Anonymous
Post 06/20/2012 12:55     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think what your asking is whether some foods are too expensive to share with a crowd of kids, and my response is "hell yes." If I'm baking a batch of cupcakes for school, I'm not going to use the expensive chocolate and other ingredients. And if I'm having several families over for dinner, I'm also not going to make anything extremely pricey. But I do want my child to have a sophisticated palette and will share expensive, good-quality food with him. Although I just realized the other day that I've never bought us filet mignon - he's tasted it before, but I just can't buy him a $25 piece of meat that he'll eat in one sitting.


This is why I want birthday food banned at our school. I spent $50 to make healthy (real) cupcakes for one child's class because I figured at least once (though hopefully more), out of 24 times, they aren't eating partially hydrogenated junk.

Same with parties/playdates. I've had a few friends snicker that I bought the "good" or "expensive" cookies, but it's the only thing I can do in good conscience.


It was your choice to spend $50 on class cupcakes (BTW, seriously??). I hope you manage to keep your kid from eating "partially hydrogenated junk" throughout his life, but don't do it at the expense of the other kids and their fun. I guess I'm trying to say: get the stick out of your ass and let your kid have some fun.
Anonymous
Post 06/20/2012 12:50     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:I think what your asking is whether some foods are too expensive to share with a crowd of kids, and my response is "hell yes." If I'm baking a batch of cupcakes for school, I'm not going to use the expensive chocolate and other ingredients. And if I'm having several families over for dinner, I'm also not going to make anything extremely pricey. But I do want my child to have a sophisticated palette and will share expensive, good-quality food with him. Although I just realized the other day that I've never bought us filet mignon - he's tasted it before, but I just can't buy him a $25 piece of meat that he'll eat in one sitting.


This is why I want birthday food banned at our school. I spent $50 to make healthy (real) cupcakes for one child's class because I figured at least once (though hopefully more), out of 24 times, they aren't eating partially hydrogenated junk.

Same with parties/playdates. I've had a few friends snicker that I bought the "good" or "expensive" cookies, but it's the only thing I can do in good conscience.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2012 15:56     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:Kids often waste most of the food on their plate. I don't think PPs are assholes for not wanting to potentially throw away $20, 30, 50 dollars worth of food just so junior can have a taste. We don't all have a limitless budget on DCUM. I will let a child try anything from my plate, but no, I am not going to prepare a lobster for a child who I know will eat ONE BITE and be done, just for the sake of developing his palate.


Am I the only parent who would just finish off what junior doesn't?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2012 15:52     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:I feel like in my family, we sort of do the opposite of what OP is asking about. Like I just bought a 12 pack of ramen to have on hand for cheap easy work lunches. But I don't want my kids eating that crap. And I notice that we'll buy beautiful fruit that is such a treat for the kids that I save it for them and never end up eating any.


This is me too. I save all the nice organic berries for dd and I eat the bananas. But my kid won't touch lobster, oysters or filet mignon (in an appreciable quantity) anyway.
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2012 10:35     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is such a funny thread. When most of us were growing up, it was assumed (in my world, at least) that it was totally acceptable for adults to have things that kids could not. Resources were not unlimited and adults and kids were not equals. My parents never "withheld" things from me, but I did not expect that I could order anything I wanted from the menu and I understood that they might have a party at which I ate the "kids" food while the adults ate stuff that was more complex and I probably wouldn't want anyway. I grew up to be a big traveler and an adventurous eater, but learned to do this in my own time and on my own dime.

This debate seems to be about more than food. It is rather about whether or not your life is about you and your kids abide in it. Or your life is about your kids and you abide in it. I think we have lost a lot of the pleasure of being an adult (with adult friends, adult interests, adult conversation, etc.) because we no longer live our lives and let our kids metaphorically sit at the "kids" table with each other and work things out amongst themselves. I am not sure that the overwhelming child-centeredness of modern life is doing them any favors.



Weird.


How?
Anonymous
Post 06/16/2012 10:14     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:This is such a funny thread. When most of us were growing up, it was assumed (in my world, at least) that it was totally acceptable for adults to have things that kids could not. Resources were not unlimited and adults and kids were not equals. My parents never "withheld" things from me, but I did not expect that I could order anything I wanted from the menu and I understood that they might have a party at which I ate the "kids" food while the adults ate stuff that was more complex and I probably wouldn't want anyway. I grew up to be a big traveler and an adventurous eater, but learned to do this in my own time and on my own dime.

This debate seems to be about more than food. It is rather about whether or not your life is about you and your kids abide in it. Or your life is about your kids and you abide in it. I think we have lost a lot of the pleasure of being an adult (with adult friends, adult interests, adult conversation, etc.) because we no longer live our lives and let our kids metaphorically sit at the "kids" table with each other and work things out amongst themselves. I am not sure that the overwhelming child-centeredness of modern life is doing them any favors.



