I've just diagnosed myself with autism. I will now go forth and be a jerk to everyone.

Your husband was being a dick and using his alleged disability as an excuse. (I say "alleged" because OP says "he claims" not to diminish the diagnosis in general.)

H was totally wrong and out of line. Period.

There are so many awesome lion tattoos. I feel bad for your SIL.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't respond publicly on Facebook. Any other communication about this should be on the phone between your DH and his sister.

Frankly, one should never share something on Facebook that they can't handle a snarky remark about.

I don't think it was a snarky comment. It was downright rude and mean.

One person's snarky is another person's rude. If DH is indeed "on the spectrum," he probably thought he was being honest and direct. SIL can choose to receive responses to her posts via email as soon as they are posted so she doesn't have to go online to see them.

Ah so you are one of THOSE moms. Got it

Nope, but I have been on Facebook long enough to know that is the way it is.

Best troll post lately.

Your DH is on the spectrum all right-- the rude spectrum. Do you go around telling new moms they have ugly babies, too?

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is a dick. Sorry to be the one to break it to you.

Totally agree with this

You and your husband are complete assholes. I hope your SIL can see that and just cut you out of her life and enjoy her tattoo, however botched it might be. I personally hate tattoos and have never found a single one attractive, but I would never tell someone that theirs is ugly, just as I would never tell someone that their nose shape or skin mark is ugly. Your husband's behavior was inexcusably awful, and your comments indicate that you have no sense of kindness or decency either.

Well OP - now you've managed to make it sound like you totally agree with your husband, and you enjoy laughing at her behind her back also, you just might not have written anything on her FB wall.

You sound made for each other. Your poor SIL - I wish we could all write to her and apologize on behalf of both of you.

Wait, this is his BROTHER's WIFE?

Your husband is a complete douche.

Just tell your husband to call your SIL and apologize! And he should mean it.

Was it done in a tattoo parlor or, like, someone's basement? I'm trying to figure out how she got duped by a person masquerading as a tattoo artist in this other country.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

So I agree with DH intention, he said since it is on her body and not a painting on a house wall, it becomes all the more important to be direct and honest and let her know, as she seems to be unaware and in denial and true friends will do this. On the other hand, it is on her body and she has significance attached to it, so she is more sensitive to it.

Are you kidding? I was on your side before, but not anymore. Since it is on her body and permanent, it is most important to keep your mouth shut and not say anything unless you can say something nice. In this case, you weren't asked for feedback on the tatoo, so it isn't even hard to keep your mouth shut.

The thing about brutal honesty is that so many people are in it for the brutal not the honest.

The rule of thumb is only to point out personal thing if they are easily corrected. Zipper down, spinach in teeth etc.

I suspect your husband has run into issues surrounding this type of behavior before and thinks the problem is them not him. He's wrong.

Exactly!