I have a 6 month old and suddenly feel old and haggy. I feel like I've aged but people keep telling me my face looks better than before. Maybe they're just being nice.

I'm 36, single with no kids. I had someone last week ask if I had a son who graduated from law school almost 10 years ago. So I'm guessing that despite being younger, I don't fit that category.

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Anonymous wrote:I've had kids and look younger than my husband. I'm even older than him. Splain that !

One word: genetics.

And lifestyle. Maybe PP takes care of herself and H has let himself go.

Anonymous wrote:I've had kids and look younger than my husband. I'm even older than him. Splain that !

One word: genetics.

Anonymous wrote:Please girl, I noticed this when I was 28 at my high school reunion. Everyone who moved away and was still single looked fabulous. The people who stayed in town, got married and had kids looked ten years older than the rest of us. Ten years later, at my 20th reunion, I was still single and childless, and got hit on left and right. Now that I am a mom, I look old and fat like everyone else.

My story also.

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please girl, I noticed this when I was 28 at my high school reunion. Everyone who moved away and was still single looked fabulous. The people who stayed in town, got married and had kids looked ten years older than the rest of us. Ten years later, at my 20th reunion, I was still single and childless, and got hit on left and right. Now that I am a mom, I look old and fat like everyone else.[/quote]

You are a granny mom, though. Of course you look old. [/quote]
Better a granny mom than staying in a small town, doing nothing with my life and being an actual granny by age 40.

[quote=Anonymous]Please girl, I noticed this when I was 28 at my high school reunion. Everyone who moved away and was still single looked fabulous. The people who stayed in town, got married and had kids looked ten years older than the rest of us. Ten years later, at my 20th reunion, I was still single and childless, and got hit on left and right. Now that I am a mom, I look old and fat like everyone else.[/quote]

You are a granny mom, though. Of course you look old.

I hadn't notice that really but I had noticed that the few 20-something friends I have who are already on their 3rd kid have some pretty serious winkles going on. I wonder if those would clear up with more sleep or if the damage is permanent.

Anonymous wrote:Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

You also live in middle America or maybe Utah where it's not even close to being as stressful as living in a large city

Hmmmmm...I'm 47. Five kids. I am 5'5 and 117 pounds. I work out, take care of myself, and try really hard to look my best every day. I don't think I look old. People are normally really surprised when they find out I am well over 40. But my single friends without kids look pretty damn good too. And I'm positive they look better than I do naked!

I think it's all in how you take care of yourself. Having kids can make finding the time to work out, shop, do make-up and hair....a lot more challenging! But if it's truly important to you, you'll find a way to make it happen.

Anonymous wrote:There are many single, bitter women in their 40s in this city.

No doubt, having kids ages you. But I would take that over preferring to have married/had kids and never found the right person.

and there many married, bitter mothers. point?

Anonymous wrote:Not at my office. They are dried-up, bitter, nasty hags.

+1. all work no love

Anonymous wrote:Good. I'll hang onto this thought as I face infertility.

Ditto. :/

pregnancy does a number on most women bodies. few are able to get rid of all the weight, and then there is extra skin, sagging tits...

What about the dads in their 40s who don't lift a finger helping with domestic responsibilities. Do they look much younger, too?