Anonymous
08/29/2012 15:44
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
OP here. First post since my original post. Stepmom isn't some hot young thing. No jealousy there. We'd been split for years when they met. I didn't contact the pediatrician but the topic came up in a discussion about other things and the pediatrician sounded like my ex needed a reminder on a few dating/boundary basics. My son has mentioned boundary issues to me with regard to their sleeping arrangements and other things. He's all I care about here. Really when it comes to stepmoms and bio moms, too many people are looking for a cat fight. That said, if I dated a man with a teenage son, I'm not sleeping in the same bed in the same hotel room with his dad. I don't think it's cool. YMMV.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 23:05
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
i can see much more in a pair of tighty whities than i ever could at the pool.
love the nanny analogy. for some reason, i am thinking of old governor arnold and maria with that one. the stepmom needs to put on some pants.
love the nanny analogy. for some reason, i am thinking of old governor arnold and maria with that one. the stepmom needs to put on some pants.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 23:04
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
i can see much more in a pair of tighty whities than i ever could at the pool.
love the nanny analogy. for some reason, i am thinking of old governor arnold and maria with that one. the stepmom needs to put on some pants.
love the nanny analogy. for some reason, i am thinking of old governor arnold and maria with that one. the stepmom needs to put on some pants.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 22:09
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
This is one of the funniest threads I've read in a long time. I love the OP consulting the pediatrician about it (although I doubt it happened).
When do they teach this in medical school?
When do they teach this in medical school?
Anonymous
08/28/2012 16:03
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
But she wasn't naked. All her lady bits were covered. You're arguing details. If its ao wrong for him to see his stepmom is panties and a T then the OP should just go that extra mile and say her son should never see this woman in a bikini.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 15:54
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Anonymous wrote:This is clearly a debate between conservative people an people with two firing brain cells rubbing together. Did it ever occur to the ones among you who cry inappropriatness that we're born naked and if you spent less time making nudity taboo that this would be less of an issue?
I disagree and I'm about as sexually liberated/nudity friendly as they come. My kids are taught the facts of life in age appropriate terms from baby hood. I walk around my house - in front of my girls- naked all the time (some day they will complain to their therapists I am sure). And they are welcome to be naked whenever THEY like. But there's a time and a place for everything. We would not walk around naked in front of an adult male, or any unrelated male, or really probably any male. Now I hope my girls totally enjoy walking around naked in front of whatever man they wish. But a stepmom should not be wearing her panties in front of a teen. Heck if MY son were a teen I'd probably try to show a little more sensitivity and wear some pants around him.
There's a time and a place and appropriate relationships for nudity or underwear showing. Stepmom is not one of them.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 15:46
Subject: Re:Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
The more I read this thread, the more I'm convinced stepmom is very hot, very young and probably the reason OP is now the ex.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 15:18
Subject: Re:Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:As a stepmom who shared a hotel room with DH and DSS, and as a child who shared a hotel room with brother and parents, the only thing inappropriate is the panties piece. Pajama bottoms, sweats, shorts, all good. Underwear, not cool.
Really? How do you know it's not a long t-shirt that covers up her bottom as much as a pair of shorts or boxers would? Overreacting much??
OP, you sound jealous and controlling.
No, I'm a stepmom too with a teenage DSS and I would NEVER walk around the house or a hotel room in my underwear when he was there. That really is not appropriate. Getting the pediatrician to send a letter and demanding separate hotel rooms = way overboard. Bio mom needs to simmer down there. But saying, "Hey, would you mind please not walking around in your underwear around my kid" is totally fine. Stepmom shouldn't need to be told that.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 12:34
Subject: Re:Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Anonymous wrote:As a stepmom who shared a hotel room with DH and DSS, and as a child who shared a hotel room with brother and parents, the only thing inappropriate is the panties piece. Pajama bottoms, sweats, shorts, all good. Underwear, not cool.
Really? How do you know it's not a long t-shirt that covers up her bottom as much as a pair of shorts or boxers would? Overreacting much??
OP, you sound jealous and controlling.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 12:23
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Anonymous wrote:If the kid is getting turned on by his stepmom, that is gross. And not a healthy sexual conflict for him.
If he's a teen male and she's not repulsive, walking around in her panties, that's going to be, at the very least, distracting.
Step mom needs to show some respect and sensativity to her hormonal SON and put on some damn pants.
The step mom does not have to be hot or semi-nude for the boy to be turned on by her. That she is female and not his mother is generally enough. At some point during his adolescence he will more likely than not experience an attraction to his step mother. That is going to be embarrassing, perhaps even deeply troubling to him, and you are not doing him any favors by pathlologizing it any more than she would by prancing around in sexy lingerie (not that there is any evidence she is doing that.)
Anonymous
08/28/2012 08:35
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
If the kid is getting turned on by his stepmom, that is gross. And not a healthy sexual conflict for him.
If he's a teen male and she's not repulsive, walking around in her panties, that's going to be, at the very least, distracting.
Step mom needs to show some respect and sensativity to her hormonal SON and put on some damn pants.
If he's a teen male and she's not repulsive, walking around in her panties, that's going to be, at the very least, distracting.
Step mom needs to show some respect and sensativity to her hormonal SON and put on some damn pants.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 07:08
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Anonymous wrote:Yes. I try hard :p
I assume you're not advocating sexy lingerie in this instance because that would be silly.
No I am just suggesting the women may have boundary issues and I doubt she had granny panies on.
I am all for nudity when appropriate but this is not an appropriate place. I would not want my nanny walking around in her underwear while caring for my child.
You would be fine with a nanny coming down from her room in a tshirt and underwear?
Boundaries....
Anonymous
08/28/2012 07:01
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
Yes. I try hard :p
I assume you're not advocating sexy lingerie in this instance because that would be silly.
I assume you're not advocating sexy lingerie in this instance because that would be silly.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 06:50
Subject: Re:Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
You are pro nudity and pro granny panies. That's odd.
Anonymous
08/28/2012 06:01
Subject: Teen, Male, Sleeping with Dad and Stepmom in Same Hotel Room
This is clearly a debate between conservative people an people with two firing brain cells rubbing together. Did it ever occur to the ones among you who cry inappropriatness that we're born naked and if you spent less time making nudity taboo that this would be less of an issue?
Granted I don't particularly want to see my parents naked bits but in the end it IS just another naked body. The problem stems more from the OP making a big deal of it. Have none of you ever realized that children are blank slates?
If you teach them that nudity(not that this woman was nude) is a fact of life but there are minimum social standards to adhere to then they will be less likely to treat te subject like a "forbidden fruit". This requires creative teaching on the part of the parent and vigilance to ensure the proper lesson is learned.
I'd be more concerned if the son came home reporting funny sounds emanating from the other bed than I would be about panties versus shorts.
And if your panties are so thin that they cover nothing or are see through one of two things is true; you're wearing lingerie or you need to purchase new underware and stop being a cheap redneck.
Granted I don't particularly want to see my parents naked bits but in the end it IS just another naked body. The problem stems more from the OP making a big deal of it. Have none of you ever realized that children are blank slates?
If you teach them that nudity(not that this woman was nude) is a fact of life but there are minimum social standards to adhere to then they will be less likely to treat te subject like a "forbidden fruit". This requires creative teaching on the part of the parent and vigilance to ensure the proper lesson is learned.
I'd be more concerned if the son came home reporting funny sounds emanating from the other bed than I would be about panties versus shorts.
And if your panties are so thin that they cover nothing or are see through one of two things is true; you're wearing lingerie or you need to purchase new underware and stop being a cheap redneck.