this is just a poor excuse. just set up new account like you should have done a long time ago. all this drama for no reason.Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:WTF. You guys can't open another account? Your major living expenses are paid for by an account your DH's mom funded when he was a minor? That's pathetic. Either set up a separate account for the earnings you both have now … or live with the fact that it is HIS AND HIS MOM'S MONEY - you are sucking at the MIL teat in that case - grow up and accept it.
No, we have more than one account. This particular account, however, has many drafts coming out/money coming in from a business. It's a large headache to move all of it to another account. Again, why does it matter if she's on it-- it's her name on it. She doesn't have a card linked to it (that she uses but I understand she *can* have one) and she doesn't check statements nor does she frequent the bank. Why should she stay on it?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with the PPs -- keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the discussion between MIL and DH. Let DH handle it (and FWIW, you are 100% right to get her off the account, and PPs who say "just get a new account" don't understand what a headache that can be when you have been using that account for business purposes).
For now, pick a stock reply: "MIL, this is between you and DH. I'm not getting involved." Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep track of how many times you say it. If you say it more than 5 times a day, you get a mani-pedi.
Jesus. Another bright individual. Thank you!
You're not looking for advice, you're looking for validation.
Twit.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with the PPs -- keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the discussion between MIL and DH. Let DH handle it (and FWIW, you are 100% right to get her off the account, and PPs who say "just get a new account" don't understand what a headache that can be when you have been using that account for business purposes).
For now, pick a stock reply: "MIL, this is between you and DH. I'm not getting involved." Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep track of how many times you say it. If you say it more than 5 times a day, you get a mani-pedi.
Jesus. Another bright individual. Thank you!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't permit her to yell at you. Hang up if she does.
Someone who reads! Thank you for advice and answering my question!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with the PPs -- keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the discussion between MIL and DH. Let DH handle it (and FWIW, you are 100% right to get her off the account, and PPs who say "just get a new account" don't understand what a headache that can be when you have been using that account for business purposes).
For now, pick a stock reply: "MIL, this is between you and DH. I'm not getting involved." Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep track of how many times you say it. If you say it more than 5 times a day, you get a mani-pedi.
Jesus. Another bright individual. Thank you!
So Op - all you're really looking for is a pity party and people to validate how long-suffering you are? Seems like you don't want to actually DO anything proactive to change the dynamic, you just want to complain and play the martyr.
You and your husband made a stupid business decision with your bank account and you're too lazy to correct it. There's an easy fix there. And avoiding a MIL or deciding not to participate in the drama is doable also. But it's MUCH more rewarding to bitch endless instead huh?
I'm really starting to feel for the MIL here.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with the PPs -- keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the discussion between MIL and DH. Let DH handle it (and FWIW, you are 100% right to get her off the account, and PPs who say "just get a new account" don't understand what a headache that can be when you have been using that account for business purposes).
For now, pick a stock reply: "MIL, this is between you and DH. I'm not getting involved." Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep track of how many times you say it. If you say it more than 5 times a day, you get a mani-pedi.
Jesus. Another bright individual. Thank you!