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Anonymous wrote:I've seen plenty of entitled white kids act the same way as a PP described. What's your point?

BINGO. Mean girl behavior, bullying, excluding others, are equal opportunities for all races and socioeconomic groups. Does not excuse it, does not make it acceptable, but it can and will happen, yes, even in the homogenous, non/low free/reduced schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Thank you for reminding us in this thread that poverty and need exist in this area, and that we have to help our neighbors in the public schools.

It SHOCKS me that you need reminding of this. Where do you live that you don't see poverty? Under a rock? Most ignorant thing I've seen on DCUM, ever.

Anonymous wrote:I've seen plenty of entitled white kids act the same way as a PP described. What's your point?

Anonymous wrote:20:03, how do you feel able to speak for all parents? Did you conduct a parent survey? Perhaps you are speaking for yourself and should say "I" instead of "parents."

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Anonymous wrote:Here is what we seek: a compassion that can stand in awe at what the poor have to carry rather than stand in judgment at how they carry it.
-- Greg Boyle, SJ

The exact opposite code of DCUM.

Here is what I seek: a day when parent responsibility can stand in awe at how much money we save when we are no longer responsible for feeding, clothing, and parenting others' children.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about how many schools serve breakfast. Ours doesn't, and I wonder how many others don't serve it.

Virginia? Or JKLM?

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Anonymous wrote:The school I work at is 93% free/reduced price lunch. Only 2 of my 33 students brought in any school supplies and only one of them could afford to pay the $7 fee for our field trip. Only a handful of them have crayons, glue sticks, etc at home and only 3 or 4 of them have a family car. They don't go to the library b/c it is too far to walk and the bus fare is too much. We don't have a librarian at our school so nobody can check books out of the library. Everyone gets free breakfast. This is what makes kids show up to school on time/at all. We just had a dentist visit us and gave out free toothbrushes. Some of the kids didn't want to put them in their lockers because they were afraid they would lose them. Many of them don't have their "own" toothbrush. It is another world right here around us.

Dear DC teacher: on the last week of school, kids' desks, lockers and backpacks are overflowing with half-used supplies. And every August we parents buy all new supplies. Would you be appreciative or offended to receive boxes of year-end half used crayons, glue sticks, pencils, pens, paper packs, etc? One year the school did collect the used stuff to send to Haiti.

I am not farms, but I want back the scissors and unused glue sticks. I can't stand how our school never returns these items. If I want to send stuff to Haiti, I will, but please don't do it on my behalf.

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Anonymous wrote:Here is what we seek: a compassion that can stand in awe at what the poor have to carry rather than stand in judgment at how they carry it.
-- Greg Boyle, SJ

The exact opposite code of DCUM.

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Anonymous wrote:The school I work at is 93% free/reduced price lunch. Only 2 of my 33 students brought in any school supplies and only one of them could afford to pay the $7 fee for our field trip. Only a handful of them have crayons, glue sticks, etc at home and only 3 or 4 of them have a family car. They don't go to the library b/c it is too far to walk and the bus fare is too much. We don't have a librarian at our school so nobody can check books out of the library. Everyone gets free breakfast. This is what makes kids show up to school on time/at all. We just had a dentist visit us and gave out free toothbrushes. Some of the kids didn't want to put them in their lockers because they were afraid they would lose them. Many of them don't have their "own" toothbrush. It is another world right here around us.

Dear DC teacher: on the last week of school, kids' desks, lockers and backpacks are overflowing with half-used supplies. And every August we parents buy all new supplies. Would you be appreciative or offended to receive boxes of year-end half used crayons, glue sticks, pencils, pens, paper packs, etc? One year the school did collect the used stuff to send to Haiti.

