Anonymous wrote:Those saying people who let their parents or in-laws pay are losers have never been out to dinner with my FIL. He even insists on paying for MY parents if we are all together. I think it fits his self-image or something. DH and I have been worn down over the years - there are only so many things you can fight!
FIL had paid for several dinners this year at the beach so one night we planned to treat everybody. He insisted on throwing his card in, too. So it was me, DH, our two kids, my parents and my in-laws. I whispered to the waiter to put 3/4 on my card and 1/4 to my FIL's since he insisted (my dad listened when I said no!). I think it hurt his feelings because he made some long comment the next day about how when he is with his brothers they all throw a card in so he is used to doing that. Oops.
Ok, well, can you imagine if he was just as adamant about never paying for himself or treating people?
Welcome to my world.
We expect a healthy sized inheritance but boy are they not enjoying their 60s, 70s and 80s being cheapskates and putting family and friends in awkward situations.... (Ie. no, I won't come to your wedding, who would we stay with for free? No, I won't rent a car, ever. No, lets not eat out again, that $60 Ethiopian food experience for 4 adults was too costly. No, lets not eat in old town in the way to my Vernon, lets picnic, go buy a big cooler, now.).