9:13, is that a top 6-7 school in NWDC?

9:08, as sucky as that is -- and it IS, it happened to me personally in 7th grade and I still cringe -- did you know that that kind of relational aggression among middle school girls is 1. common everywhere and 2. expected by child development experts? There is no middle school where such behavior is unknown.

Doesn't make it OK, and in fact it can be devastating, but it's not a "Lafayette thing." At all.

Anonymous wrote:I can say with absolute certainty that my kid, who attends an independent k-8 but is zoned for Lafayette, has never once been given candy by a teacher at school, nor has he ever watched a DVD on school property. Is this alone worth $31,000? No, but still, wtf.

I'm just a lurker here, and not in the neighborhood, but my children go to a private school and they get candy ALL THE TIME at school.

The Lafayette brand of bullying continues at Deal. I have a non JKLM daughter at Deal and back in 6th grade she was definitely attracted to the "popular" La-La land (that's what they call themselves) girls but then she had a major lesson in "mean girls". Ruthless and just nasty. "Who is allowed in the group? Are those fake Uggs? You don't have a pool? You can't talk to that boy because so and so likes him. Don't talk to her because she isn't cool. I can't believe her hair, outfit, butt." etc etc etc.

Luckily my kid realized that she was being manipulated like crazy and then made some better choices. Thankfully, even though the Lafayette kids are a huge majority at Deal, there are plenty of down to Earth, nice kids (many from Lafayette, happy to expand their circle too) at Deal to avoid the nonsense.

The moms also dominate the HSA, I tried to get more involved but was I did not feel welcomed at all. Heard that from many others too. Oh well, I'll spend my volunteer energy somewhere else.

In the end, thank you for that valuable lesson, La-La girls and moms.

Anonymous wrote:I can say with absolute certainty that my kid, who attends an independent k-8 but is zoned for Lafayette, has never once been given candy by a teacher at school, nor has he ever watched a DVD on school property. Is this alone worth $31,000? No, but still, wtf.

I can assure you that my child, who attends a non-JKLM DCPS public school, has never been given candy by a teacher and never watched TV (during school hours) except as part of a end-of school party. That $31k went into the college fund.

I can say with absolute certainty that my kid, who attends an independent k-8 but is zoned for Lafayette, has never once been given candy by a teacher at school, nor has he ever watched a DVD on school property. Is this alone worth $31,000? No, but still, wtf.

Then you've got some pretty low standards PP.

Anonymous wrote:Let's not forget the awful teachers in second and fifth grades.

The K aides grammar is unbelievably bad and inappropriate.The K teacher who is old and incompetant.

The first grade teacher who rewards with candy for finishing morning work and finishes every day with television.

Third is great as long as your kid can be in a class with 50 students.

Fourth grade is ok.

Not to mention there are many school assemblies.

I wonder how the kids learn anything at all. Oh yes, it's the parents.

Deal cannot come soon enough.

Why don't you just home school then, since you're doing all the educating anyway?

Bullying and bad teachers are a problem, but some of your complaints sound overly petty. A teacher rewards with candy and finishes the day with television...there are many school assemblies...Big whoopty friggidity doo! Sounds like elementary school to me.

We have our 3rd child at Lafayette now and have actually been quite pleased with the education they are getting and the leadership of Ms. Main. Reading this thread I'm a bit baffled.

I'm sure most people visit the school and do their due diligence before buying a house,

Why do you all put up with children kicking and hitting and throwing things at your children. I do not have a child at Lafayette but this fascinates me! Why don't you approach the parents of these children and share the stories and ask if this is something they'd either like to deal with as parents or you will press charges? They likely live in your neighborhood -- are they bullies, too, and apples aren't falling far from the trees? If this were happening at my school and the admin did nothing about it, you sure as hell wouldn't be able to stop my DH from protecting his child's right to attend school safely. He'd be at their doorstep every day until the behaviors changed. Why do you tolerate this for 3 years and counting?

The bullying at Lafayette is modeled after the adults. My kids have gone through early years at Lafayette, the aides have consistently been nasty and mean in the PreK. When asked of the guidance counselor how to address this issue when the 4 year olds say the "PreK aides are mean and yell at us" the response is a hopeful "well we hope all the adults at Lafayette go through sensitivity training...." The adults are held to a lower standard than the kids; it make me wonder why people question bullying occurring amongst the kids at all. I am baffled by why the good teachers put up with the shit of the of the aides; we are hoping to get out next year before we encounter one of the legendary screaming 2nd grade teachers.

Let's not forget the awful teachers in second and fifth grades.

The K aides grammar is unbelievably bad and inappropriate.The K teacher who is old and incompetant.

The first grade teacher who rewards with candy for finishing morning work and finishes every day with television.

Third is great as long as your kid can be in a class with 50 students.

Fourth grade is ok.

Not to mention there are many school assemblies.

I wonder how the kids learn anything at all. Oh yes, it's the parents.

Deal cannot come soon enough.

I think bullying is a Chevy Chase problem. I have been shocked at how rude kids are and how their parents just make excuses for their children's bad behavior. I doubt it is an OOB problem.

-signed CC Parent

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Anonymous wrote:Exactly, poster 23:18.

This is our experience as well. It's been going on for 3 years and never ends. Why is this tolerated?????

Without naming names, what sorts of kids are these? Older grades? Neighborhood kids? OOB kids? Friends with each other or solo bullies?
You know, ms Main may not have done anything but I'd bet 7000 people at least scan dcum these days. May be useful to shine some partial sunshine on the antagonists

Oh just say what you really mean. Are these poor kids? Black kids?? Certainly the bullies aren't the entitled local white kids!? Can't we just send the OOB bullies back to their own neighborhoods??

I am not the poster you are responding to, but please just drop the race/poor card. the behavior reported is serious, especially at the elemtary level, and the question asked by that poster is legitimate, and no, it does not seem to me that the poster implied the culprits must be black/poor/OOB. if you think she does maybe you are the one making unfair assumptions (which sounds likely since you qualify the local white kids as "entitled"). an BTW, Lafayette is 90% IB and mostly white, so there is a high likelihood tha the bullies are IB and white. and if you think that people believes that IB white kids cannot be bullies, well, wake up

That's kind of my point. Why even ask the question about who these kids are? The school is 90% inbound so the likelihood is high that they are IB, so why ask if they are OOB? Just asking the question implies that you want to blame some "type" of kid.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly, poster 23:18.

This is our experience as well. It's been going on for 3 years and never ends. Why is this tolerated?????

Without naming names, what sorts of kids are these? Older grades? Neighborhood kids? OOB kids? Friends with each other or solo bullies?
You know, ms Main may not have done anything but I'd bet 7000 people at least scan dcum these days. May be useful to shine some partial sunshine on the antagonists

Oh just say what you really mean. Are these poor kids? Black kids?? Certainly the bullies aren't the entitled local white kids!? Can't we just send the OOB bullies back to their own neighborhoods??

I am not the poster you are responding to, but please just drop the race/poor card. the behavior reported is serious, especially at the elemtary level, and the question asked by that poster is legitimate, and no, it does not seem to me that the poster implied the culprits must be black/poor/OOB. if you think she does maybe you are the one making unfair assumptions (which sounds likely since you qualify the local white kids as "entitled"). an BTW, Lafayette is 90% IB and mostly white, so there is a high likelihood tha the bullies are IB and white. and if you think that people believes that IB white kids cannot be bullies, well, wake up