Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:How much it costs you to get to the wedding should not be connected to the gift, nor should the fact that you're not bringing a date. I would feel awful to give any of my cousins less than $200 for their weddings.
If you can't afford to go, then don't go and send your regrets with a proper gift.
So you think the gift is more important than her presence??
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is the above real? Oh my
YES its real. I will say we are European background and within our group that is expected.
Do I feel its over the top? HELL YES. But I wont be the only one to not do it.
My sisters gave me 2500 for my wedding.
So it's not about the spirit of giving, it's about what others think of you? Nice.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is the above real? Oh my
YES its real. I will say we are European background and within our group that is expected.
Do I feel its over the top? HELL YES. But I wont be the only one to not do it.
My sisters gave me 2500 for my wedding.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of the people on this thread live in la la land.
$200 is crazy for a gift, unless it's for your child who is getting married.
A $40 gift is completely acceptable and normal. People want you there because they want to celebrate with close friends and family; not because they think you're going to give them a ton of money and stuff. (and if they are in the opposite camp, who gives two shits about them?).
You are in no way expected to pay for your plate.
WTF?? when my close cousin married I was a bridesmaid and son was ring buy. I gave $1000. For her shower I spent 700.
This is insane, some of you are cheap. I give 200 to any old person's wedding I attend. A cousin, far more!
If parents give their kids 200, they are cheap bastard. I would rather nothing at all.
You don't seem to realize what a very small bubble you live in. . . On second thought, I'd bet that you're very deliberate about keeping that bubble small.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Some of the people on this thread live in la la land.
$200 is crazy for a gift, unless it's for your child who is getting married.
A $40 gift is completely acceptable and normal. People want you there because they want to celebrate with close friends and family; not because they think you're going to give them a ton of money and stuff. (and if they are in the opposite camp, who gives two shits about them?).
You are in no way expected to pay for your plate.
WTF?? when my close cousin married I was a bridesmaid and son was ring buy. I gave $1000. For her shower I spent 700.
This is insane, some of you are cheap. I give 200 to any old person's wedding I attend. A cousin, far more!
If parents give their kids 200, they are cheap bastard. I would rather nothing at all.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Is the above real? Oh my
YES its real. I will say we are European background and within our group that is expected.
Do I feel its over the top? HELL YES. But I wont be the only one to not do it.
My sisters gave me 2500 for my wedding.
Anonymous wrote:Is the above real? Oh my
Anonymous wrote:Some of the people on this thread live in la la land.
$200 is crazy for a gift, unless it's for your child who is getting married.
A $40 gift is completely acceptable and normal. People want you there because they want to celebrate with close friends and family; not because they think you're going to give them a ton of money and stuff. (and if they are in the opposite camp, who gives two shits about them?).
You are in no way expected to pay for your plate.
Anonymous wrote:Dear $200 gift poster, will you PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE start and advice thread in Off-Topic. DCUM needs you.