Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black-outs from drinking??? Sounds like you have an alcoholic sharing a bed with you. Or as others have suggested, a lying cheater. Take your pick. Either way, you have a mess on your hands that cannot be willed away with magical thinking.

Give me a break. It doesn't make you an alcoholic just because you black out. If it happens frequently that is one thing but just the fact of a black out doesn't mean anything.

OP said that this wasn't DH's first black out.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Black-outs from drinking??? Sounds like you have an alcoholic sharing a bed with you. Or as others have suggested, a lying cheater. Take your pick. Either way, you have a mess on your hands that cannot be willed away with magical thinking.

Give me a break. It doesn't make you an alcoholic just because you black out. If it happens frequently that is one thing but just the fact of a black out doesn't mean anything.

So says the alcoholic who likes to get blind drunk and then claim she doesn't have a drinking problem.

Anonymous wrote:Black-outs from drinking??? Sounds like you have an alcoholic sharing a bed with you. Or as others have suggested, a lying cheater. Take your pick. Either way, you have a mess on your hands that cannot be willed away with magical thinking.

Give me a break. It doesn't make you an alcoholic just because you black out. If it happens frequently that is one thing but just the fact of a black out doesn't mean anything.

Black-outs from drinking??? Sounds like you have an alcoholic sharing a bed with you. Or as others have suggested, a lying cheater. Take your pick. Either way, you have a mess on your hands that cannot be willed away with magical thinking.

In Soviet Russia, hickeys give you strippers.

A stripped gave him a hickey? Pics or it didn't happen.

"If he slips up again I'd seriously threaten him with your departure because a married man going out and getting blinding drunk with his buddies to the point where he disrespects you in any way is totally unacceptable."

OP said that this isn't DH's first black out......

i would go all PI on his ass. FInd out which strip club, check credit card receipts, check texts, etc. If signs don't point to an affair, I'm betting he got drunk and hooked up with some other chick--which really is the same as hooking up with a stripper, i mean, its no better/worse I guess.

No everyone is wrong, he is gay and his friends are his lovers

Anonymous wrote:Contact the friend. Ask him. He'll probably lie. Tell you're husband you're taking him to the bar so you can ask the stripper.

Yeah, I think this would at least open up some dialogue-- but you need to take the friend AND the husband because the husband claims he blacked out and doesn't remember but the friend was apparently sober enough to recognize that things were getting too friendly and took your husband home, right?

And I agree with another PP- take a pic of that hickey in case you decide to split...

But seriously... I think you have a right to be upset, and he needs to take this seriously. I can't put myself in your shoes but if you really believe he is a good man and won't do it again and you don't want to split up, give him a few months to stop drinking and prove to you he can go out with his buddies and be responsible about it. Once he gets his behaviour under control and you start to trust him again-well, time heals and trust grows.

If he slips up again I'd seriously threaten him with your departure because a married man going out and getting blinding drunk with his buddies to the point where he disrespects you in any way is totally unacceptable.

I put my money on making out with random girl at bar with stripper as cover story. Friends probably tore him away before it went farther.