Anonymous wrote:Wow, comparing an angry club lacrosse director to the most murderous regime in history, you are troubled. And, as someone who has distant relatives who were murdered by the nazis, I find that offensive, in addition to just plain ignorant. I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that you don't have a job that requires you to interact in the real world with rational people? Ok, now I'm truly signed off, this is like trying to have an intelligent discussion with an infant. A waste of time.

Anonymous wrote:I will follow up with this and then sign off. I resisted posting in the first place because, from what I have read, these boards are dominated by people who seem ill informed, quick to judge, a bit irrational and holier than thou (e.g., attacking my parenting because I permitted my son to stay with madlax). I only chose to post to show that the poster on July 24 was not alone in his or her assessment and decision. My kids have played a combined thirty seasons or so of a variety of sports, and at one time or another I have seen or heard most of their coaches (or club directors, or parents) say or do something I did not agree with or like. And I have observed over coaches from most of the club and rec lacrosse teams in the area also behaving in an inappropriate manner. The email in question was no doubt more severe, and, importantly (stupidly), in writing. But if I adopted a zero tolerance policy for imperfect behavior, my sons would be confined to sitting at home alone, playing video games, and becoming socially stunted and ill prepared to deal with the variety of personalities in the world. If that is your approach, best of luck to your kids.

Anonymous wrote:Wow, impressive on your part to out so many words in my mouth. I said nothing of the like. My point is that the email rant is one of many factors my son and I considered in deciding whether to stay at the club. I think it is responsible parenting: I discussed the email with my son, he understood it was wrong on many levels, he decided he still wanted to play for that club, and I didn't think I needed to veto his decision. Perhaps it would have been better parenting to force him to quit the team he likes, and either skip club lax altogether or play for a team he is not interested in. Your absolutism and harsh judgments make me wonder what type of parent YOU are. Fortunately, that is neither my problem nor my son's problem.

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Anonymous wrote:I am not a PR firm or friend of Cabell - and I'm not Cabell. I'm a parent of a lacrosse player who has been with (basically) the same group of boys playing Madlax for several years. VLC does not have the talent at his age group and from what we have observed, they have coaching inconsistencies that have hurt them. Talk to a parent of a VLC U13AA/rising U15AA player. Blackwolf is a great program from what I understand. The cost is about the same. My son was invited to play and has considered playing for the 2018 team. But what it comes down to for him right now is that he is having a great time playing with a great group of boys and he has made friendships that are important to him. To me that is what team sports are about. My son is old enough to form his own opinions about people and their behavior. We have discussed what happened, but I don't feel the need to preach to him about Cabell's bad behavior; he is able to see it for what it is. We have left the decision to him. If he wanted to leave madlax because of what Cabell did, that would be fine with me. This is a great life lesson for him as he will unfortunately encounter people like Cabell his whole life. He sees that Cabell is imperfectbehav and human and capable of embarrassing himself by making big mistakes. I understand that some people get more outraged over this kind of behavior This is just our way of handling it.

This is just the type of thinking that bad football coaches or bad basketball coaches to keep existing. Parents and kids stay with these losers because they love the team or it is providing opportunities for their kid. If you keep supporting these guys,they think they can keep on doing this stuff. What you are also showing your kid is that as long as the behavior doesn't affect him, bad behavior is ok. What lesson does that teach him?

Anonymous wrote:I could have written 7/24/13 7:50 myself. Almost the exact same circumstances and sentiment. There are a half dozen factors that go into which team my son plays for. The maturity of the program director is one. Only one. My son has chosen to stay with a group of kids he loves playing with. Crazy, isn't it? Guess he will have to rely on me to teach him how to behave. Oh, that is my job anyway. Good.

Anonymous wrote:I could have written 7/24/13 7:50 myself. Almost the exact same circumstances and sentiment. There are a half dozen factors that go into which team my son plays for. The maturity of the program director is one. Only one. My son has chosen to stay with a group of kids he loves playing with. Crazy, isn't it? Guess he will have to rely on me to teach him how to behave. Oh, that is my job anyway. Good.

Anonymous wrote:I am not a PR firm or friend of Cabell - and I'm not Cabell. I'm a parent of a lacrosse player who has been with (basically) the same group of boys playing Madlax for several years. VLC does not have the talent at his age group and from what we have observed, they have coaching inconsistencies that have hurt them. Talk to a parent of a VLC U13AA/rising U15AA player. Blackwolf is a great program from what I understand. The cost is about the same. My son was invited to play and has considered playing for the 2018 team. But what it comes down to for him right now is that he is having a great time playing with a great group of boys and he has made friendships that are important to him. To me that is what team sports are about. My son is old enough to form his own opinions about people and their behavior. We have discussed what happened, but I don't feel the need to preach to him about Cabell's bad behavior; he is able to see it for what it is. We have left the decision to him. If he wanted to leave madlax because of what Cabell did, that would be fine with me. This is a great life lesson for him as he will unfortunately encounter people like Cabell his whole life. He sees that Cabell is imperfectbehav and human and capable of embarrassing himself by making big mistakes. I understand that some people get more outraged over this kind of behavior This is just our way of handling it.