Are there many minority families at DeC?

or St. Barts

Anonymous wrote:op here. never said i was black, or if i were married, or if my husband was black and never said i have a son...just looking for an inclusive community where my child would feel welcome. thx for those who answered.

Dec or OLV if you're looking at catholic.

op here. never said i was black, or if i were married, or if my husband was black and never said i have a son...just looking for an inclusive community where my child would feel welcome. thx for those who answered.

Let's see. OP is AA or has a husband that is AA, she taught at St. Pats, and she has a elementary-school age son. I guess many people now know who she is. She should think carefully about whether it was wise to make a post that would make her identity clear to the St. Pat's community.

that said, I think she should consider moving to the burbs, and trying a public school there. I think she will find a very diverse community. If she is interested in private school, she could move her son to one for middle school. I can think of a number of middle schools that have large enough AA population (AA and African... Africans seem more interested in private school for some reason) that her son will not feel isolated.

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Anonymous wrote:Still think it's a fake post. A professional would not call the school they taught at racist in a pretend-but-not-really-anonymous post.

Really? My mom taught at a school for 35 years and swore it was the most racist place she had ever been. She would not allow me to attend.

But would she post that on a website, identifying the school, in a way that would probably allow people to know who she was?

And honestly, your post is a little suspect also -- if the school was so racist, why would your mother stay 35 years as a teacher? There are a lot of schools around here.

GDS, Sidwell, and Beauvoir and yes I agree with OP I think certain schools are a better fit for certain children - whether it is their race, level of reading, athletic interest, etc... Just because a school isn't recommend doesn't mean the families or school are racist. It just means that for whatever reasons- whether social or whatnot - there seems to be an easier better fit at some schools. The ones I listed are known to be good fits.

My kids go to St Pats. They have friends if every skin tone. We are friends with all these kids parents. They come to our house. We go to theirs. It is a non issue for us. However I am not blind or naive and I know racism still exists, both the overt kind and the subtle, nuanced kind. I work to make sure my kids are aware of it too because unless white folks continue to fight against this bigotry too, unless we open our eyes to the hurt and pain a hundred tiny pricks can inflict, we are adding to the problem. OP, I am very angry on your behalf and I understand what you are saying. Please know that there are some of us "white people" who do see it and do what we can to stomp it out. I hope you find a school where you feel this is not part of the culture at all. I do think it will be harder than others seem to. However, I also have to hope I there are many others besides us who do not see a black child, but just a child. Not a black parent, just another parent. Good luck and all the best.

Anonymous wrote:??? The OP asked a question, " how many children of color is your child friends with?" " how many times has a child of color been over to your house for a play date?" I thought it would be helpful to give the reality check , so I spent a few minutes thinking over the play dates I remembered, and answered the question openly to my best recollection.

Your post is odd. Of course there is no quota and my post should not impress anyone, nor was it posted for that purpose. It is strange that you would react that way to it. Do you want to believe people are racists ? Its just every day life, and as that serves as a reality check for OP who did state twice that her child was excluded and did not "mesh with other kids" "was not welcomed by other parents", and asked for names of schools, and for parents of kids who had befriended black children to post, I posted.

What OP seems reluctant to acknowledge is that more than likely, it is her child, not his skin color, that is the problem. Your post is just more Beauvoir fawning.

??? The OP asked a question, " how many children of color is your child friends with?" " how many times has a child of color been over to your house for a play date?" I thought it would be helpful to give the reality check , so I spent a few minutes thinking over the play dates I remembered, and answered the question openly to my best recollection.

Your post is odd. Of course there is no quota and my post should not impress anyone, nor was it posted for that purpose. It is strange that you would react that way to it. Do you want to believe people are racists ? Its just every day life, and as that serves as a reality check for OP who did state twice that her child was excluded and did not "mesh with other kids" "was not welcomed by other parents", and asked for names of schools, and for parents of kids who had befriended black children to post, I posted.

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Anonymous wrote:For those non-black parents complaining about this post, how many black friends does your child have? How many black children have been to your house for a playdate? What if all of the classmates and their parents are like you and your child? That can be isolating for a child of color. Look at you and your own child's behavior and how/whether they interact with other black children in their school or class.

DC attends Beauvoir. He is friends with just about everyone in his class. We have had, let me count, 5 black childen over our house for a play date and, at times, a sleep over. DC has been at the house of 6 black children multiple times for a play date.

Oh, wow! We're soooooo impressed. Did you meet a self-imposed quota for the number of Asian kids your son interacts with, too?

Anonymous wrote:Still think it's a fake post. A professional would not call the school they taught at racist in a pretend-but-not-really-anonymous post.

Really? My mom taught at a school for 35 years and swore it was the most racist place she had ever been. She would not allow me to attend.