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Anonymous wrote:OP here. i'm SINGLE!

This attitude isn't going to help you find a rich husband, they can smell it when your goal is to mooch off them. Plus, most of the women who end up with rich husbands married them before they were rich, it's a hit or miss thing.

+1 I have a rich husband but I met him when we were both in college and broke. I was with him the whole time he was working hard (and I was working hard) to make it in his profession and I put up with all the late nights, missed vacations, and working holidays that it took for him to be successful. Life is pretty great now and we still have a very happy and loving marriage. I don't think you can get the same thing if you marry a guy after he has done all the work.

+1. Exact same situation. There is a lot of trust and shared sacrifice in our history. My DH is the first to look askance at his newly-divorced rich friends' paramours.

Anonymous wrote:Funny, when my DH and I were dating in college, all the beautiful girls never gave him a second look. He was too short, wore thick glasses, drove an old car, and spent too much time studying. I liked him just he way he was. He reminded me of the best in my dad plus the kindness and naivety of my mom. Fast-forward twenty years, he has contacts, makes seven figures and drives luxury coupes. I am one of those plain Janes who doesn't wear much makeup but he still tells me I'm the love of his life.

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So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

How? Do your research and apply some modern analysis tools. First, you need to figure out the profile of the guy you want; professional, deeply religious, working class parents, athletic, out going, etc. Step one is grooming yourself to be attractive to that sort of guy - a strong education, good verbal skills and being fit is always a good start. Maybe take on a foreign language, learn to cook or to sail.

Next, figure out where these guys are when they are at the age that they meet their future wives. This may mean taking a job in IT at a law office or going to Wall Street. It may mean simply joining a young singles group at your temple or church. You can't go wrong with hanging around Ivy league schools.

Check these guys out:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/05/10-high-paying-in-demand-jobs/

Guys on WS in their twenties do NOT want a relationship with banker/wall street girls.

As someone on DCUM put it really well before...lawyers marry lawyers, docs marry docs, bankers marry kindergarten teachers. Most of my friends who were in banking in their 20's, early 30's dated and married girls who worked in fashion journalism, working as buyers for brands/stores/labels, PR, marketing, etc.

Just a FYI.

OP here.. and a kindergarten teacher!!! not joking!

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Anonymous wrote:
So how does one spot a (potential) rich husband ? and not just the average hardworking stable young guy ? It's a skill I did not possess (and still don't) to pass on to my daughter. I married twice, both times to stable average guys who had the same earning potentials as me. So we both have to work to lead a comfortable middle class lifestyle in this high cost area. Also, my husband would not be happy if I quit working (even if we adjust our lifestyle), he does not want the pressure of being the only income earner.

How? Do your research and apply some modern analysis tools. First, you need to figure out the profile of the guy you want; professional, deeply religious, working class parents, athletic, out going, etc. Step one is grooming yourself to be attractive to that sort of guy - a strong education, good verbal skills and being fit is always a good start. Maybe take on a foreign language, learn to cook or to sail.

Next, figure out where these guys are when they are at the age that they meet their future wives. This may mean taking a job in IT at a law office or going to Wall Street. It may mean simply joining a young singles group at your temple or church. You can't go wrong with hanging around Ivy league schools.

Check these guys out:
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2013/02/05/10-high-paying-in-demand-jobs/

Guys on WS in their twenties do NOT want a relationship with banker/wall street girls.

As someone on DCUM put it really well before...lawyers marry lawyers, docs marry docs, bankers marry kindergarten teachers. Most of my friends who were in banking in their 20's, early 30's dated and married girls who worked in fashion journalism, working as buyers for brands/stores/labels, PR, marketing, etc.

Just a FYI.