You are a PIG.

OP, maybe you need to do a bit more. I'd say sorry about all the open containers and left over food and then do a better job being a roommate.

Sounds like there are larger issues here that OP is addressing, but I wanted to add another voice to moldy citrus smelling awful and filling the entire house. OP, you should not be mad she found and threw them out.

OP, do you get along otherwise or are there other points of contention? If everything else is ok and she pays her bills on time, I think each of you can give a little to make this work. You can let her have the last two utensil slots, rinse your recyclables, put your leftover take-out in a gallon zip, and check the frig more often for moldy food. She can buy the gallon ziplocks/baking soda, and clean the common areas to her hearts content. She needs to keep her hands off your stuff otherwise. I've lived with worse roommates (sticky notes all over everything, dishes piled up high, missing food) and made it work. You mentioned there were kids living there. I wondering why they weren't mentioned as being part of the situation.

Anonymous wrote:I think:

1) Recipient of e-mail is a slob.
2) Sender of e-mail is is painstakingly polite about the fact that recipient is a slob.
3) Both roommates are lazy and have terrible eating habits.
4) The line about the 5 boxes of baking soda is a little passive aggressive.
5) The lecture about the recycling center is over the top.
6) Thank GOD I am past this stage of life.

+1

How can a clementine get moldy -- in the fridge -- within a week?

1502 She can use my spoons. You understand that I am not the one who has asked to have my clean silverware "segregated" after it comes out of the dishwasher - she has. Because, she says, she is afraid of losing it.

Those emails are so annoying. The best way to handle these things is through humor. Can you joke around with her and convince her to talk to you directly about her issues instead of through emails? What is up with that? Your roommate is nuts.

Anonymous wrote:No, 14 45, not really. I'm also a perfectly normal person who throws things away all the time. The point is that if MY mold-detection skills are ever lacking, I have an paid professional who comes in and throws things out.

I would probably wonder if she had me on the fridge complaint if it were just me - maybe I'm not being as attentive as I should? Maybe I missed something? But since I've got a professional ALSO managing my fridge, I think she's being a bit...,. hmmmm.... NUTS. Did you read the other emails from her?

Yes, I've read the other emails. Honestly, it sounds like both of you need to live alone. Granted, it's been a while since I've had a roommate other than my husband, but I just don't get having separate trash, separate silverware... the whole arrangement sounds a little goofy to me. Unless one of you is keeping kosher or something? I mean, why can't you use each other's spoons?

I am not at home, 14 55. But thanks for the tip....

14 51 are you saying that if one gets food from a restaurant, it's not normal practice to keep it in those containers while it's in the fridge? That most people would transfer food from a take out container to a regular container?

In the time you've taken to post all your roommate's messages, you could have cleaned out your fridge and taken out the trash. It seems like you keep posting her emails in the hopes we'll all side with you and call her crazy. Sure, a conversation would have been a better place to start. Agreed. But maybe she finds you difficult to talk to. And, from what she wrote, you are a slob.l

I can't believe you think it's okay to forbid your roommate from touching your moldy clementines. That mold will affect the rest of your food. I could see if she were doing something anal like tossing out your perfectly fine food before its expiration date. But she's not. You are not maintaining basic standards of cleanliness if you have rotting food. Get yourself some Tupperware for your takeout leftovers so you don't stink things up. And if you don't want her touching your stuff, don't let it get gross!

While I think the recycling lecture was a bit much, it seems like it was needed. How can you not know that you shouldn't leave food in your containers?! Yuck.

No, 14 45, not really. I'm also a perfectly normal person who throws things away all the time. The point is that if MY mold-detection skills are ever lacking, I have an paid professional who comes in and throws things out.

I would probably wonder if she had me on the fridge complaint if it were just me - maybe I'm not being as attentive as I should? Maybe I missed something? But since I've got a professional ALSO managing my fridge, I think she's being a bit...,. hmmmm.... NUTS. Did you read the other emails from her?

Oh my lord. You don't throw out rotting food in your fridge? You wait for the maid to do it? REALLY??

We've been roommates about two months.