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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Ah, yeah. I do all of these things and yet my husband and I still have to work. We live in less than 2000 square feet in the burbs with so so schools and drive our cars into the ground. We never go out. I guess we are just epic fails in your book and cleearly still don't have the right priorties. Smh.

Oh my gawd, less than 2000 ft sq? J/k. Not sure how you really live but you might want to try the city. We live in a 700 sq ft apartment and own no cars. I can stay at home because of that.

Well clearly, you have all the right answers and evryone else is wrong. Good luck living the rest of your life. Looks like you've got it all covered.

Anonymous wrote:Get a life, OP.

If you don't have anything else to worry about except what other people do with their children, you don't have enough to do.

On the contrary - being a full-time cuntasaurus is hard work!

Anonymous wrote:So OP, what you're saying is that you depend on your husband for money so you can watch your kids all the time instead of "out-sourcing" their care?

What if he didn't make enough money for you to do this? Would you not have married him? What if he gets laid off? What if he quits his job and doesn't find another? Would you find work? What if the pressure of being the sole breadwinner stressed him to the point of killing him? What would you do then? What if he got tired of your judgmental ass and divorced you? What would you do then? At some point in your life, you may have to do things you are currently judging, and you had better hope that people don't judge you like you judge them.

Some folks are working to support their families, not to afford a huge house or new cars every two years.

True, but - AND GET THIS OP - some of us women also work because we want to, because we are smart, educated and accomplished and have no desire to stay at home all day watching The Chew and filing our nails until the kids get home from school. My son has an intelligent, independent woman as a mother and I am proud that I can be a great role model for him so that he will grow up to be a man who respects women for ALL that they can do, not just as some domestic caretaker for him and his children. So judge me all you want. . .I am judging you because you obviously have nothing better to do with your day than sit on your ass posting drivel like this. Why don't you go out and do something your kids can be proud of while they are at school?

Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

It's hard to work full time and see your kids more than 2 or 3 hours a day when the kids go to bed at 8.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

School is not "most of their waking hours." Reading is fundamental.

Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

I know! What kind of jerk father would force his kindergartener to go to aftercare every day? Oh wait, it's all the mother's fault, right?

Your kids sound like wimps if they couldn't do this. My kid has been doing this type of schedule since she was 3, and she loves it, and is thriving.

Get a life, OP.

If you don't have anything else to worry about except what other people do with their children, you don't have enough to do.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

+1

I assume you are a homeschool nut, too, huh? Since you're such a genius and seem to know everything and all.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Oh yeah. My extravagant lifestyle includes a 90 year old 1200sf house that constantly needs repair, a small sedan, shopping at Target and clearance racks for clothes, and serving as my own cleaning lady and gardener.

Shut your stupid mouth and mind your own business. What an obnoxious person you are.

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Anonymous wrote:I have three friends whose children are starting kindergarten with my daughter. They will be dropping them off at 7:45 am, and not picking them up until 6 pm!! These poor kids are going to be in aftercare from 2:30 on. Why on earth would you do this to a five year old??

I don't get how they are comfortable only seeing their children about 2-3 hours a day. It would break my heart.

What do others think?

If that would break your heart, you need to toughen up. You seem rather wimpy, which isn't good for your child.

^^^This.^^^

If I truly thought my kid needed me during the day (special needs, just not thriving, whatever) then I would sacrifice and quit. But by working now I am providing the financial support he needs - now and in the future. I can't see how it makes sense to sacrifice his future just to assuage my mommy guilt? By all means, if I had been able to, I would have taken the first year off. But our country is not set up for that. And I bet OP is a republican who would not be in favor of extending fmla to a year. I wouldn't even need to get paid that year - just have my job kept open. But even that is not guaranteed here. Sucks.

Anonymous wrote:I think you should stop calling yourself their friend. Or you could share your opinion with them, and then they can stop calling you their friend.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, assuming you're correct and your elementary school gets out at 2.30, do you think jobs that allow a parent to end work at 2.15pm or earlier (to allow for a commute) are really plentiful?

Jobs that require you to live under the bridge and jump out when goats cross over.

Exactly. And if a parent did have one of those jobs, assuming it's full-time, they'd have to start work so early that their kids would never see them on the front end, and then OP would complain how disgusting it was that kids would wake up without seeing their parent.

Anonymous wrote:Others think you are a troll that is trying to start yet another war between SAHP and WOHP. People choose the best options for their families based on their own circumstances.

+1

Put a fucking sock in it, OP.