Anonymous wrote:He would be the biological father and even if partner is having ba y, it still comes close to incest.

No, no it doesn't, not even close.

Anonymous wrote:He would be the biological father and even if partner is having ba y, it still comes close to incest.

Clearly you are off your meds.

I don't think you should go around offering sperm to people, at least wait until they ask.

My best friend gave birth three months ago. Her partner's brother donated the sperm and is the baby's uncle. They are all happy. You said everyone is emotionally and financially stable, so there is no reason to worry that complications will arise. As the witness to a very happy similar situation to yours, I say go for it!

He would be the biological father and even if partner is having ba y, it still comes close to incest.

Anonymous wrote:You said your husband will be an Uncle. You're already in DENIAL. Your husband would be the father! He would be the father. Do you want more kids? Then great because you will have more stepchildren and he will have more children.
Those children will have more right to know that he is their father and he is responsible for them being here, than any right women seem to feel they all have to have a baby, regardless of how it will affect the children. I'm not talking about same gender couples shouldn't want kids - I'm talking about real, absolutely REAL identity issues that theses children will have if denied their genetic identity, because ignorant but well meaning people give away their genetic reproductive material as if it's some insignificant thing, like a donut and a cup of coffee.

No, he would NOT be the father. A father is a person who partakes in the raising of a child. He's not doing that. The child would have 2 parents to raise him/her. In this case, those parent would be the 2 moms.

The husband would be a sperm donor. And because he is the brother of one of the moms, he'd also be an uncle.

Stop getting so hung up on genetic material. Kids need unconditional love, comfort and security. The are plenty of kids who know exactly who their biological parents are and would gladly give up that knowledge just to have a safe home where their parents truly love, cherish and care for them.

One of our sister's donated eggs. It's not weird at all for any of us and never has been. It was an egg. This is just sperm. A parent has nothing to do with either. And if you don't agree with me, then you should object, but honestly dh, me, our kids and all our siblings have no problems with this. Anyone who did wouldn't be friends with us anyway, nor would we want them to be.

No matter how hard you try to convince yourself that two mommy families = one daddy, it doesn't.

OP: I think it might work better in the younger years and get harder as the child got older.

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Anonymous wrote:Definitely not. I think being the child's uncle and bio father is too all in the family. There is something odd about being your sister's child's biological parent. I would feel the same about being an egg donor to a sibling. I think it is strange to procreate with your siblings. Big problems down the road.

What if the child asks your DH why he gave him up to live with a lesbian couple for parents rather than have him as his own child? Will this child resent his biological father for putting him in this family situation?

Why on earth would the child resent it? "Mommy A's brother helped Mommy B. have me. He loved Mommy A. a lot and wanted Mommy A. and Mommy B to be happy."

No resentment involved.

OP, I would do it, but I woule also prepare for when things go wrong. You need to think about who will end up with this child if SIL does not have legal right. I don't know about you, but it would be rather difficult to watch your biological child move to another state/country/live another life when you have a say in the matter.

There is a very think line between love and hate. Break up happen...factor this in very carefully in your decision.

You said your husband will be an Uncle. You're already in DENIAL. Your husband would be the father! He would be the father. Do you want more kids? Then great because you will have more stepchildren and he will have more children.
Those children will have more right to know that he is their father and he is responsible for them being here, than any right women seem to feel they all have to have a baby, regardless of how it will affect the children. I'm not talking about same gender couples shouldn't want kids - I'm talking about real, absolutely REAL identity issues that theses children will have if denied their genetic identity, because ignorant but well meaning people give away their genetic reproductive material as if it's some insignificant thing, like a donut and a cup of coffee.

Your children will have a half-brother instead of 1st cousin ? This promises nothing but trouble. Do not do this.

NP here. I know nothing of the legal implications, nor do I know people specifically in this situation. But I come from a loving, close family and married into another one, and would absolutely consider this situation (or the opposite situation of carrying a child for a gay sibling.)

I think that is really beautiful, OP. I am close friends with a lesbian couple who would do anything to have a brother provide the sperm, but they are too afraid to ask. I hope you let us know how it works out.