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Anonymous wrote:PP...totally agree. This (to me) has nothing to do with south vs. north. mean kids everywhere.

there ARE more south arlington kids who did not have 2-yo of preschool experience before entering K, so yes you see more 'unruly' kids in south elementary schools who need to learn to line up quietly AND patiently wait for the other 20 kids to do the same before they can go eat. some need more than 20 days to master that.

PP was referencing the amount of mean kids in north v south. You are pointing to the amount of kids attending two years of preschool on north v south. Two entirely different issues. Both true, but totally different. Not sure why you quoted pp.

Anonymous wrote:PP...totally agree. This (to me) has nothing to do with south vs. north. mean kids everywhere.

there ARE more south arlington kids who did not have 2-yo of preschool experience before entering K, so yes you see more 'unruly' kids in south elementary schools who need to learn to line up quietly AND patiently wait for the other 20 kids to do the same before they can go eat. some need more than 20 days to master that.

To OP's comment that she's offered to volunteer in the classroom... I know at our school, the teachers wait til after the first P/T conference before allowing volunteers in. It is so they can get classroom control before 'helpful' parents could possibly derail things.

PP...totally agree. This (to me) has nothing to do with south vs. north. mean kids everywhere.

Anonymous wrote:Easier said than done when its not your kid. Seriously, what OP described would really upset me if it were my child.

me too but i wouldn't make the assumption that s arlington kids are mean.

Easier said than done when its not your kid. Seriously, what OP described would really upset me if it were my child.

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Anonymous wrote:Umm maybe these kids have only had 20 days of school so far in their lives, while yours has been in schools for what two years?

While that may be true, I doubt that that is the reason. One of my kids did not go to preschool at all and the others spent a half day two or three times a week in preschool. None of them ever behaved as these kids are behaving in K and we never encountered such behavior from other children.

point is you've gotta give the teacher/school some time to work with these kids. they are 5 year olds, most of them are not going to be 'mean' the rest of their life, trust me.

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Anonymous wrote:Duh there's a boundary, my point is that it's not an east/west split. If you live south of Rt 50, you are very unlikely to be sending your child to Key.

You are also very unlikely to send your child to Key if you live along the western edge of the county -- Ashlawn, McKinley, Tuckahoe, Nottingham (which is 1/2 the northern boundary as well).

It's not exact, but it's definitely more of a east/west split instead of north/south.

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Yep. Poor kids should be segregated in schools with other poor kids, where they can hit and pinch each other and never learn anything. Good thing privileged people have no moral obligation to children other than their own and can feel good about removing their kids from these situations. Why try to create a better situation for all by creating a reasonable balance of diversity across all schools, if it might create the tiniest negative impact on your highly-privileged kid?

Spoken by someone who either sends her kid to private school or a public school in a "good"neighborhood.

No, I was being sarcastic. I am white and upper middle class and send my kids to their neighborhood school in South Arlington, which is 22% white and 55% FARMS.

I understand not segregating on purpose, but don't understand sending your kid to a lower quality school if you could better quality one. 55% FARMS kids whatever color they usually = low school readiness overall.

Not sure how many ways people can say this. South Arlington schools are Arlington schools. Going to a "lower quality" Arlington school is like going to the lowest-ranked Ivy, compared to public schools in most of the rest of the country. I'm not worried about the quality of my kids education and if I can help other kids at the school by being active and engaged, so much the better.

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Anonymous wrote:

Yep. Poor kids should be segregated in schools with other poor kids, where they can hit and pinch each other and never learn anything. Good thing privileged people have no moral obligation to children other than their own and can feel good about removing their kids from these situations. Why try to create a better situation for all by creating a reasonable balance of diversity across all schools, if it might create the tiniest negative impact on your highly-privileged kid?

Spoken by someone who either sends her kid to private school or a public school in a "good"neighborhood.

No, I was being sarcastic. I am white and upper middle class and send my kids to their neighborhood school in South Arlington, which is 22% white and 55% FARMS.

I understand not segregating on purpose, but don't understand sending your kid to a lower quality school if you could better quality one. 55% FARMS kids whatever color they usually = low school readiness overall.

Anonymous wrote:

Yep. Poor kids should be segregated in schools with other poor kids, where they can hit and pinch each other and never learn anything. Good thing privileged people have no moral obligation to children other than their own and can feel good about removing their kids from these situations. Why try to create a better situation for all by creating a reasonable balance of diversity across all schools, if it might create the tiniest negative impact on your highly-privileged kid?

Spoken by someone who either sends her kid to private school or a public school in a "good"neighborhood.

No, I was being sarcastic. I am white and upper middle class and send my kids to their neighborhood school in South Arlington, which is 22% white and 55% FARMS.

Umm maybe these kids have only had 20 days of school so far in their lives, while yours has been in schools for what two years?

No. Kids who behave like this also behave like this at home and in their neighborhood. A teacher can handle a handful of kids like this in a class, but when there are more than that, it becomes quite a challenge.

Yep. Poor kids should be segregated in schools with other poor kids, where they can hit and pinch each other and never learn anything. Good thing privileged people have no moral obligation to children other than their own and can feel good about removing their kids from these situations. Why try to create a better situation for all by creating a reasonable balance of diversity across all schools, if it might create the tiniest negative impact on your highly-privileged kid?

Spoken by someone who either sends her kid to private school or a public school in a "good"neighborhood.

Anonymous wrote:Umm maybe these kids have only had 20 days of school so far in their lives, while yours has been in schools for what two years?

While that may be true, I doubt that that is the reason. One of my kids did not go to preschool at all and the others spent a half day two or three times a week in preschool. None of them ever behaved as these kids are behaving in K and we never encountered such behavior from other children.

OP, even with conferences being next week, you might want to send an email to the teacher ahead of time describing the situation in the detail you have described it here. That way she has a heads up and can make an effort to find out what's going on before you talk to her.

I give your daughter credit- I think mine at that age would have wanted to stay home every day if that's what she had to look forward to at school. Good luck to you.