Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 08:31     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:Sometimes weddings bring out the tacky in people.

Some of my co-workers behaved horribly on purpose at the wedding of another co-worker. She was obviously (according to them) being movie-bride fake, and they were having a super time mocking her openly to the extent that she noticed what they were doing.

Just pure meanness. I can't understand what's so hard about letting a bride having her special day.


That's mean! I'd just not go if I really didn't like the person...
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 08:30     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It's rude, but was your wedding ruined?

At our wedding, which was supposed to be "no kids", one of Dh's co-workers showed up with his 2 little girls.

I was a little surprised when I saw them, but honestly--they were very well behaved. I have no idea what happened with the seating, as the table the co-worker and his wife were assigned to was full...I'm sure the owner of my venue was just able to smooth it over so it didn't become my concern.

My mom told me later that the co-workers wife approached her, very embarrassed, apolgozing because she didn't realize that kids were not expected--of course my mom told her it was fine and complimented how well behaved the girls were, how pretty they looked in their nice dresses, etc.


So it sounds like you and your mother handled it with some style and class. Good for you--sometimes people do just make mistakes. And good for the woman to approach your mother and apologize as well.


Agree, it sounds like an honest mistake! I think everyone handled it well. The woman apologized to your mother instead of bothering you about it, and your mother was gracious.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 08:27     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, this is typical in Filipino culture. Also some middle easterners do this.


And was the wedding in the Philippines or the Middle East?


No, are you really that dense? I was responding to the poster who said they had a filipina guest that did this and merely pointing out that there are certain cultures where this is normal. In case you didn't realize we live in a multicultural society and not everyone learns and adapts all american customs the day they arrive at Ellis island. It's part of the beauty of this country.


Ha! American customs. As if there is such a thing from a country made up of other people.


It's a world made up of countries made up of other people. You know nobody's actually "from" the country they think they're from, right?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 08:24     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Sometimes weddings bring out the tacky in people.

Some of my co-workers behaved horribly on purpose at the wedding of another co-worker. She was obviously (according to them) being movie-bride fake, and they were having a super time mocking her openly to the extent that she noticed what they were doing.

Just pure meanness. I can't understand what's so hard about letting a bride having her special day.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 08:10     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:We had our wedding in key west with very close friends and family only, no 'extras'. We had three people ask us if they could bring a date and we said no due to the small wedding we wanted to have and locale, budget, etc. all three brought the others and no gifts, which is beyond tacky. At any rate, we were really irritated at the time but what do you do at your own wedding? You move on and get over it. It has been 7 years for us and I no longer care.


Actually I sympathize with your guests here. If you are going to have a destination wedding and expect people to travel then the least you can do is spring for a dinner for their significant other.


I was going to give a similar reply to this post. By the time they flew to Key West, rented cars and rooms you're lucky they showed up. I had friends who didn't give gifts and rented cars to drive 1.5 hours plus hotel rooms. Had us over for a nice dinner and paid a bar bill whatever. I assume the date bringers were not established aunts/uncle types. Traveling to Key West isn't cheap.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 06:51     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I am a little confused your subject line asks what to do but then in the body you imply the wedding has already happened. If it's happened, then nothing needs to be done. ???


The subject line asks what to do TO the friend. That's the best part.

I agree with the poster who thinks this is Sad Bride. OP, maybe they took your flowers and ran with them.


Agreed, this thread makes no sense. OP just trying to kill time?
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 00:45     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:OP I am a little confused your subject line asks what to do but then in the body you imply the wedding has already happened. If it's happened, then nothing needs to be done. ???


The subject line asks what to do TO the friend. That's the best part.

I agree with the poster who thinks this is Sad Bride. OP, maybe they took your flowers and ran with them.
Anonymous
Post 08/09/2012 00:28     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:It could have been worse. A colleague told me a story about one of her closest friends. People the bride only sort of knew, or didn't know at all, started RSVPing to her wedding. She had no idea what was going on, until one of these folks told her that her mother had invited them. Mom hadn't been happy with the invite list, so had made duplicates of the invitation and mailed them to the people she thought should have been invited - to the tune of several dozen extra guests. Mom also had no budget to help pay for these additions (bride and groom were covering wedding costs). I never heard how the happy couple resolved this issue (they were trying to dis-invite people over mom's objections at the time of the story).


Wow. I do not know how the couple could forgive that huge breach of boundaries.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 23:51     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
It could have been worse. A colleague told me a story about one of her closest friends. People the bride only sort of knew, or didn't know at all, started RSVPing to her wedding. She had no idea what was going on, until one of these folks told her that her mother had invited them. Mom hadn't been happy with the invite list, so had made duplicates of the invitation and mailed them to the people she thought should have been invited - to the tune of several dozen extra guests. Mom also had no budget to help pay for these additions (bride and groom were covering wedding costs). I never heard how the happy couple resolved this issue (they were trying to dis-invite people over mom's objections at the time of the story).
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 23:33     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
I think if the two extra are Owen Wilson and Vince Vaughn, then it is technically okay.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 22:54     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Bouquet bride?? Is that you??
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 20:09     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Ask friend on Facebook (publicly) if they are in a polyamourous relationship and tell them you are cool with it and can't wait to see all 3 of them.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 19:09     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, this is typical in Filipino culture. Also some middle easterners do this.


And was the wedding in the Philippines or the Middle East?


No, are you really that dense? I was responding to the poster who said they had a filipina guest that did this and merely pointing out that there are certain cultures where this is normal. In case you didn't realize we live in a multicultural society and not everyone learns and adapts all american customs the day they arrive at Ellis island. It's part of the beauty of this country.


Ha! American customs. As if there is such a thing from a country made up of other people.


You have got to be kidding.
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 19:09     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:OP I am a little confused your subject line asks what to do but then in the body you imply the wedding has already happened. If it's happened, then nothing needs to be done. ???

TP her house or car?
Anonymous
Post 08/08/2012 19:02     Subject: What to do to friend who invited 2 "others" to our wedding without our permission?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Where did they seat?


Luckily we had budgeted for 6 extra plates just incase...am just wondering what they would have done if we didn't


Thank you so much for bong. Please excuses, but I need to say hello to some invited gurstd."

The two uninvited people are also clueless


Well, if they'd brought a BONG that would have been a whole nother story!