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Anonymous wrote:I don't dislike Sundays, but Sunday nights can be despressing. I enjoy having fun with friends, having children over to our home, going out to lunch or dinner on a whim, watching movies. I like my job, but am looking forward to quitting one day. I feel like life is too short to work - DH loves his job and makes good $$$, so he can take over the lion's share of $$ as far as I'm concerned.

I hate to hijack the thread, but why do so many women feel this way. Like their jobs but would rather not work. Are women in general just bad lazier than men, have less ambition (if so, why), have lower expectations of themselves, don't enjoy challenging themselves (at work and at balancing work/life)?

Perhaps they aren't defined by their jobs and find great satisfaction and fulfillment in engaging with their families. For most mothers I know (many dads too) a great part-time job is like the holy grail, but it is an option for very few.

What I don't understand is people who go out of their way to cast aspersions on other people's well-considered life choices.

I'm not solely defined by my career but it is a piece of who I am. I'm also a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, school activity coordinator, coach, runner, crossfit trainer, on and on.... I'm just trying to understand the perspective of many women that don't feel the need that pull at work. Like pp described of her DH I get a high from my career and couldn't marine my life without it. Just like I can't imagine my life without my kids, DH, and family. I don't find it difficult but more of an exciting challenge to balance work life and I enjoy every minute of it. I'm just trying to figure out why this lifestyle choice is more prevalent in men. My neighborhood is mostly SAHMs and I get a few comments about how they can't figure out how I have the time to do all that I do, but it's really not that hard and I imagine I'd be bored to tears to stay home as most men would be. I'm wondering why you don't feel this drive.

Honestly, I would be disappointed if my DD became a SAHM and wasted her talents that could impact the community, country , or possibly the world as well as her family.

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Anonymous wrote:and I usually bake something really delicious on Sunday afternoon, and enjoy plotting the recipe. I work full time and love having the weekends with my family.

That is the difference between you and OP, you like your family. She started a family because that is what was expected of her.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised and depressed that so many people go to church.

What a weird statement.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't dislike Sundays, but Sunday nights can be despressing. I enjoy having fun with friends, having children over to our home, going out to lunch or dinner on a whim, watching movies. I like my job, but am looking forward to quitting one day. I feel like life is too short to work - DH loves his job and makes good $$$, so he can take over the lion's share of $$ as far as I'm concerned.

I hate to hijack the thread, but why do so many women feel this way. Like their jobs but would rather not work. Are women in general just bad lazier than men, have less ambition (if so, why), have lower expectations of themselves, don't enjoy challenging themselves (at work and at balancing work/life)?

Perhaps they aren't defined by their jobs and find great satisfaction and fulfillment in engaging with their families. For most mothers I know (many dads too) a great part-time job is like the holy grail, but it is an option for very few.

What I don't understand is people who go out of their way to cast aspersions on other people's well-considered life choices.

I'm not solely defined by my career but it is a piece of who I am. I'm also a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, school activity coordinator, coach, runner, crossfit trainer, on and on.... I'm just trying to understand the perspective of many women that don't feel the need that pull at work. Like pp described of her DH I get a high from my career and couldn't marine my life without it. Just like I can't imagine my life without my kids, DH, and family. I don't find it difficult but more of an exciting challenge to balance work life and I enjoy every minute of it. I'm just trying to figure out why this lifestyle choice is more prevalent in men. My neighborhood is mostly SAHMs and I get a few comments about how they can't figure out how I have the time to do all that I do, but it's really not that hard and I imagine I'd be bored to tears to stay home as most men would be. I'm wondering why you don't feel this drive.

Honestly, I would be disappointed if my DD became a SAHM and wasted her talents that could impact the community, country , or possibly the world as well as her family.

That's actually pretty closed-minded. I can appreciate that you get a "high" from work. Similarly, others get a "high" from being there for their children, for being room mothers, volunteers, or girl scout troop leaders. I do work, but I am conflicted about it. My kids often ask me why I'm not there when they have a day off from school. Many of the neighborhood moms are SAHMs and those kids get to play together on holidays or during the summer. My kids are in camps or at my parents' for the day. It breaks my heart that they just want me around. I think I'd be perfectly content as a SAHM. I just don't get the judgment, that's all. Why can't we just respect that what makes one person fulfilled is not necessarily what drives another. Your post seems a little smug to me.

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised and depressed that so many people go to church.

Anonymous wrote:and I usually bake something really delicious on Sunday afternoon, and enjoy plotting the recipe. I work full time and love having the weekends with my family.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't dislike Sundays, but Sunday nights can be despressing. I enjoy having fun with friends, having children over to our home, going out to lunch or dinner on a whim, watching movies. I like my job, but am looking forward to quitting one day. I feel like life is too short to work - DH loves his job and makes good $$$, so he can take over the lion's share of $$ as far as I'm concerned.

I hate to hijack the thread, but why do so many women feel this way. Like their jobs but would rather not work. Are women in general just bad lazier than men, have less ambition (if so, why), have lower expectations of themselves, don't enjoy challenging themselves (at work and at balancing work/life)?

Perhaps they aren't defined by their jobs and find great satisfaction and fulfillment in engaging with their families. For most mothers I know (many dads too) a great part-time job is like the holy grail, but it is an option for very few.

What I don't understand is people who go out of their way to cast aspersions on other people's well-considered life choices.

I'm not solely defined by my career but it is a piece of who I am. I'm also a mother, wife, daughter, sister, friend, school activity coordinator, coach, runner, crossfit trainer, on and on.... I'm just trying to understand the perspective of many women that don't feel the need that pull at work. Like pp described of her DH I get a high from my career and couldn't marine my life without it. Just like I can't imagine my life without my kids, DH, and family. I don't find it difficult but more of an exciting challenge to balance work life and I enjoy every minute of it. I'm just trying to figure out why this lifestyle choice is more prevalent in men. My neighborhood is mostly SAHMs and I get a few comments about how they can't figure out how I have the time to do all that I do, but it's really not that hard and I imagine I'd be bored to tears to stay home as most men would be. I'm wondering why you don't feel this drive.

Honestly, I would be disappointed if my DD became a SAHM and wasted her talents that could impact the community, country , or possibly the world as well as her family.

Anonymous wrote:I have structured my life to make every day like your Sunday -- low-stress job, no kids, introverted DH. Ahhh, heavenly.