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Anonymous wrote:Yes! And I have. The sex was amazing and I was really happy I did it. DH didn't find out and I don't feel guilty.

how cold-hearted and vicious. I feel bad for your unwitting husband.

You don't know her husband. I feel the same though. I'd only feel guilty if DH found out. If he didn't know it's kind of like it never happened.

Wow.

If more men read this board, very few would get married. Many women basically are quite ok with fucking around as long as they don't get in trouble. The vows of their marriage seem to mean nothing.

Oh PLEASE. It's just that more women are on this board. Men are the same if not much worse.

Anonymous wrote:I have to travel overseas about twice a year to various places in Europe. On about half of those trips I let myself get picked up by a local man, sometimes a local couple.

hubby has no idea, huh

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! And I have. The sex was amazing and I was really happy I did it. DH didn't find out and I don't feel guilty.

how cold-hearted and vicious. I feel bad for your unwitting husband.

You don't know her husband. I feel the same though. I'd only feel guilty if DH found out. If he didn't know it's kind of like it never happened.

Wow.

If more men read this board, very few would get married. Many women basically are quite ok with fucking around as long as they don't get in trouble. The vows of their marriage seem to mean nothing.

I didn't when I was single I doubt I would now.

I have to travel overseas about twice a year to various places in Europe. On about half of those trips I let myself get picked up by a local man, sometimes a local couple.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes! And I have. The sex was amazing and I was really happy I did it. DH didn't find out and I don't feel guilty.

how cold-hearted and vicious. I feel bad for your unwitting husband.

You don't know her husband. I feel the same though. I'd only feel guilty if DH found out. If he didn't know it's kind of like it never happened.

Anonymous wrote:As exquisite as the act could possibly be, the instant after would be the worst moment in life.

And it would never go away.

Maybe for you, but not for me. I would continue to enjoy the memory.

As exquisite as the act could possibly be, the instant after would be the worst moment in life.

And it would never go away.

Anonymous wrote:Yes! And I have. The sex was amazing and I was really happy I did it. DH didn't find out and I don't feel guilty.

how cold-hearted and vicious. I feel bad for your unwitting husband.

Anonymous wrote:Any of you military pilots?

You know how to tell if there is a pilot in the room?















Dont worry, they'll tell you!

My DH did this. Thought I wouldn't find out but got a random call a few months later from her husband. It completely blew our relationship up, his job found out somehow and everyone at his office knew. He had to change jobs and we've done a ton of work on our relationship. I think we're at a good point now, but it was awful for all of us for a long time. I bet he wishes he'd either not done or covered his bases a lot better. He really thought it would never catch up with him.

Any of you military pilots?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. But the guilt would plague me to the grave. I'd still do it though--with the right person, I'd have a full blown affair. And I know that my DH would forgive me because he knows I am deeply unhappy with him sexually. And he wants me to be happy.

DO you just not have sex? is he a cripple? Tell us more.

Yes, we have it very, very infrequently, missionary position. He just is not and never has been into sex that much and he's very squeamish about experimentation. We have talked about it ad nauseam. He knows he has let me down, big time. But he is incapable of doing anything about it. In my marriage, sex is passable, occasionally really good even, but exceedingly rare.

Wow, I feel for you....did you post about this previously? You sort of had to know this pre-marriage, no?

I am in the same boat. No, she didn't know before "I do" because he wittingly or unwittingly concealed his low-libido condition just like my DH. Otherwise these guys could have never locked up 8s like us.

This is me, too. However, it would really hurt my DH so I wouldn't do it and I'd feel terrible about it also.. Just not worth the guilt.

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Anonymous wrote:I've learned that life is one long series of disappointment and interruption and regret. So yes, I would. Do it. Use all available protection and no last names.

I am another woman but I think I love you. So sick of the Pollyannas who pretend that life after marriage is worthwhile.

I'm sorry if your marriage is not a good one, truly. As much as it may seem on this board that everyone has a bad marriage, there are actually couples out there that do have happy and loving marriages, AND a good sex life in which they do not feel the need to stray. It's really not pretending for all

I don't know, I tend to separate/compartmentalize sex and love so I would probably go for it. To me, it would have nothing to do with my feelings for DH so no big deal.

The guy has to be drop dead though, say Brad Pitt