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Anonymous wrote:The school I work at is 93% free/reduced price lunch. Only 2 of my 33 students brought in any school supplies and only one of them could afford to pay the $7 fee for our field trip. Only a handful of them have crayons, glue sticks, etc at home and only 3 or 4 of them have a family car. They don't go to the library b/c it is too far to walk and the bus fare is too much. We don't have a librarian at our school so nobody can check books out of the library. Everyone gets free breakfast. This is what makes kids show up to school on time/at all. We just had a dentist visit us and gave out free toothbrushes. Some of the kids didn't want to put them in their lockers because they were afraid they would lose them. Many of them don't have their "own" toothbrush. It is another world right here around us.

That is sad to read.

But the problem is that your post confirms for some parents why they don't want to send their kid to a school with a high rate of FARMS kids -- because too much time is spent on stuff other than academics (like bringing in a dentist, addressing health and other issues). I'm not saying that those things shouldn't be done for those kids. But the problem is that nonFARMS parents worry that so much less time is spent on content/academics that it puts their kid behind others of the same means. And that is why they then decide that they wouldn't want their kid going to school with poor kids.

I don't know the solution. But sadly, while your post might make people feel bad for those children, it probably deters parents even more from sending their kids to high FARMS rate schools. And I think probably that wasn't your intention.

My intention was not to make people feel bad for these students. This is their reality and while they are poor, they are generally happy, well adjusted children. They have families who love them and do the best they can for them. Our school is overly academic IMO. A lot of high poverty schools like mine feel like they are playing catch-up from the minute the kids enter school (either in pre-K or K). Other than 2 assemblies per year, the rest of the time is spent on academics. The students come in to school like students did 30 years ago when I was in K. They might know a few letters in their name but that's it. Their parents don't have the money for many books so they aren't accustomed to being read to much. At our school, parent don't decide whether or not to send their kids to our school. They are zoned for our school so there is nobody having to decide whether or not to send their child to school with poor kids. Many are ELLs and most of them do quite well but they are at a disadvantage. Native speakers have 4 or 5 years of English under their belts before they get to school. The ELLs work extremely hard to learn English and end up fluent in 2 languages. Sadly, outsiders view them as a drag or a distraction in the classroom. The people that think this usually only speak one language. My original post was meant to enlighten folks who may not have any idea that schools and students like this exist in this area. Not for people to pity them. One of my students is graduating from 5th grade this year and she wrote me a poem in English and Spanish thanking me for being her first teacher. She is going to a magnet middle school that very few kids are accepted to. She gave a speech in English and Spanish to the bilingual speaking school board last year that knocked their socks off. She may be poor but it goes to show that money isn't everything.

I don't think people think of ESOL students as a drag or distraction, but I do think that they worry their english-only speaking child will suffer. And I think they might have a point. If a lot of Spanish is spoken in a classroom, that's going to create a situation where the English-only speaking child is, as you say, an outsider. No one wants their kid to be the odd man out in class.

That's why parents ask about the percentages, because they don't mind a certain percentage of ESOL students, but they worry that if their kid is in a 90 percent ESOL class, their kid either (a) isn't going to get as much attention as the other kids or (b) will be the outsider.

I think it's a reasonable concern.

No one said that the poor kids weren't smart or weren't capable of doing well. It's the issue of a limited amount of time, and so parents worried about their own kids are going to look at a classroom situation or the dynamics at a school and be worried about issues that may mean their child doesn't get as much appropriate academic instruction as a kid in a classroom where the teacher isn't trying to help other students catch up, learn english or deal with issues of poverty (i.e. healthcare).

This is what happened to my DD. Our base school is a Title I (67% FARMS) school. DD was teased by the Spanish-speaking kids because my she did not like the "popular" things (such as Hanna Montana, Justin Bieber, etc.). My daughter preferred to read, watch the ants on the playground, etc. Some of the Spanish-speaking kids pushed DD into the ground to the point where she ended up with mulch in her mouth. The Spanish-speaking kids would cover for each other so my DD had no one to back her up. Thankfully a teacher finally witnessed this behavior on the playground but the school did little to fix the problem.

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious about how many schools serve breakfast. Ours doesn't, and I wonder how many others don't serve it.

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for reminding us in this thread that poverty and need exist in this area, and that we have to help our neighbors in the public schools.