Anonymous wrote:Also--the size of the house says nothing about somebody's networth. Some of the little folk may have a lot more going on than you think.

+1

This is why I try to minimize Facebook usage. Most posts are to either brag or complain and I don't want to read either. I try to post major event pics (like first day of school, Halloween, birthday, etc) and that's about it.

Also--the size of the house says nothing about somebody's networth. Some of the little folk may have a lot more going on than you think.

Well--- I think Facebook is tacky in general. DH and I aren't on it. I would never post photos, etc. It's a world of Narcissists on FB.

Anonymous wrote:OP THANK YOU FOR BEING SO CONSIDERATE FOR THE LITTLE PEOPLE

Seriously. What a douche.

Humblegrag Alert!

Having class vs klass

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Anonymous wrote:I think the fact that you "instruct" your wife and friends to do things is weird and controlling, as is the desire to be seen as not bragging at all costs - false modesty since apparently you had no hesitation in buying your McMansion in the first place?

I don't instruct my friends but my family members like mom who is Facebook happy to show off grand kids.

I notice that my friends will stand in front of their houses and do walk throughs of their renovations etc...

I don't think it matters how big or how small the house is, I think it's kind of tacky to post a bunch of pictures. But I kind of feel that way about a lot of things with facebook.

People tend to over share on facebook. People do it with vacations, too. almost all of it just seems like, "look at my beautiful, highly edited, selective portrayal of my life!"

And I think there's even a feeling of expectation -- like I feel like, gosh, if I don't post pictures of all of the amazing things in my life, is it like those things never happened? And then I realize how ridiculous that is, and that's usually when I log out of facebook.

I honestly don't understand why it's anathema to post pictures of your vacation--be it selective or not--on facebook. I don't do it often because I'm lazy and when I'm on vacation my brain shuts down. Nevertheless, I like seeing pictures of friends/colleagues when they are out and about. I could careless about the pictures of "what I ate for dinner..." but otherwise, I love seeing pictures of friends, their family, and their random postings. To claim that when people do post, they are bragging seems to me a reflection of your own issues than theirs.

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Anonymous wrote:Post away, OP. I like seeing pics of my friends' homes. I am very happy with my own nice, modestly-sized home and wouldn't be envious at all of your giant new build. Trust me, if I know where you live I know about what you spent anyway. But I would like to see what you chose as finishings, style, etc. Like HGTV but even better since I know you.

I like seeing pics of people's vacations, too. The more luxe, the better. I am happy for my friends who get to go cool places, and someday when I travel again I'll post pics too.

The "hide everything" people seem to me to be the ones who must be deeply unhappy/jealous to anticipate their success causing so much angst in others. Projecting, I'd bet.

Some people just aren't into being flashy. And whether you want to admit it or not, if you are posting a ton of pictures of your vacations and your house, et cetera, on a social media platform, then you are being flashy.

I'm the PP you quoted. Trust me, any pics I post that include my, as I said, very modest house and "vacations" (to grandma's house this year, woo hoo!) are not flashy, nor do I consider them likely to inspire others with jealousy. But thanks for the laugh!

Anonymous wrote:Post away, OP. I like seeing pics of my friends' homes. I am very happy with my own nice, modestly-sized home and wouldn't be envious at all of your giant new build. Trust me, if I know where you live I know about what you spent anyway. But I would like to see what you chose as finishings, style, etc. Like HGTV but even better since I know you.

I like seeing pics of people's vacations, too. The more luxe, the better. I am happy for my friends who get to go cool places, and someday when I travel again I'll post pics too.

The "hide everything" people seem to me to be the ones who must be deeply unhappy/jealous to anticipate their success causing so much angst in others. Projecting, I'd bet.

I don't think any PP said to "hide everything." And I think that is a fundamental problem with the prevailing attitude of our society: that NOT showing something or posting pictures of their lives equates to "hiding" or implies some kind of unhappiness.

Some people just aren't into being flashy. And whether you want to admit it or not, if you are posting a ton of pictures of your vacations and your house, et cetera, on a social media platform, then you are being flashy.

That's fine. But don't assume that those who refrain from that are "hiding" something.

I kind of view people who overshare/overpost on facebook in the same way that I view people who do a lot of PDA: They have to have an audience.

pictures or it didnt happen

Not over thinking. What you are doing sounds fine to me.

I am not sure what you want DCUM to tell you exactly? Get over it and post pics?