Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in middle school and her teacher been hugging and kissing her since 6th grade and I just found out about it her 7th grade year. The CPS case was ruled out for sexual abuse. My question is how can this teacher pay for the things he has done and said to my daughter?

In US and Western countries, this might not be okay but if you go to other countries like Africa, it is absolutely okay if it is the same gender.

Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician here.

This is absolutely not ok.

This is not the French teacher giving a peck to her student when she sees her at the park.

This is a teacher kissing a child only when alone and only showing this "affection" to this child alone. Huge red flags to me.

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Teacher and DC are same gender. DC says the teacher does not kiss other students and that this happens when other students can't see it. This apparently has happened more than once but I'm just now hearing about it from DC. I reiterated that our body is our private space and no one is allowed to touch us without our permission and that no one at school should be asking to do so.

Anonymous wrote:Pediatrician here.

This is absolutely not ok.

This is not the French teacher giving a peck to her student when she sees her at the park.

This is a teacher kissing a child only when alone and only showing this "affection" to this child alone. Huge red flags to me.

Anonymous wrote:

My son's second grade teacher did this at a private school. Unless it bothers you or your child, let your child feel loved & cared for by his/her teacher. Most teachers will never make a child feel as special as that teacher. His teacher even kissed my check on the last day of school.

Anonymous wrote:Maybe possibly that French air kiss thing, if it's the French teacher. Otherwise no.

One thing that I think that teachers need to understand is that even if their intentions are caring and innocent and they don't harm a child directly in anyway, when we normalize poor boundaries with students. I want my students to know that good teachers don't ask you to stay alone in a room with them unless the door is glass or open and there are other people about. They don't kiss you. They ask before they touch you at all, unless they're pulling you back from traffic, and respect your request not to be touched, etc . . . I want them to know this, not because they need to be protected from me, but because it increases the likelihood that they'll recognize a grooming situation as wrong and bring it to someone's attention.