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30 y.o. man here.

Not too long ago I would've said no. Then I started to have feelings for a coworker who has three. I already found her attractive not just physically but mentally. Then she invited me to her house so that our kids could play from time to time. Watching her with her kids just ramped up those feelings even more. My ex-wife was an absentee mom who left me to do everything myself. My co-worker is mom of the year.

I'd be open to dating someone with three kids, but she'd have to be amazing as both a woman and as a mom. I'm thinking long term and looking towards marriage though. I'd also want to meet her kids (I personally have a six month rule for newcomers and my daughter), just to see if I get along with them. Chemistry isn't the exact word that I'm looking for, but I'd need to see if I could get along with the kids as well.

Part of the answer depends on your kids and how you deal with them--my cousin who is a single dad broke up with one woman because he couldn't deal with her parenting.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

Does OP want to date a guy 31 years older than her? Old enough to be her father? Ugh.

21 years, hon. And it's not like she's in a position to be picky, eh? Beggars can't be choosers.

This single thread already accounted for DCUM's entire yearly quota of morally-bankrupt comments long before this. But the bolded section in the above post - that alone takes us through the end of the century.

Really? You think she is in a position to be picky?

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Anonymous wrote:My sister has two young children (3 and 8) and is getting married this summer to a wonderful guy! We absolutely adore him! She wasn't looking for a relationship. They were friends and it developed from there. She doesn't make a lot of money, but she is really cute. I'm sure that helped.

She is 32. He is 34. He also has two kids.

What are the divorce stats on this?

No idea. But they seem really happy. Her ex had an affair with her best friend while she was pregnant. He claimed the "years if infertility and treatments put a strain on their marriage". She went through hell having their youngest and nearly died on the delivery table.

Her ex married his affair partner the day after their divorce was final. He's a real peach.

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People on this site are just mean spirited. Their worlds are not as perfect as they thing.

I would data a woman with 3 kids if I was into her.

Maybe people should read first before insulting. Her ex is very involved and her kids are all with him. So the PP and others are useless and just show that some people just wanted to insult in the first place.

I'm the 30yo with 1 child. I also posted about my cousin who is 31 with 3 kids who hasnt had any issues finding good men, she's just a magnet for that easygoing guy. I know another women, early 30s, who married a couple years ago. She had 4 young kids, he has 2. He is current military. This divorced father of two I dated last year, his ex has 3 boys and she's now engaged two another guy our age who has 2 kids of his own. He's current military too...see a trend?

And OP, my friends and I with kids have not had issues finding men who are looking for serious relationships. If you're attractive, one benefit is guys tend to choose with their peckers. nitially, they're looking for sex with any woman they date, childless or not. Some guys will be attracted to you precisely because you're already in family mode and that's what they want. I've also dated men who were raised by single mothers and my situation is anything new for them. There are a lot of bimbos out here who look good in person and on paper, but have absolutely nothing going upstairs. If you're a woman of substance, you're friendly/pleasant to be around, AND you're attractive, you'll be fine.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

Does OP want to date a guy 31 years older than her? Old enough to be her father? Ugh.

21 years, hon. And it's not like she's in a position to be picky, eh? Beggars can't be choosers.

This single thread already accounted for DCUM's entire yearly quota of morally-bankrupt comments long before this. But the bolded section in the above post - that alone takes us through the end of the century.

I don;t know. It depends on why she is a single mother. If she is a widow that is one thing. But if she never married, or had the three kids with more than one man, it would be a red flag that she probably lacks good judgment.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

Does OP want to date a guy 31 years older than her? Old enough to be her father? Ugh.

21 years, hon. And it's not like she's in a position to be picky, eh? Beggars can't be choosers.

This single thread already accounted for DCUM's entire yearly quota of morally-bankrupt comments long before this. But the bolded section in the above post - that alone takes us through the end of the century.

No.

You bitches are cruel.

OP, what do you have to offer a guy besides a brood of trouble?

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

Does OP want to date a guy 31 years older than her? Old enough to be her father? Ugh.

21 years, hon. And it's not like she's in a position to be picky, eh? Beggars can't be choosers.

Anonymous wrote:My sister has two young children (3 and 8) and is getting married this summer to a wonderful guy! We absolutely adore him! She wasn't looking for a relationship. They were friends and it developed from there. She doesn't make a lot of money, but she is really cute. I'm sure that helped.

She is 32. He is 34. He also has two kids.

What are the divorce stats on this?