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Anonymous

10/02/2013 20:55 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:I slept with my fiancee on the third date. I think the rules that we've created regarding when it's appropriate to have sex are silly. If you want to do it, do it. If he wants to date you, he'll keep dating you, and as a bonus you get to have great sex. If he just wants sex, he'll stop wining and dining you, and you'll be able to spot it from a mile away.

I am glad that it worked out for you. But if you don't know why there is a general rule, you are very naive...

Anonymous

10/02/2013 20:43 Subject: Re:Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:OP here- I don't think we'll see each other again. I think he's blowing me off, which is fine I'm not sure i want to get involved w/someone who pulls this crap. And if he does reach out im going to let him know im no longer interested. Btw, I failed to mention that he's 52!!! Lol obviously, he should know how to take care of his blue balls instead of blaming me for his discomfort for days. Really???

Wow, I was picturing a guy in his 20s. Sounds like a guy who never grew up. Glad he showed his true colors early!

Anonymous

10/02/2013 20:40 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I'm a PP, bad sign. Knowing what I know now in my 30s, I would move on. Sounds like a major guilt monger. And loser. Who texts that to someone? It's so blaming. Tell him he should've prevented his boner by thinking about his mom in the shower next time so he won't be in 'such pain.' He should 'know better' because 'magic vaginas' rule the world and make men miserable.

Dude is too stupid to masturbate?

Anonymous

10/02/2013 18:17 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i had sex with my now husband on date #2. but we were in our 20's...does that matter?

yes, b/c according to the puritans who lurk here, you're both going to hell, of course after you divorce....

It's not about going to hell. The reality is, having sex with someone is an emotional and physical risk, especially if you are a woman, since women can get pregnant, are more likely to contract stds, and often get more emotionally involved if they have sex.

Waiting gives you time to get to know the person better and see if he is worth that risk.

Or to figure out if he's in it for just sex or more. I'm not against sex on the first date; however, it's more of a risk for it to be just sex.

Anonymous

10/02/2013 17:05 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i had sex with my now husband on date #2. but we were in our 20's...does that matter?

yes, b/c according to the puritans who lurk here, you're both going to hell, of course after you divorce....

It's not about going to hell. The reality is, having sex with someone is an emotional and physical risk, especially if you are a woman, since women can get pregnant, are more likely to contract stds, and often get more emotionally involved if they have sex.

Waiting gives you time to get to know the person better and see if he is worth that risk.

Anonymous

10/02/2013 17:02 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Had sex w/ DW on 2nd date, just had 25th anniversary ... I wouldn't necessarily recommend that esp. these days and I probably wouldn't do it (we were pre-AIDs, etc. back then) but we're still alive & kicking together.

Anonymous

10/02/2013 16:19 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:i had sex with my now husband on date #2. but we were in our 20's...does that matter?

yes, b/c according to the puritans who lurk here, you're both going to hell, of course after you divorce....

Anonymous

10/02/2013 16:00 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

i had sex with my now husband on date #2. but we were in our 20's...does that matter?

Anonymous

10/02/2013 15:44 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:He's 52??? How old are you? if you're over 40, there's no reason to "Wait"

Op here - I am we'll over 40 and I had no idea that age played into when to have sex? I don't care how old I am, I'm not going to have sex w/ someone if I don't want to- has nothing to do w/age. And I still think if you rush into sex it can set the tone of the relationship. There are obviously exceptions but the majority of time it does.

Anonymous

10/02/2013 15:03 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

if he's 52 and hasn't figured out how to jerk off and relieve his blue balls, that's yet another reason you don't want him around.

Anonymous

10/02/2013 14:52 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:He's 52??? How old are you? if you're over 40, there's no reason to "Wait"

The reason to "wait" is to find out if the person you're seeing is a normal human being or an immature twat.

Luckily OP waited and got her answer!

Anonymous

10/02/2013 02:30 Subject: Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

He's 52??? How old are you? if you're over 40, there's no reason to "Wait"

Anonymous

10/01/2013 17:11 Subject: Re:Sex on second date? -guys insight needed

Anonymous wrote:[.

Blue-balls hurt, but there is a cure that does not involve you.

Yup, he found a better looking less overthinking cure for his blue balls.
live and learn , OP

Obviously he didnt find anything for his cure or else he wouldn't be giving her crap for days of discomfort. The guy needs to get aquainted w/ his hand!