Weird.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 20:23     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
This is such a funny thread. When most of us were growing up, it was assumed (in my world, at least) that it was totally acceptable for adults to have things that kids could not. Resources were not unlimited and adults and kids were not equals. My parents never "withheld" things from me, but I did not expect that I could order anything I wanted from the menu and I understood that they might have a party at which I ate the "kids" food while the adults ate stuff that was more complex and I probably wouldn't want anyway. I grew up to be a big traveler and an adventurous eater, but learned to do this in my own time and on my own dime.

This debate seems to be about more than food. It is rather about whether or not your life is about you and your kids abide in it. Or your life is about your kids and you abide in it. I think we have lost a lot of the pleasure of being an adult (with adult friends, adult interests, adult conversation, etc.) because we no longer live our lives and let our kids metaphorically sit at the "kids" table with each other and work things out amongst themselves. I am not sure that the overwhelming child-centeredness of modern life is doing them any favors.

Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 16:05     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
like with everything else, i take a happy medium approach. we encourage our kid to try everything and i'd be thrilled if he liked sushi, etc. he doesn't and i refuse to push it because i'd rather try again in a low key way from time to time. that said, i love raspberry chocolate chip ice cream -- he is welcome to have some and if he likes it, great. but i also know that he'd much rather have chocolate so i save most of the stuff i like for me and he can have the (generally less expensive) stuff he likes more.

i guess that makes me an asshole? i'm ok with that (even if i can't brag about my kid's sophisticated palate).

Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 14:37     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I would make a berry sorbet to compliment your chocolate ice cream, then give guests a choice.

Chances are, most of the kids (and some of the adults) will only want one or the other. Your adult guests are probably just as likely to not eat it as the kids; not everyone likes chocolate.


Your solution to the OP's question about whether to serve an expensive dessert to kids is for her to make a second dessert, because some people don't like chocolate?

Uh - OK?


She was asking if she should make one anyways, did you read her post? That way, anyone who LOOOVES chocolate, gets chocolate, but anyone (including kids) who prefers a brightly colored dessert (most kids would, right?) will choose that instead. It's a solution without answering her question
Most kids woudl prefer berry sorbet to chocolate ice cream? Not in my universe.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 14:36     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP I would make a berry sorbet to compliment your chocolate ice cream, then give guests a choice.

Chances are, most of the kids (and some of the adults) will only want one or the other. Your adult guests are probably just as likely to not eat it as the kids; not everyone likes chocolate.


Your solution to the OP's question about whether to serve an expensive dessert to kids is for her to make a second dessert, because some people don't like chocolate?

Uh - OK?


She was asking if she should make one anyways, did you read her post? That way, anyone who LOOOVES chocolate, gets chocolate, but anyone (including kids) who prefers a brightly colored dessert (most kids would, right?) will choose that instead. It's a solution without answering her question
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 14:34     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
Anonymous wrote:OP I would make a berry sorbet to compliment your chocolate ice cream, then give guests a choice.

Chances are, most of the kids (and some of the adults) will only want one or the other. Your adult guests are probably just as likely to not eat it as the kids; not everyone likes chocolate.


Your solution to the OP's question about whether to serve an expensive dessert to kids is for her to make a second dessert, because some people don't like chocolate?

Uh - OK?
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 14:26     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
OP I would make a berry sorbet to compliment your chocolate ice cream, then give guests a choice.

Chances are, most of the kids (and some of the adults) will only want one or the other. Your adult guests are probably just as likely to not eat it as the kids; not everyone likes chocolate.
Anonymous
Post 06/15/2012 14:01     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
I get both sides of this. Stone crab poster, I totally hear you. It's OK to do this as a special treat for just the two of you.

If there's some sort of sophisticated palette thing going on anywhere near my plate, it is offered up to the children to try. If they love it, terrific. If not, no big deal. Tastes change.

-Mom whose kid's favorite food is sushi, even though it's an expensive rare treat.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2012 22:07     Subject: Re:Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
I understand not wanting to buy something super expensive if the kid won't appreciate it, as in he will eat it but he would have been happier with something cheaper. But I don't understand not wanting to prepare it because he might not eat it. If you prepare it and he doesn't eat it, don't you save it and eat it for lunch yourself the next day? It's not as good but at least you don't throw it out.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2012 15:58     Subject: Are there foods you consider too good for kids?
yes, I always offer a bite of my steak (filet mignon is my favorite) or lobster (lobster rolls, mmm) to my daughter but I'm usually relieved when she doesn't accept. More for me!! Also, I will stash the really pricey chocolate and only give her a taste or give her less expensive chocolate. She doesn't tend to like the dark chocolate I like as much as I do, anyway.

I do want her to grow up with an appreciation for good food, but when a lobster roll is $22 at Coastal Flats, I'd prefer to eat every last delicious bite myself.