diamond might or might not stay in the family.