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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

Wow so let me guess pp...with your ass backwards logic adoptive parents are also not "real" parents too huh? You are a complete ass!

Better being an ass than a dummy like you are. Nothing I said implied that adoptive parents are in the same boat as step-parents. Can't you losers see the difference? Adopted children have their adoptive parents listed as their parents. This is who their parents are. They have no other parents. Step-children in fact have "other" i.e. their only parents. Those could be adoptive or not, that's a totally separate issue. Nicole Kidman is a mother of children she adopted with Tom Cruise. Katie Holmes isn't. Or are you saying she is their mother, too?

A dummy? Atleast I am not a cold hearted bitch like you.. Good day lady, you are going to need all the help you can get in this life with a nasty attitude like yours.

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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

Wow so let me guess pp...with your ass backwards logic adoptive parents are also not "real" parents too huh? You are a complete ass!

Better being an ass than a dummy like you are. Nothing I said implied that adoptive parents are in the same boat as step-parents. Can't you losers see the difference? Adopted children have their adoptive parents listed as their parents. This is who their parents are. They have no other parents. Step-children in fact have "other" i.e. their only parents. Those could be adoptive or not, that's a totally separate issue. Nicole Kidman is a mother of children she adopted with Tom Cruise. Katie Holmes isn't. Or are you saying she is their mother, too?

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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

Wow so let me guess pp...with your ass backwards logic adoptive parents are also not "real" parents too huh? You are a complete ass!

Better being an ass than a dummy like you are. Nothing I said implied that adoptive parents are in the same boat as step-parents. Can't you losers see the difference? Adopted children have their adoptive parents listed as their parents. This is who their parents are. They have no other parents. Step-children in fact have "other" i.e. their only parents. Those could be adoptive or not, that's a totally separate issue. Nicole Kidman is a mother of children she adopted with Tom Cruise. Katie Holmes isn't. Or are you saying she is their mother, too?

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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

Wow so let me guess pp...with your ass backwards logic adoptive parents are also not "real" parents too huh? You are a complete ass!

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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

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Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Nobody here said that step-parents should not be posting. What has been said is that step-parents are not parents. They can be "parental figures", sure, just like teachers, priests, uncles etc can be. That doesn't make them parents, sorry.

Anonymous wrote:The poster on this thread who thinks that a step-parent should not be posting on a parenting website is nutty. Step-parenting is a form of parenting. I have both a mother and a step-mother and I think of them both as parental figures. I have a different relationship with each of them, but that is largely because they have very different personalities. There are some things that I go to my step-mother for advice about rather than my mother because in those areas she has more experience or a better track record of giving advice. I am closer to my mother, but I would never diminish the role that my step-mother played in my life. Love is not a limited commodity and a child can love more than two parental figures. It doesn't always happen with step-parents, but it is small-minded to think that it never does.

Anonymous wrote:And yes, I'm referring to the 29 y.o.,married to mid-life crisis guy, who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.) Then why the hell are you, and others like you, spending so much time here? it's bizarre. have you never heard of reddit?

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Anonymous wrote:You all need to quit harping on the 29 year old. You are coming off as pure, hateful SHREWS. Stop all this "Our younger sisters undermine us when they reward men for this behavior!" YOU reward men for "this behavior" when you jump on the second wives like banshees. I can't get over the woman bashing that goes on here in the name of sisterhood and solidarity. "Younger women need to support their older sisters!" The older sisters are just going to shit on them for their choices in marriage and family planning. No wonder these men don't want to be married to you anymore, I mean, my God. You are insufferable. A 13 page thread bashing the 29 year old wasn't enough, you must start another?

What are you talking about? Most of us "harping" on the 29yo who needs "romantic getaways to New England" to get sex started, have been married for many years with no divorce in sight.

And what comfortable consolation that must be.

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Anonymous wrote:You all need to quit harping on the 29 year old. You are coming off as pure, hateful SHREWS. Stop all this "Our younger sisters undermine us when they reward men for this behavior!" YOU reward men for "this behavior" when you jump on the second wives like banshees. I can't get over the woman bashing that goes on here in the name of sisterhood and solidarity. "Younger women need to support their older sisters!" The older sisters are just going to shit on them for their choices in marriage and family planning. No wonder these men don't want to be married to you anymore, I mean, my God. You are insufferable. A 13 page thread bashing the 29 year old wasn't enough, you must start another?

What are you talking about? Most of us "harping" on the 29yo who needs "romantic getaways to New England" to get sex started, have been married for many years with no divorce in sight.

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Anonymous wrote:And yes, I'm referring to the 29 y.o.,married to mid-life crisis guy, who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.) Then why the hell are you, and others like you, spending so much time here? it's bizarre. have you never heard of reddit?

She has step-children.

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Anonymous wrote:That's all well and good, but I don't appreciate non-parents posting parenting advice on those specific forums, because you really have NO IDEA what it's like to be a parent until you become one. None.

I am a parent, but I know of several people who have spawned children and have no clue about parenting. You are incredibly rude and stupid PP.

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Anonymous wrote:Not everyone wants bio kids, you know? Sure, it's not the norm, but people like that exist (I'm one of them).

29yo has no kids and no intention of ever having kids. It's not about bio kids at all - she is not planing to adopt.

Well, the original post made it sound like she was being discredited b/c she didn't have or want bio kids (said nothing about step kids or having no kids at all):

"who says she doesn't want her own biological children (yeah, right.)" and the bolded part makes the OP sound like he/she is in disbelief that someone might not want bio children.

Anyway, I don't know this 29 year old or if she's a stepmom or not, but I have friends who have step-kids and they are excellent parents (or parent-figures for those of you who apparently don't believe being a step-parent means you have kids), plus many of them have been step parents for way longer than I myself have been a parent.

Tell me of a legal document where the step-mother of a child is listed under the rubric 'mother'.

OMG. You're probably the kind of person who always uses qualifiers- "she's an adoptive parent," "their step-children," "his half-brother," and so on. There are many, many step-parents who fill the role of "parent" better than the biological parent. Sure this 29 year old may only be a "stepmom" but who, besides you, cares?