33 here and I'd probably go up to mid forties. And date a guy as young as 28 probably. I have gay male friends that are 40 and up. And female friends that are as young as 23, oldest is 38.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 38, married, but am considering divorcing my Dh for a 51 year old man. He is also married and considering ending it with his wife for me.

He is not rich, by any means. We first met when I was 19 and he was 32, and were very attracted to each other, but never dated because we were both uncomfortable with the age difference.

You seem perfect for each other. Truly.

I'm 30 and wouldn't date 45 either. My parents just cracked 50 this year, so that might have something to do with it. I prefer men late 20s to mid 30s. I think dating late 30s is being open enough, but I really prefer not to.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and would not go lower than 35 or older than 48 and not shorter than 6'1" or heavier than 190.

However that is me. I'm not the dating police so I say date who you want. Hugh Hefner is fine by me. He's gonna die happy.

6'1?? Good luck with that, excluding 90% of men off the bat

Well I'm married to one 6'3" and never have dated a guy shorter than me when I've been in heels and I'm 5'10". Its never been hard to find tall fit guy which was always a minimum criteria.

Um you're married. How long has it been since you dated? Your pool at 35 is probably different than it was at 25.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

But have a child with a man advancing towards 35 also presents the same increasing risks. Much worse if he's older than that age.

There are risks from older fathers re autism etc. but it really starts at about 45, an age when most women can't have kids at all.

Anyway, my attack was more re her attitude than her not wanting to date guys 15 years older. Women at 30 and men at 35 should start thinking seriously about this stuff and fast. Many women want to fuck caddish alphas into their 30s, then they panic because all the nice relationship-quality men are looking for someone younger than them.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

But have a child with a man advancing towards 35 also presents the same increasing risks. Much worse if he's older than that age.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

You and all of your 30 year old friends are single, at 30. Your risk of having a downie starts increasing now. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and would not go lower than 35 or older than 48 and not shorter than 6'1" or heavier than 190.

However that is me. I'm not the dating police so I say date who you want. Hugh Hefner is fine by me. He's gonna die happy.

6'1?? Good luck with that, excluding 90% of men off the bat

Well I'm married to one 6'3" and never have dated a guy shorter than me when I've been in heels and I'm 5'10". Its never been hard to find tall fit guy which was always a minimum criteria.

I'm assuming you're fit/athletic too? I semi-apologize, being 5'10 you have a right to want at least a few inches taller. if you were 5'6 it would be different.

Though at 5'10, I love long legged girls near my height.

Yes. I am fit and refuse to be otherwise unless I'm completely hanging onto dear life...so for me I expect yhre same out of my spouse/partner. Also I live a very active life (we recently hiked Kilimanjaro) and it is important that married someone who can keep up.

Again that's ME. If two people are happy as couch potatoes-good on them.

5-10 years apart in age, so woman's age plus 7 years is a good metric. The narrower the age gap, the less likely it is that people will think he left his wife for his student/assistant/trainer and more like they met post-divorce even if she's the second wife.

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Anonymous wrote:How about you may not date someone younger than your eldest daughter without appearing creepy?

+1 I've seen it happen, and it's weird.

+2 Worse yet, when the much younger wife has a baby with you that is actually younger by several years than your oldest daughter's kids. Yuck.

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Anonymous wrote:Does not make sense to date a younger woman. However, young men should go for older women because the libidos of both parties match.

Yes it does. Baby-making.

Because these older guys are just looking to have a baby? Interesting theory.

Presumably the younger woman may want an older man who has financial resources. However, whether the woman wants a baby or not, it is probably prudent to have a child to further secure those financial resources by having a child who is a heir or for whom there is legal financial responsibility. But from the standpoint of producing the healthiest offspring, a man older than 35 is generally not a good choice to have a baby with because genetic mutations rise as he gets older and is APA.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 34 and I wouldn't give a 65 year old the time of day, are you kidding?

Exactly. I'm 30 and I wouldn't give a 45 year old the time of day. I find plenty of men in their 30s (and late 20s) to date, why would I want to date someone that much older? I would make an exception for someone who was a great match with me, but women are not so desperate that they have to date men that much older. This goes for all of my 30 year old friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and would not go lower than 35 or older than 48 and not shorter than 6'1" or heavier than 190.

However that is me. I'm not the dating police so I say date who you want. Hugh Hefner is fine by me. He's gonna die happy.

6'1?? Good luck with that, excluding 90% of men off the bat

Well I'm married to one 6'3" and never have dated a guy shorter than me when I've been in heels and I'm 5'10". Its never been hard to find tall fit guy which was always a minimum criteria.

I'm assuming you're fit/athletic too? I semi-apologize, being 5'10 you have a right to want at least a few inches taller. if you were 5'6 it would be different.

Though at 5'10, I love long legged girls near my height.

When they are dead.

Really, if the guy has some money, he will find a pretty young girl to buy things for.

An old dude with no money, forget it.

So, a few categories...
Rich guys: no age limit.
Normal working guys: I'd say 40's, still have earning potential.
No prospect guys: Strike while you are young, otherwise forget it.
No prospect HOT guys: Find an older wealthy cougar while you are young.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 35 and would not go lower than 35 or older than 48 and not shorter than 6'1" or heavier than 190.

However that is me. I'm not the dating police so I say date who you want. Hugh Hefner is fine by me. He's gonna die happy.

6'1?? Good luck with that, excluding 90% of men off the bat

Well I'm married to one 6'3" and never have dated a guy shorter than me when I've been in heels and I'm 5'10". Its never been hard to find tall fit guy which was always a minimum criteria.