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Anonymous wrote:Is this the nutritionist recommended by Childrens? Did she have a nutritionist prior to August when Children's Hospital provided the nutrition consult?

yes she has had a nutritionist since she was 13

I would change nutritionists and monitor your DD's compliance. According to you, your DD weighed 265 lbs at 16 but she lost 35 lbs and is now 230. Your DD is morbidly obese and if she was an adult would be a candidate for bariatric surgery: THAT serious.

I'm sorry people keep questioning you about what size clothes she's wearing but it's not a question of how "well she looks" and how she "does not look like she weighs 230 lbs." The weight is a major health issue and the fact that you are clearly defensive about it and prefer that MEDICAL professionals not mention it should be an indication that you and your daughter need professional help in dealing with the issue.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this the nutritionist recommended by Childrens? Did she have a nutritionist prior to August when Children's Hospital provided the nutrition consult?

yes she has had a nutritionist since she was 13

Anonymous wrote:Is this the nutritionist recommended by Childrens? Did she have a nutritionist prior to August when Children's Hospital provided the nutrition consult?

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Also, she is not a size 14. Don't be ridiculous.

Thinking this is not an issue because she is "beautiful" is also stupid. This is a health issue, not a popularity contest.

My guess is that you have no idea what is really going on in her life or how she is losing the weight. Plug in NOW.

yes she is a 14/16. all of her clothes that either she purchases are either a 14 (or 16). depending on brand, but there is a pretty even mix of both sizes. and no they are not stretched out and forced to fit like one pp said. she (and I!) makes sure all her clothes fit properly and she does not go for the "muffin top" look. we even joke about her friend who is a size 4s laying down to squeeze into a size 0 when she is perfect at a 4 and you good (and generally better) wearing your size. i have been in a store with her, and if something doesnt fit she will get a larger size or just not get it. I did not say this is not an issue because she is beautiful, I was simply saying that as a person physically and socially (i guess is the term) she is beautiful. She has lost weight by eating healthily, and working out as said in the OP. no she is not starving herself or even taking pills.

To the pp wondering how she gained the weight, she was always a heavier "pudgy" kid. and then during middle school she put on more weight, but when puberty really hit, it kinda evened out and in a way distributed evenly so no one part of her body is "huge" but she is just "thicker" (not a great deal of belly/back fat) just an all over extra body weight.

And to the PP who asked what I look like, I am 5'10 266. so yes i am quite heavy too.

why do you keep insisting she is a size 14? do you really believe she can fit into clothes at a non-plus size store (which usually go up to 14, maybe 16?) it's comments like that that foster the 'denial' comments. there is NO WAY that someone who is 5'4 and 230 lbs wears a size 14. i realize that isn't what this thread is about, but the oversensitivity about the comments about her weight is likely related to the fact that you just don't see her in a realistic light - ie, morbidly obese and needing realistic help.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, she is not a size 14. Don't be ridiculous.

Thinking this is not an issue because she is "beautiful" is also stupid. This is a health issue, not a popularity contest.

My guess is that you have no idea what is really going on in her life or how she is losing the weight. Plug in NOW.

yes she is a 14/16. all of her clothes that either she purchases are either a 14 (or 16). depending on brand, but there is a pretty even mix of both sizes. and no they are not stretched out and forced to fit like one pp said. she (and I!) makes sure all her clothes fit properly and she does not go for the "muffin top" look. we even joke about her friend who is a size 4s laying down to squeeze into a size 0 when she is perfect at a 4 and you good (and generally better) wearing your size. i have been in a store with her, and if something doesnt fit she will get a larger size or just not get it. I did not say this is not an issue because she is beautiful, I was simply saying that as a person physically and socially (i guess is the term) she is beautiful. She has lost weight by eating healthily, and working out as said in the OP. no she is not starving herself or even taking pills.

To the pp wondering how she gained the weight, she was always a heavier "pudgy" kid. and then during middle school she put on more weight, but when puberty really hit, it kinda evened out and in a way distributed evenly so no one part of her body is "huge" but she is just "thicker" (not a great deal of belly/back fat) just an all over extra body weight.

And to the PP who asked what I look like, I am 5'10 266. so yes i am quite heavy too.

why do you keep insisting she is a size 14? do you really believe she can fit into clothes at a non-plus size store (which usually go up to 14, maybe 16?) it's comments like that that foster the 'denial' comments. there is NO WAY that someone who is 5'4 and 230 lbs wears a size 14. i realize that isn't what this thread is about, but the oversensitivity about the comments about her weight is likely related to the fact that you just don't see her in a realistic light - ie, morbidly obese and needing realistic help.

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Anonymous wrote:Look I am overweight, ok. I still think you are wrong. Why isn't she working with a nutritionist or a doctor anyway? She needs support. From a therapist or someone qualified as well as a nutritionist. I think you are massively underestimating how serious this is. She will likely gain the weight back without proper guidance. Just starving herself for a few months won't cut it. She could also develop an eating disorder out of the dieting as well.

