Anonymous wrote:There are so many people on this thread who are experts on what is normal. I had no idea Masters and Johnson were in our midst. I'm honored.

Normal is a continuum. Normal is not what you decide it to be because you believe a lot of sex is normal and healthy and right and good. Normal is widespread on the continuum and people who have sex a few times a year also fall on the continuum of normal.

I wonder why the "Masters and Johnsons" of this thread are trying so hard.

Read the poster above you. That is a normal reaction to a dead marriage and is probably typical for the unsexed other spouses that people (mainly women) are claiming "works for them".

There are so many people on this thread who are experts on what is normal. I had no idea Masters and Johnson were in our midst. I'm honored.

Normal is a continuum. Normal is not what you decide it to be because you believe a lot of sex is normal and healthy and right and good. Normal is widespread on the continuum and people who have sex a few times a year also fall on the continuum of normal.

I wonder why the "Masters and Johnsons" of this thread are trying so hard.

Anonymous wrote:At one point, my wife and I were having sex every 3 - 6 weeks. I finally talked to her about it. The talk made her sad. However, I was surprised to find out that she thought I was cool with it. Turns out that being a laid back husband, trying to give her the space she needed, and not focusing on sex backfired on me. Contrary to what I'd been led to believe, pushing for sex can be the right thing to do.

We're up to once every week or two. Still not as frequent as I'd like; but loads more tolerable.

So is it "duty" sex or does your wife activity participate? It has been 9 Sexless years for my DW and I. And 9years ago, It was just to conceive my Daughter. So that was one and done each time. My DW has always been a One and Done type. The second and third time for me is the most fun. The second is the longest, but my DW is a "Are you done yet?" type so we have never gone past one. So the last sexless 9years were bad, but the 10+ years of boring maybe once a month sex before that was bad too. I too was a laid back and give her space DH. I really should have divorced her over 18years ago, but I love me my kids.

Anonymous wrote:Once a month is ideal for us at this point.
Watch out for overly sexed guys, they cheat.

Yet another poster with an ABNORMAL relationship with sex and probably a husband with a terrible case of blue balls.

We had a sexless marriage for nearly 10 years. We got it back on track about 8 months ago. It is possible. But it took something drastic -- me almost cheating.

At one point, my wife and I were having sex every 3 - 6 weeks. I finally talked to her about it. The talk made her sad. However, I was surprised to find out that she thought I was cool with it. Turns out that being a laid back husband, trying to give her the space she needed, and not focusing on sex backfired on me. Contrary to what I'd been led to believe, pushing for sex can be the right thing to do.

We're up to once every week or two. Still not as frequent as I'd like; but loads more tolerable.

Anonymous wrote:Once a month is ideal for us at this point.
Watch out for overlysexed guys, they cheat.

Undersexed guys cheat.

Once a month is ideal for us at this point.
Watch out for overly sexed guys, they cheat.

Anonymous wrote:When I was pregnant we had sex every single day. After I gave birth, my husband couldn't wait to jump my bones. And I was fat as hell.

It's not normal for two young healthy people to go weeks, months, without sex. I'm old now and still get it at least once a week.

Because you are in a HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP. Theses people going MONTHS Or YEARS without sex are not normal[u]…unless both spouses have some sort of major health problem, or hormonal imbalance. However like the hundreds of miserable people posting on these forums I would bet that one spouse is living in complete sexual misery with forced celibacy. The non-sexual spouse is just living in delusion thinking that somehow their significant other is "happy". Only thing happy is the happy ending the other is getting at the end of his massage.

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Anonymous wrote:A year+ is not unusual - re pregnancy/birth of a new baby.

Life can throw you a curve ball - illness, operations, perhaps even disability. A couple has to be prepared for the possibility that bad things might happen ~ and not whine when they aren't getting enough, in the way they want.

THIS IS NOT NORMAL PEOPLE!!! NOT NORMAL AT ALL!!!

Go f- yourself. It may not be normal but it isn't fatal.

I don't need to fuck myself. I get to fuck my husband...you know, like normal regular fucking that husband and wife engage in a few times a week.

YOU ARE ABNORMAL IF YOU ARE GOING a year+ without sex. That is not even a marriage, that is a roommate.

I worry for your marriage. what happens if one of u gets I'll?
you will have nothing.

Don't worry for me. I am in a healthy realtionship and am actually married, unlike you sharing a bed with your best buddy. I'd bet that your spouse gets some paid action on the side.

We had sex all through my pregnancies. Less at the end. I could not wait to be clears after birth.

Aside from that 2 weeks max. I have a stronger frequency desire than dh usually.

People are different. We have sex once every few months and it's fine.

When it comes to sex drive, some people are rabbits and some are turtles. They each have trouble understanding how the other sort put up with it. As long as rabbits marry rabbits and turtles marry turtles, the underlying relationship should turn out just fine.

why be worried? I have plenty of sex I am not that other poster.
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think a marriage that is solid even without sex is solid.
these others seem to say their marriage needs sex every week to keep things good between them. that is scary shit

When I was pregnant we had sex every single day. After I gave birth, my husband couldn't wait to jump my bones. And I was fat as hell.

It's not normal for two young healthy people to go weeks, months, without sex. I'm old now and still get it at least once a week.