Anonymous wrote:are these snoring husbands fat?

that usually contributes in a big way

i'd rather get thin and sleep with my wife than be fat and snore in a room alone

Like a PP, my husband is also thin. So, weight is not the issue. If fact, he was very skinny when we were just dating, and he still snored then.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function.

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Leaving aside interpretations of THIS, let's get back to the base question: why do you have to sleep in the same bed for this to be the sort of sex you and your husband have?

I agree. Some people sleep well together and some people don't. Couples should do whatever works for them so that they can get restful sleep.

To think that you have a bad marriage, cheating spouses or terrible sex, because you are not sleeping together or not using your bedroom for sex, actually says a lot more about the state of your marriage and sex life in my opinion.

"Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function."

Leaving aside interpretations of THIS, let's get back to the base question: why do you have to sleep in the same bed for this to be the sort of sex you and your husband have?

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Anonymous wrote:pathetic. you could get the same experience from a prostitute. a shared bed is shared intimacy. get counseling.

Different strokes for different folks. Why the hate? We are not hurting you.

Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function.

And, I presume you have to save yourself from those nights when you wake up with a wet pussy and he's just a convenient warm body next to you. Because I'll bet he'd hate that.

What man would say no to a wet pussy?

I can find my wife's pussy just fine. We may not sleep in the same bed but she does me all over the house. Maybe you are boring in the bedroom.

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Anonymous wrote:pathetic. you could get the same experience from a prostitute. a shared bed is shared intimacy. get counseling.

Different strokes for different folks. Why the hate? We are not hurting you.

Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function.

And, I presume you have to save yourself from those nights when you wake up with a wet pussy and he's just a convenient warm body next to you. Because I'll bet he'd hate that.

Nope. When I wake up with a wet pussy, I tip-toe to his room. I wake him up by doing naughty things to him.

Then we are at it like bunnies again.

Did I answer your very astute question?

Anonymous wrote:It's funny the stuff that makes us cringe: I have no beef whatsoever with people who sleep separately from their spouses. (I've been out of town this week, sleeping alone, and I've been sleeping four hundred gazillion times better than usual; I wish we had a spare bedroom I could sleep in about half the time.) I don't see that as a step toward divorce - a step away from it, actually, since it means that the person who usually can't sleep will be less resentful toward their snoring spouse.

But the people who sleep with their kids are giving me the willies! Folks who do that - is it a good situation for you and the kids? Everyone's getting enough sleep? Parents aren't instilling any weird messages about over-availability to the kids?

Nope. This is a white person problem in my opinion. Many cultures have a parent sleep with their kids. These children grow up secure. You do not see adult children wanting their parents in bed anywhere in the world, right?

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Anonymous wrote:pathetic. you could get the same experience from a prostitute. a shared bed is shared intimacy. get counseling.

Different strokes for different folks. Why the hate? We are not hurting you.

Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function.

And, I presume you have to save yourself from those nights when you wake up with a wet pussy and he's just a convenient warm body next to you. Because I'll bet he'd hate that.