Stop cutting out medical professionals who only want to help. If she's always been overweight, then do some soul searching as to why. If this is new, she may be reacting to serious underlying psychological/emotional issues. Focusing on the weight blurs that. She could have been molested for all you know. Either way, get off your ass and help your child.

Being defensive about them calling her obese (when she is nearly morbidly obese!) is ridiculous. She is obese. You should be worried.

Go away trollie.

NP here. The PP delivery is harsh, but her message is true. It's ridiculous the way DCUM throw the world troll around. If that child is on one of those crash diets, the weight will come back. and, it will be worst. Use the nutritionist. I am sure it is covered by the health insurance.

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Anonymous wrote:Also, she is not a size 14. Don't be ridiculous.

Thinking this is not an issue because she is "beautiful" is also stupid. This is a health issue, not a popularity contest.

My guess is that you have no idea what is really going on in her life or how she is losing the weight. Plug in NOW.

yes she is a 14/16. all of her clothes that either she purchases are either a 14 (or 16). depending on brand, but there is a pretty even mix of both sizes. and no they are not stretched out and forced to fit like one pp said. she (and I!) makes sure all her clothes fit properly and she does not go for the "muffin top" look. we even joke about her friend who is a size 4s laying down to squeeze into a size 0 when she is perfect at a 4 and you good (and generally better) wearing your size. i have been in a store with her, and if something doesnt fit she will get a larger size or just not get it. I did not say this is not an issue because she is beautiful, I was simply saying that as a person physically and socially (i guess is the term) she is beautiful. She has lost weight by eating healthily, and working out as said in the OP. no she is not starving herself or even taking pills.

To the pp wondering how she gained the weight, she was always a heavier "pudgy" kid. and then during middle school she put on more weight, but when puberty really hit, it kinda evened out and in a way distributed evenly so no one part of her body is "huge" but she is just "thicker" (not a great deal of belly/back fat) just an all over extra body weight.

And to the PP who asked what I look like, I am 5'10 266. so yes i am quite heavy too.

Anonymous wrote:So is she under a doctor's care for her hormonal imbalance and weight? When my bf/DH/child was on medication that affected weight, their weight was always monitored b/c excessive or being underweight could turn into a medical issue in addition to whatever they were being treated.

And no, from what you describe Children's was not being insensitive by bringing up your DD's weight when they treated her head injury.

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Anonymous wrote:Look I am overweight, ok. I still think you are wrong. Why isn't she working with a nutritionist or a doctor anyway? She needs support. From a therapist or someone qualified as well as a nutritionist. I think you are massively underestimating how serious this is. She will likely gain the weight back without proper guidance. Just starving herself for a few months won't cut it. She could also develop an eating disorder out of the dieting as well.

Stop cutting out medical professionals who only want to help. If she's always been overweight, then do some soul searching as to why. If this is new, she may be reacting to serious underlying psychological/emotional issues. Focusing on the weight blurs that. She could have been molested for all you know. Either way, get off your ass and help your child.

Being defensive about them calling her obese (when she is nearly morbidly obese!) is ridiculous. She is obese. You should be worried.

Go away trollie.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, I get the feeling OP is being over sensitive and prefer Children's not mention that her DD is obese at 5'4" and 240lbs because she's working on it. Unfortunately, ignoring the elephant in the room is probably how DD got so big in the first place.

I thought the same thing. HOW did such a young girl end up so incredibly, incredibly obese? It's almost like child abuse, feeding your child that much food.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Also, she is not a size 14. Don't be ridiculous.

Thinking this is not an issue because she is "beautiful" is also stupid. This is a health issue, not a popularity contest.

My guess is that you have no idea what is really going on in her life or how she is losing the weight. Plug in NOW.

yes she is a 14/16. all of her clothes that either she purchases are either a 14 (or 16). depending on brand, but there is a pretty even mix of both sizes. and no they are not stretched out and forced to fit like one pp said. she (and I!) makes sure all her clothes fit properly and she does not go for the "muffin top" look. we even joke about her friend who is a size 4s laying down to squeeze into a size 0 when she is perfect at a 4 and you good (and generally better) wearing your size. i have been in a store with her, and if something doesnt fit she will get a larger size or just not get it. I did not say this is not an issue because she is beautiful, I was simply saying that as a person physically and socially (i guess is the term) she is beautiful. She has lost weight by eating healthily, and working out as said in the OP. no she is not starving herself or even taking pills.

To the pp wondering how she gained the weight, she was always a heavier "pudgy" kid. and then during middle school she put on more weight, but when puberty really hit, it kinda evened out and in a way distributed evenly so no one part of her body is "huge" but she is just "thicker" (not a great deal of belly/back fat) just an all over extra body weight.

And to the PP who asked what I look like, I am 5'10 266. so yes i am quite heavy too.

So, you joke about another child's weight and appearance when you and your daughter are obese. Yet you're offended when nurses write the words "obese soft belly" to describe your child's "obese soft belly." Wow.