DH works a non-trad schedule so there are several days a week (and many evenings) where one of us is AT work and one is at home with DD.
Phone call = life or death situation.
text = for quick questions or status updates (running late, did paycheck get deposited, please p/u milk). Frequency varies depending on the day. If one of us is at home, usually 1 pic/day of something cute DD did. If we're both at work, it depends how busy we are.
We are both in industries where stretches of "OMG busy busy gotta go" are followed by "OM I'm bored. What are you doing?"

DH and I chitchat on Gchat a couple of times during the day, usually just to say I love you or he'll ask what I need from the grocery store (he walks past it on his way home). Last week he was sending me a bunch of links to funk songs on YouTube because we had been talking about the genre the night before.

Almost never. We spend almost all of our non-work time together, so I think we both appreciate the time apart.

Only if I need to know something from him right away. In that case, "do you know so-and-so's number?... thanks, bye. ILY." Once in a while (may be once/month?) if we argue in the morning, I'll send him an "I love you" text just so I won't be thinking about it all day. I'll email him articles that directly relate to his job. Usually he'll call me from the car on his way home and we'll make evening plans then.

Anonymous wrote:WOW! We never talk unless it's an emergency.

Really folks??? What all do you talk reaching each other 2,4 times a day?

What do you talk when you get home, then???

How would you feel if your nanny or care provider were talking with their spouse that often while watching your kids?

Um, my job is not nearly as important as a nanny or a DCP. I work in spreadsheets all day. Its not like I'm an ER doc or something.

I talk to my Dh about 2xs a day. We often call each other to check in just to say hi, or (gasp!) I love you.

What do we talk about when we get home? Are you serious? If you have nothing of interenst that you want to talk to your spouse about, then that sounds like a pretty miserable marriage. I dunno, last night we talked about the presidential election for a bit, we talked about our camping trip this weekend, and we talked about him possibly getting laid off soon and his action plan to look for a new job before cuts start happening and ways that we could cut our own spending in anticipation.

Depends on what's going on, but generally some kind of contact a couple of times a day, though. ot usually any just 'how are you' calls. But I'll email any time something (Dr apt, paren/teacher conference, etc.) gets put on the calendar - sending it to his work email is my best chance of getting it on *his* calendar. Random other emails as well - since DH basically doesn't check his personal email, his work one is my default fo contacting him.

And then generally a call almost every day around 5ish to check on the evening. DH's schedule / commute times are unpredictable, but generally by then he can give me a good sense of his schedule for that evening.

If something is going on. Email or text usually, may send a funny article if I see one.

It's funny how many pps respond with "DH is my best friend", so what? that gives you the license to crawl up his ass and camp there?. I have a best friend, and no it's not DH but I don't talk to her multiple times a day because she's my best friend.

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have been married for 20+ yrs, two kids,... We talk at least 2x a day. We don't email or text and there's plenty to talk about. Probably why we're still married.

Yeah, we have the same stats and have little to talk about, especially AT work. Aren't you too busy at work to talk much?

Maybe once. Some days, not at all. Ten minutes. Email a lot though.

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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.

are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.

I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..

I like that you insult people and call them needy, judging other peoples relationships is always super healthy.

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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.

are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.

I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..

No, you are normal actually.

Varies. Some days nothing. Other days e-mail. If something is going on we might e-mail or call. No time limit on calls. It depends on what we have going on with work and what we have going on life-wise. Right now we are building a house, so we are in touch whenever he's not in court and whenever I'm not in meetings or on conference calls.

We don't do "Oh, honey, how is your day?" calls though.

Anonymous wrote:I might call once or twice a week if I need some information that is time sensitive. DH is the same. We probably e-mail about the same. My DH does have this habit of calling every day before he leaves his office, as he is shutting down his computer, to tell me that he is coming home. I am usually in the middle of something and have to stop what I am doing to go find the phone to answer it. It drives me crazy to have to say, "Great. We'll see you soon" every day. Just come home already. I don't need advance warning.

Ever thought of telling him?

When DH is in court, which is a lot, we don't talk until he calls when leaving work. Other days, we email about random stuff - what I'm doing, what DD is doing, things one of us saw online, etc. small talk via email I guess you'd say. I rarely call him though bc he often has clients in his office.

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I don't know - I just don't see the need to talk several times a day, everyday.

There doesn't have to be a need for some of us. I love talking to my husband - he is my best friend.

are you calling each other from your desks at work? Or are you home and bored/needing adult interaction? I'm not trying to be mean, it just seems like talking several times a day every day would be a distraction during a work day. My husband starts sounding aggravated if I call him more than once during a work day, and I know there are days I am too busy to be taking several phone calls.

I think there are some personalities that are more needy than others. FWIW, I SAHM with three kids and I don't call my husband unless it is imperative I speak to him-I mostly email/text to confirm events, appts etc but we both could live without the How are you hon? How is your day? conversations, we have those in the evening. We laugh at people who do that in the same way couples post on FB with I love you sweetie, miss you, etc. Maybe we are weird..